I'm having a terrible time understanding, how this friend of my daughter parents think? He needs a job. I know that it can be frustrating. This kid lives in the middle of nowhere, he doesn't drive, he can't drive until he buys a car. The parents have him fill out job applications on-line. One place offered him a job, he couldn't take it because of transportation issues. Because he doesn't have a job, they've taken away the phone, the internet and he is no longer able to attend youth group with my daughter and her friends. He came over to my house to use the internet. I went to take him home. His step-dad refused to let him inside, instructing his brothers and sisters to barricade the dog door so he couldn't try to crawl in later. It was 15 degrees out side and like most young people he was only wearing a hoodie.
I completely refused to argue with crazy step-dad and brought the kid home with me. He is 20. He has minimal job skills. No one seems interested in hiring him. He is 20, he acts like a 15 year old kid who is grounded. He can't do anything with out their permission. Children and youth have investigated his family before, he tells me all they do is observe them and eventually leave.
Step-dad has put surveillance cameras up everywhere so he can make sure everyone does their chores or whatever. He did find a job briefly; however, stepdad took all of the money for his keep. He didn't make much in that part-time job.
I've been the only one who has taken him places to fill out applications. He reminds me of a stray dog. Anyway, I had him call his Mom and he was allowed back home. I spoke to her and she told me he was only locked out because he had refused to move a woodpile. I know this was a lie. If it wasn't for me urging him to call home and let his parents know he was ok, they would never have tried to find him.
How do I help this person?