Now I that finally know what LionLionCatCat died from, I have a question.
The "Why" I sort of get.
I get it. You are so depressed that you want the pain to stop. Or so sick, or so distraught, or feeling powerless. So I get people do it. I've been in that dark place. Many times when I took pills, I wasn't thinking of anything at all. "I had a headache," was my reason and I didn't realize that I had taken so many to pass out.
It frustrates me that people don't learn other coping skills besides killing themselves, but this world isn't perfect and we have no control over others. So we basically can't do much about what they do with their life. It took me a decade to understand that suicide wasn't an option I had.
My question is not like M's. It's now "why?" It's "how."
How do we cope when someone kills themselves? I remember doing the same thing at my friend's funeral after she jumped off a bridge and died. She had a one month old baby and had postpartum depression. I asked why and did the "what ifs." I felt guilty. Maybe I should have called her more often. Maybe if I did this or that.
The truth is, we can't control others and our actions short of shooting someone, won't have a direct effect on them unless they allow it to.
Whenever I see someone commit suicide, I wait for the fallout. Who's next? Who will see that suicide can be an option? Who is wanting fame so desperately that they see the good things that were said about the deceased and copy cat it? Who wants to show their parents they have power just like this or that deceased person did?
So I really want to know? How do you handle it when someone you know takes their life? I am really concerned about all of you and I want to make sure an epidemic doesn't start.
btw.............this is why I get angry when someone takes their life....................it's the copycat fallout that I've seen happen........................and well, it breaks my heart.
So:
1) How do you feel when someone takes their life?
2) What do you think when they do?
3) What do you do when it happens?