What should I do?!

[Keddy]

I am WAY PAST my breaking point with my parents.
I tried to kill myself last night because of my parents. If my boyfriend hadn't been there to stop me, I would be laid out in the morgue right now.
I can't take this fucking [BEEP] from them anymore! I JUST CAN'T!!!
My mom has called me at least six times today and yelled at me. She yelled at me about sleeping through my class this morning, she yelled at me about ignoring all her calls (Hmm, I wonder why I did that?!), she yelled at me about "moving too fast" with my boyfriend, she yelled at me about "throwing it in everyone's face that I'm gay," she yelled at me while asking if I was doing my homework and if I was going to work and if I was going to my doctors' appointment tomorrow. LEAVE ME ALONE!!! You crazy fucking psycho woman, leave me the hell alone!!!
My dad won't even SPEAK to me, he has my mom do all his dirty work for him. I've been screamed at and cursed out by her so many times in the past few days that I really don't think I love or trust her anymore. I KNOW she no longer loves me.
What should I do about this? Can I get a restraining order against both my parents? I'm moving in with my boyfriend soon.
HELP!!!
Keddy

[QuietCalamity]

First off I'm so sorry you are going through this. Even though I don't even really know you, I'm REALLY glad you didn't kill yourself.

The only thing I know to do is move out ASAP and refuse to answer their calls. They have no right to the privilege of your contact unless they treat you with basic human respect. They are f*cking adults and they know better than to act like this, it just makes them feel better to use you as a punching bag instead of dealing with the facts and their own BS emotions. My parents used to be verbally abusive and this is what I did when I moved out. I just answered texts that were appropriate and moved up to answering their calls ONLY when they stopped texting abusive things completely and left no nasty voicemails. I didn't lay out the ground rules because I knew I wouldn't be heard and they would be manipulated anyway, but your parents or maybe one of them might be different. All that really matters is that you keep them from getting any satisfaction from you, and most importantly protect yourself! You deserve better!!!

[Denise]

My relationship with my parents has reached Gold status .. .. 2 years after having run away from home . It's worth it .

[merc]

On one hand I think your parents still are worried and care about you. The anxiety issues you suffer with, the recent health issue, the career change, the coming out, etc. You're life is a whirlwind of stress and activity and this would affect those around you as well. On the other hand, you are now considered a grown-up and they are not responsible for anything you do. It can be tough for parents to let go. My Uncle Richard told my Mom when my sister Joanne moved in with her boyfriend at 21. "You don't have to like or approve of her decisions but you've had your chance to raise her and now it's her turn to make decisions for herself."

Would you consider your parents the helicopter parents that we here so much about in the media? I feel like my generation which is probably your parents generation, were the first to go college we had to deal with college life on our own. We didn't have cell phones and a long distance call home to ask a stupid question, was kind of out of the question. Most likely they would have been no help whatsoever, anyway. My sister's children all in their early to late 20's are way more in contact with her.


My daughter has a few friend's whose parents shouldn't have become parents ever!!!I don't get this woman down the street. She adopted two kids, but now that they've turned 18 she doesn't want to help them transition into adults. She has informed them that adopting them was the worst decision of her life. Are they stellar honor roll kids, no, but they aren't bad. The one with mild MR. He's been in a job training program. He works two hours a day plus 18 hours on the weekend. He gets paid $12.00 an hour, once he graduates he can move to a position that pays $17.00 an hour. She was reluctant to allow him this opportunity.

Her other friend's Mom is divorced and much more in to her new boyfriend than anything her daughter is doing.
Good luck and be patient with them...