You remind me of me, in that when I get super rageful ( a natural human response), I start counting my blessings. But my therapist has told me to not stop the feelings. Yes, stop any action you might do in a fit of rage. But let the anger out. When it's that intense, someone has triggered something really inside and possibly a button that was pressed when you were a child. She explained that the intensity of rage is usually an old anger from when you were 2 or 4 or 6 when you were helpless.
You weren't able to express it then, so it comes out now in random situations when someone does something that reminds you of the initial situation.
Yes, as adults we understand to let go and be grateful. But it sounds like you and I do the same thing. Cut off that small child's emotion prematurely before the anger can be expressed and spent.
I know I've felt better just sitting with the anger awhile. Because the anger always turns to tears and I realize I actually felt hurt. It hurts to be cussed out by people. And unfortunately we have no power over making them stop.
And it's to tell me I'm way off base.
Cindy