im quite young, 18. I became anxious when i was 16 and i gained control of my life and during my final year of highschool and i was awesome. then i started university. I didnt want to be in a relationship but this really sweet guy came into my life and i fell inlove. I have a void inside me that i cannot fill with self love - well actually i did a really great job last year. This year i was faced with new responsibilities and doing shtuff like being a really adulty adult, so i spent less time managing my mental state and ive deteriorated significantly. Since i moved away I also moved away from my friends, my only friend is my boyfirend and thats not very healthy- in my opinion. in the past I threw myself at guys, I always needed somebody but i grew out of it. I always became anxious in my relationships I feared that that they wouldnt love me and abandon me. Thus I was always afraid because without them I would be 'loveless'. I had sex with them in order to keep them beside me, but i have intense anxiety when it comes to the possibility of acquiring an std or falling pregnant.
I dont want to tell my mom im bad again because she's not very supportive and understanding and i feel as if i annoy people when i talk about my anxiety. So i resided to going to the campus psychologist and waited 3 weeks to start my therapy, but the psychologist i was appointed to was leaving and thus I agreed to go to another psychologist, but she never contacted me to tell me when to come back and i went there and left her a note and still nothing.
I picked up on the warning signs -that indicated that [BEEP] is going wrong- and i went to get help, but i didnt get any help. I was already feeling paralysed and I couldnt get myself out of it. but now im even worse, i cant stop thinking about [BEEP] that isnt worth worrying about. I'm naturally afraid that im annoying my boyfriend and I've grown rude and mean and I've been sad, really sad and I've been crying and small things would upset me and my boyfriend is at the receiving side of it all. he is very supportive but I dont want to be anxious in the first place and from experience I know that anxiety fucks relationships up. But consciously i know everything is absolutely fine and that everything is perfect and the only true danger i face is my behaviour - my anxiety- that could destroy our relationship. I've also been anxious about my health - worrying about the time i had sex when i was 16- and i've been very anxious about my academics because I live in a very highly academic residence, where I have to perform academically to ensure my place. I've thus been getting anxiety attacks, and I cant stop worrying and it's interfering with my studies (its the end of the semester and im at the end of my exams) but I cant function. I went to live for a few days at my best friend's house that lives a while away from where i live, and now i just stare at my books trying to keep myself calm that everything is fine. My friend is currently working so I'm alone in a big farm house , with nobody around, and it's enhancing my loneliness.
I'm trying to fake it till I make it , I have all the tools to handle this but i'm in a very very dark hole right now and im starting my journey of climbing out. I just really have to talk to somebody. Hence the forum