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    People come into chat, see that only one person is on, and then leave immediately :(

    Why do they leave if it's not their best friend in the room? Aren't we all trying to be friends here who can talk online?

    Don't we all have to start somewhere when we meet a new person?

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    I've had the same thing happen to me. Sometimes I feel nervous and discouraged if there's only one other person on because I don't think they'll want to talk to me.
    I push people away enough in real life...
    "It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot

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    I guess most people are feeling the same thing Keddy. I know every time I've hopped into chat there's already a conversation going on (or none at all) and I feel like I shouldn't bother them.

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    I don't go in, it's extremely intimidating to me for some reason.
    Bereavement is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the unbereaved. ~Iris Murdoch

    Your girlfriend's silence might be her loudest scream.

    If you still have more dreams than regrets, congratulations. You haven't gotten old yet.

    Spend every moment like it's your last. Hug her, kiss her, hold her, like it's the last time that you ever will. Because it might be.

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    I stroll into the chat on occasion and stick around for a bit, but not that often.
    “Scratch any cynic and you will find a disappointed idealist.” — George Carlin

    "If it's true that our species is alone in the universe, then I'd have to say the universe aimed rather low and settled for very little." — George Carlin

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    I leave when there is nothing happening or I need sleep
    life---> <---me

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    Maybe It's more intimidating to talk to one person only(there's more pressure), as opposed to having a full chatroom where you can kinda just blend into the background while other people do most of the talking.

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    I could just be feeling paranoid, but it almost seems like when there are a few people on chat, as soon as I join they disappear
    It says on the main page there are 4 or 5 people online, but when I pull up the chat it says zero?
    I don't bite...
    It's always going to be like this for me. No matter where I go, I manage to annoy everyone and drive them away. I know my social skills bite the big one, but... *sigh* I do try. I think I try too hard.
    It's me that's the problem I suppose
    "It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot

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    Quote Keddy View Post
    I could just be feeling paranoid, but it almost seems like when there are a few people on chat, as soon as I join they disappear
    It says on the main page there are 4 or 5 people online, but when I pull up the chat it says zero?
    I don't bite...
    It's always going to be like this for me. No matter where I go, I manage to annoy everyone and drive them away. I know my social skills bite the big one, but... *sigh* I do try. I think I try too hard.
    It's me that's the problem I suppose
    With AS that happens, and in that case that's actually because the chat is kinda glitched and doesn't always accurately report who's there from the main page.

    I wouldn't think too much about it at any rate. It just makes stuff worse

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