Especially when they're at the same school or same workplace? Lately I've been feeling like whenever I tell people something personal, they go around telling everyone else and end up using it against me. If they hear about a new job that opened up, they refuse to tell me about it assuming that I'll hate it. I'm thinking they make those assumptions because of the concerns I've shared with them.
Everyone likes to say they're here for you if you ever need to talk to someone, but when I actually have questions and stuff I want to talk about, I never get a response or get replies where they don't really say anything helpful. I know this from personal experience where I've asked multiple people for something and they never replied even though there's a time stamp of when they received and read my messages.
People say it's important to make connections and to know people, but I'm starting to think it hurts me more than it should help. When my "connections" hear about a job and the managers ask them about me, they'll say stuff (sometimes things they shouldn't say) without knowing me that well and just say whatever they want (including unconfirmed rumors they heard).