and how do you react in these scenarios. like are you a badass, are are cute, do you confound the other person, put them in their rightful place by dismounting them down off their high horse, do you win their approval? what do you do? i win their approval by turning my enemies who are against or superficially appear to be against me into allies. it's mostly the encounters where the person doesn't have anything to hold against you, but neither do they know enough to like you, so they're just instigating something with you to see how you react. then once you do they'll judge you based off that, and that judgment (which won't be very forgiving) will seal their view of you. that's why it's important to make it a positive one. how i do that is primarily by acting noncomprehending and helpless and innocent to them, so they stop their games and can't help but like me at least a little.