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    Being scared of being home alone for a certain amount of time

    Might sound silly but i'm scared/anxious when my fiance is on night shift!!

    Before we had our baby I stayed at my mums when he was on night shift but now we have a 2month old I don't want to have to take all his things there for a few nights!! We have a dog but he makes the situation 100x worse by barking at nothing!! My fiance has to do night shift as he agreed to it when he stared the job and the money is just too good 2 give it up!!

    I end up staying awake the full night till my fiance gets back as i just can't sleep! I just want to get over it as i don't want to be like this around my son as i know there is nothing to be scared of!! Is anyone else like this? How can i get over it?

    Anyone that feels like this or has felt it please answer or anyone with any advice!! Thanks x

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    my mom went to a conference for work last week for 2 nights (she hardly ever does this) and so i was alone for those three days. i have to admit, i did get this eerie feeling on and off. i tried to tell myself no, im not scared, everything's basically the same, what's it matter that shes not here, we don't really talk at home much anyway, and im an adult, i just turned 21, i can live alone for a few days. but there was this vulnerable self conscious feeling i got a lot. but it was pretty mild and i could sleep easy. what you've got sounds like it could be serious. i looked it up and found a good article on adult serparation anxiety disorder.

    http://anxietypanichealth.com/refere...isorder-adult/

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    I wait for my parents sometimes but if they stay out too late I just leave it and go to bed. When they're away though I feel pretty safe cause I know I've locked up and I'm safe. If I wake up I'll lie in bed and listen to music or whatever until I turn over or it's a reasonable time to get up.
    Maybe try training your dog not to bark (might be difficult with some breeds) we trained ours not to bark but one night he went schizo at the window ripped the blinds down and everything next night out neighbours got broken into. Even If you train them not to they still want to protect so it could work for you

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    this happpens to many of us the dark and the fear of being alone can be unsettling. It is ok to be scared. I would reccomed turning on some music maybe calling a friend if anyone is up. Just take a deep breathe. Its hard to, I get it being alone sucks. Perhaps watch a movie in you're room. take a second think there is no one in youre house. Distract youre mind it will be alright. If you are really concerned for future when you are left alone stay with friends or relatives or even if that doesnt help possible seek some psychological help. Or just someone to talk to on the nights youa re going to be alone. Please try and relax Best of luck
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    You could try my convenient trick get fish and have a light in the tank. It's not a nightlight but it needs to go on of a night problem solve. Please no one point out how pathetic it is for an 18 year old to say this. My mind is able to take the nicest of things and make it into my worse nightmare the dark is simply a blank canvas


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    You could try my convenient trick get fish and have a light in the tank. It's not a nightlight but it needs to go on of a night problem solve. Please no one point out how pathetic it is for an 18 year old to say this. My mind is able to take the nicest of things and make it into my worse nightmare the dark is simply a blank canvas
    Roman and I use the lights in the turtle tank and fish tank for the same excuse! LOL. We're both big babies and hate to sleep in the dark, even though we're grown men and we have each other haha.
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    I get very nervous being alone in the house. I'm a dog handler and I work weekends, as most dog shows are on weekends. My boyfriend works at a department store and he's gone for a good portion of most weekdays so I'm left alone to my own devices unless his parents (who we live with) are home, but they work as well during the week.
    What I usually do is just get out. I take the dogs for a walk, I go for a drive, I go to the store, I hit the gym, etc. Removing myself from the place that is scaring me (the empty house) usually does the trick.
    If for some reason I have no way to leave the house, I turn on all the lights, I turn on the TV to full volume, I play music, and I lock all the doors and windows or any other entry points. If I'm making a big noisy racket and all the lights are on, then it's more obvious that someone is home and people aren't as likely to break into the house. Works like a charm, for me anyway. I've never had an issue.
    I also do feel a lot safer with our dogs there, but sometimes they do bark at nothing and it scares the hell out of me.
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