Well you say that but they are less attracted to men than bisexual women according to research ironically.Yeah, straight women, FAMOUSLY not attracted to men.
Actually I broadly agree with his point even though everyone is disagreeing. There are a lot of straight women who claim not to be physically attracted to men but instead develop attraction to them based on other traits instead and then become attracted to their physical appearance afterwards. Though in that case it's incorrect to say there's no way for a guy to sexualise himself just that it would have to be in other ways besides appearance. Also tbf I think the women who say those things aren't really speaking about sexual desire much and mostly romantic attraction which is slightly different and I also imagine they have sex with their partners based mostly for romantic/bonding related reasons rather than thinking he's really hot and they really need to often too. Women don't just form relationships based on sexual attraction so that probably happens a lot.
It is really incorrect though to say that it's impossible for guys to be sexualised if you consider fanfiction. Just look at this shit:
The absolute state of Tumblr. (I say that in a positive way.)
I guess they're not all entirely human. And the 1 body type (more on that later.)
Also guys put less effort into their appearance than women do in general so that factors in too.
But I think women also often have certain kinds of men they're physically attracted to and find hot, especially if they have a stronger than average sex drive or are bisexual (because in research bisexual women are shown to be more aroused by men than straight women.) But yeah in that case it will often be a much narrower range of guys.
I'm also very picky and I know for myself there are guys I've been attracted to based purely on appearance. Well a guy if we're not talking about famous people and also if limiting it just to appearance (it was just based on his photos.) But really with most guys I've been attracted to they still fit a certain range of criteria where they're pretty slim, mostly longish-long hair etc. The long hair thing became increasingly important over time. But I can't find most guys in porn watchable unless they're my type and I don't bother to seek it out. Whereas women are more often going to be arousing visually. I find more guys voices hot so I listen to them while looking at images of guys I find hot. It's difficult yeah you have to kind of sitch a guy together. On that note recording audio porn is probably a better way to sexualise yourself in general.
If you can get a body type that's slim and then work out a bit so you have a kind of athletic build you can probably make yourself physically attractive to most women. I think that's the most popular build. Like Brad Pitt in Fight Club was popular in one study I saw. Personally I like slim guys though.
I don't think it's a coincidence that most famous guys who are super popular with women are in the skinny - slim + athletic range of body types. But there are also bigger guys that get slightly less attention + attention from older women. There are 2-3 body types. And I doubt the several different people who were Jesus looked anything like any of the artistic depictions of him but for some reason they decided to make him into a twink and that beauty ideal has never seemed to change in thousands of years.. Like was it necessary for most famous musicians women like to all look like this?
^ He was popular in the 2000s. I wasn't super into him though but I liked his body. I wouldn't say he's perfect looking either so then no it's not that they have to look perfect exactly.
I mean it depends on criteria too incels think gigachad looks perfect. Who's definition of perfect are we going with in the first place?
I picked this example because I feel like this album cover is specifically taken in a sexualised way:
I also think he was a lot more popular than he would have been otherwise because of the work of photographers etc.
And porn really doesn't even try for some reason they don't want money from women and it wouldn't be impossible I assume just do what audio porn does and get better looking male porn stars and change all the film angles so just look at music videos + romance films + the porn genres more popular with women like lesbian porn and make them more pornographic... Seems simple... So far there's only stuff like 50 shades of grey which I haven't watched (any of those films,) but I think it still falls short of actually being porn. I don't think anyone's using it to get off basically. Definitely not when they saw it at the cinema lol.
Oh and there's obviously like loads of fanart porn, yaoi/certain manga genres, Sims porn but obviously some of that must be consumed by guys so I wouldn't just google that and assume it's something women like but women make their own stuff in the game as well using mods.
Kind of contradicts his absolutist point.
But yeah there's way more diversity in how men look then what women find physically attractive I think.
Obviously most would argue that well if someone is famous and a musician and singing all of these things are attractive yeah but why do so many musicians who become popular with women have the same few looks?
Lol. She also kind of has this look somehow.
But I also think women often also have their own individualised type which is based on stuff they were exposed to at certain ages or other factors like some women are really into dad bods. It just gets less popular appeal.
Also I wouldn't describe it as sitting back and 'letting men do all the work' that implies there was some kind of choice or control over sexuality. Imagine being married to or in some form of relationship with someone you're not even attracted to because of tradition, or coercion or because you want kids? Doesn't sound fun and it sounds like that was the reality for lots of women in the past...
Also I wouldn't say it's just 'any desire whatsoever' since most of those guys he lists are or were considered very attractive to the point of causing mass traffic accidents and people breaking into people's homes and smearing period blood on the wall, placing secret cameras in teddy bears. I've never heard such insane stories as about kpop fans actually (not just female fans either like men have attempted to kidnap idols etc,) just the number of stories as well. You expect there to be a few but it's intense. And they have networks I think and coordinate stalking activities etc. The birth rate in South Korea is the lowest in the world, and the kpop fangirls there are really insane (even moreso than in other regions,) I feel like there's a correlation maybe. Of course it's a very stressful country with high rates of depression too.
Also a huge thing is simply hormones. Like I think a lot of trans guys on testosterone are more motivated to have sex after going on testosterone. Probably find more people attractive as well. I think some cis guy was complaining about their partner who was a trans guy wanting sex 5 times a day. Because I guess there's an adjustment period sometimes too. I may have imagined this but I think this was a thread on reddit at one point years ago.....
For real. One look at any Tumblr Fandom disproves this theory. Lots of women going absolutely rabid and writing delightfully horny fanfic.No exactly. And I always say this lol.. A lot of women also suppress their sexuality because it will make men uncomfortable.Something tells me he wouldn't like the way men are often sexualized in these fandoms. Thousands of women making art of their blorbos looking submissive and breedable...
Tbf he's mostly talking about women but it does skew into 'men are objectively hideous and no one could ever sexualise them period' territory a bit.Or met a gay man.
It could be a lot worse too. They could get cannibalised after sex. But Humans mostly just keep that to fiction.Natural selection causes the females of almost every species to be selective with males, but for some reason only human women get [BEEP] for it.