Have you ever heard the quote, "The greatest gift you can give someone is a second chance"?
As many of you know I've been on the planet for quite sometime. I'm 55 for those who don't know my age.
Hence I have made more mistakes than you guys have had days on this earth. Huge mistakes! Mistakes that have followed me around like a chain on my neck.
Sometimes you can make amends. And other times, you have to accept you will never get forgiven. My brother doesn't seem to want to forgive me nor ever get back in my life. In a nutshell, he was 5 years younger than me, I took care of him almost from birth, I ran away from home at age 15, thus abandoning him. I didn't see it as abandonment at the time and I did go back after I graduated from high school. But then I left again at age 21 after getting married and moving to another state. After 3 years, I moved back home to New Orleans, but by that time, I got the impression he wanted nothing to do with me. Maybe it was the "I want you out of my life completely" statement he told me. He stopped talking to me then. I never understood what I did until 2005 at my father's funeral. My brother finally told me that I left him. He hasn't forgiven me since. He is 50 years old. I get very sad when I think of never seeing him again.
But to get back to my original thought. .......
I am grateful that people in my life have forgiven me and given me a second chance. Despite major screw ups I've done, there are people out there who understand that people change, grow, improve, regret actions.
Have you ever been in a situation where you're grateful that you've gotten a second chance to make things right?
Do you feel you are able to give someone else a second chance?
I know there are special circumstances that you can't. You might be able to forgive an abuser, but if that person is not sorry, has not gotten help..........well, it's not safe to go back with that person. But if the person has shown you that they have changed (not just said it), are you able to forgive them?
Those with SA................can you believe a taunter has changed?
Those with PTSD.............what about your abuser?
I know it's hard to discern change. Sometimes it's merely a manipulation and one more game. But it is possible for a complete change.
Those who have been hurt in some way................... are you willing to give someone a second chance? Do you think people can change?
Thanks for answering,