im sick of investing in friendships, just to have people disappear, i wouldn't do thatdo these people have no empathy. I know its easier for them to end the friendship that way (if it was friendship), please people if you want to end a friendship, please consider the other person and not whats easier for you. Having no closure is a [BEEP]
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Disappearing peoples are easy to get sick of...Oddly I want to be the one disappearing in some of the friendships I am in ...and that, the fact that I haven't disappeared yet *hmmm* that pisses me off. I totally understand where you're coming from though and I hope things get better! I'll be here if you need anything, yo
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that's what i thought my friendships were like. like staircases. staircases that would grow as you invested more into them. if there was a setback that'd be okay because its staircases. it would only be a few steps you'd be put back. plus there's a handrailing for safety so you couldn't fall down too far. you'll make up all those steps you lost quickly. but evidently i was putting the wrong things into my friendship-staircases. they were growing but they were becoming unstable. wobbling. creaking. swaying. but i didn't see that because i only saw the added steps not the way the foundations were weakening. then all of a sudden the whole thing collapsed. this happened to three of my friendships. in two of them im still under the staircase materials that fell on top of me when it crumbled to the ground. with the third one i found my way out of that stuff and moved on from it 90%. im really worried about building these friendship staircases now. i thought after the second one collapsed i knew what i was putting into them that was wrong and how not to do that. but apparently not because then it happened again.
thankyou niknik and endfield for replying, niknik, enfield i like your description of friendships ending, i was very careful who i classed as a friend, now ill be even more careful who i let in, just sick of it
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I'm sorry, life, for what happened. I had a friend once just quit talking to me, it took me a little bit to have it really sink in. We worked at the same office in different departments, and I said hi one day and she just walked by, okay maybe that was a mistake, well the second time was no mistake. To this day I don't know what changed for her, and I won't beg anyone for their friendship, if she had a problem - be a big girl and say so. In the long run you will be better rid of this person, but right now I know it's painful. Take care and believe that not all people are like this. Cheers to the friends in our life:
Never be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no one's definition of your life;
Define Yourself
-Robert Frost-
thankyou tinkerbelli know, it just hurts and makes it harder to trust people
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