I feel a lot of my social awkwardness and anxiety originates from never really having friends as a kid then living in the system but the part I think really caused it was living in a girls home in Belleville then attended a public High school but without access to Facebook phones social media the option of seeing friends hanging out with anyone besides at school
I felt when I turned 18 and got my only first ever smart phone and was exposed to something I had not been exposed to in over for years I just don?t fit in I can?t ask for things or make friends I say stupid things stuff like that I like to be in my own space I used to skip my college courses when I saw students in my seats I?ve gone ghost on guys for this purpose it?s horrible
Does anybody else think there social anxiety issues are related to childhood
I believe part of it could be. As in we may have done certain things when kids. Shy. Stuttered. Like to do things alone. Then we might have had a normal few years as we grew up. Then anxiety kicks in at a certain age. Then we find the things we done as kids come back to haunt us again. With me it was the crazy stutter. Used to do that when I was about 4 years old. Didn't do it for years. Got anxiety and back it came. So some things might always be there on a subconscious level. We simply slip back into them in our adult anxiety years. Bit like letting them back out. I did learn to control the stutter after a few years of doing again as an adult. Things might come back on us if we suffer from anxiety in later years. Or maybe we could look at our younger selves and see we had many traits that would lead to a future of anxiety. We can only see that now. There are those normal years. No anxiety. Care free. Doing what everybody else is doing. Life could have been our distraction. Then suddenly we have anxiety. Most of us are baffled wondering where it came from? Maybe it was always there. Life was no longer a distraction. So the anxiety simply kicked back into play again.
- Remember, Moses stuttered, too, and look what he did. The man was interceding with God himself to save the lives of the bozos who decided to worship a golden cow. He didn't think he could do it either.
For me, lack of socialization can fuel the paranoid SA episode......."people doing things because of me", "people avoiding me on purpose when they don't know me", "feeling like the neighborhood things I am a creepy", etc. One thought like that can trigger something. I don't even do anything wrong, but a thought that somebody thinks I am doing something wrong and I have problems.
.....the only way around it is to get to know people.
I fixed my own stutter. I simply slowed everything I done down. Think people with anxiety like to get things done as quickly as they can. They rush. So I began to take the reverse approach. When out I walk slowly. When talking I take a deep breath and talk slowly. No prizes for getting your words out quickly. The whole stutter thing is no longer an issue at all. Used to be like that with the phone as well. Then I thought ' They can't see me and I can't see them '. Think if more people simply slowed down, more people might be able to cope better in some social situations.