Let?s say for example,
1) Bob, Liz, and Mike went to school in Savannah, Georgia.
2) Bob and Liz both moved away after graduation, but Mike stayed in Georgia.
3) Bob moved to New Jersey and worked in New York (Manhattan).
4) Liz moved to Washington DC to work there after graduation.
5) Bob changed jobs and moved from New Jersey to Washington DC.
6) Bob and Liz work together for a year and a half.
7) Liz gets a transfer at work to go to Philadelphia.
Bob still works in Washington DC but has a stable job and is debt free.
9) Liz gets a new job in New York and has been there for a few months.
Do you think it?s reasonable for Bob to feel like he?s not applying himself if he doesn?t go to New York like Liz did by finding a new job? There?s no info about whether a transfer is possible.
Or or should Bob be happy that he?s living and working in a big city while some of his classmates are in small towns and wish that they could switch places with Bob?