I live every moment as though I will die in the next. In other words, I try to make the most out of every second, I don't miss opportunities, and I make amends. I also try to enjoy life because I know it won't be here one day. So in other words, it doesn't matter when I die. It could happen to any of us at any moment.
So if I knew what day/time I was going to die I wouldn't live any different than I do now.
The Hokey Pokey IS what it's all about
That is a good look at things. Due to trauma of loosing my brother at 13, and having sever health issues,I have always had this mindset. You never know when your going to never see a person again. Live is a plivilliage and it can be taken out just as made. It doesn't give 100 percent give closer on grief, no, however, it does help the healing process and the memories which are not replaceable.
But on the flip side... This is one of the many reasons I avoid going to the doctors for months at a time, sometimes. I don't want to hear "sorry your no longer treatable you have x to live" on the other hand the dread of not knowing would be anxiety provoking.
I use the doctor on a regular basis. I just had my blood work done. I would just rather catch something early if possible. It also gives me a piece of mind but I know a lot of people who avoid the doc. like the plague. My mother being one of them. Her arm has been hurting her for weeks. I keep pushing her to go to the doc. Obviously it isn't healing itself! She does the, "I haven't had the time". "I've been working a full docket at work". I tell her, "Your health is the most important thing. You can make the time". I wish I could make the appt. and drive her in myself. Just say,"Here's the date, we're going". I am very concerned.
I am phobic about going to the doctor, even when I know things are really okay, and it's just the routine crap. It takes a lot of energy for me to walk through the door, I barely go once a year to get my meds and then get yelled at for not coming more often. That really wants me to go again. That said I can empathize with you about your mom, even though I'm not good for myself - I don't feel the same way about the people I love in my life. Hope everything works out okay.
Never be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no one's definition of your life;
Define Yourself
-Robert Frost-
I always try to go in there with the mindset of ."Think of how much crazy **** they have seen". I mean being a doc. day in and day out. I'm sure they have some crazy stories. Anyway, I try to look at it that way. Like, I am not the weirdest person they have ever seen.
Then, I think if I really am; I must have set the bar really high!!! lol
I voted no. I'd like it to take me by surprise ideally.