What is it that all of you do when nothing is going right?

[luvcuddling2]

There are certain members who outright hate me so I had made a committment to spare everyone and not post on AS ever again. I don't do well with committments. Vodka helps. I think I am quietly becoming an alcoholic. So right now I don't care about the hate and its 2AM. Vodka helps with that too.

Nothing is going right. Nothing. Car completely broken. Missed the bus to Church. Have surgery in a month. 10-rounder with my therapist. Joined another site. Not going well there either. Already been kicked out of the chat room. And that is after two days of joining. I have no idea what I said or did. Well maybe I do have an idea. I said "Hello". Bad move.

So I thank you for letting me vent. I figured what the heck. Bring the hate on. Fine with me. I'll just have more Vodka. Can't do wine anymore. I found out I was allergic to Chardonnay. Bummer. I really was beginning to enjoy wine. A lot.

Maybe I should go back on Ecstacy. Been thinking about it. The problem is that I was a total A-Hole on Ecstacy. Total. Now I am just an A-Hole. I am beginning to like the total A-Hole better because I didn't care. Now off drugs, I care. Bummer. I got along with others much better on Ecstacy. Now I don't get along well with anyone, even in a chat room, nor even on AS.

OK. . .so. . .what is it that all of you do when nothing is going right?

I know what I really need. . .I need. . .I really really need. . .darn!. . .I can't say it on here. It's on my mind day and night. Even at Church. Maybe that is why I missed the bus. A sign from above.

[Chantellabella]

There are certain members who outright hate me so I had made a committment to spare everyone and not post on AS ever again. I don't do well with committments. Vodka helps. I think I am quietly becoming an alcoholic. So right now I don't care about the hate and its 2AM. Vodka helps with that too.

Nothing is going right. Nothing. Car completely broken. Missed the bus to Church. Have surgery in a month. 10-rounder with my therapist. Joined another site. Not going well there either. Already been kicked out of the chat room. And that is after two days of joining. I have no idea what I said or did. Well maybe I do have an idea. I said "Hello". Bad move.

So I thank you for letting me vent. I figured what the heck. Bring the hate on. Fine with me. I'll just have more Vodka. Can't do wine anymore. I found out I was allergic to Chardonnay. Bummer. I really was beginning to enjoy wine. A lot.

Maybe I should go back on Ecstacy. Been thinking about it. The problem is that I was a total A-Hole on Ecstacy. Total. Now I am just an A-Hole. I am beginning to like the total A-Hole better because I didn't care. Now off drugs, I care. Bummer. I got along with others much better on Ecstacy. Now I don't get along well with anyone, even in a chat room, nor even on AS.

OK. . .so. . .what is it that all of you do when nothing is going right?

I know what I really need. . .I need. . .I really really need. . .darn!. . .I can't say it on here. It's on my mind day and night. Even at Church. Maybe that is why I missed the bus. A sign from above.

Hi! I don't hate you, so I hope you're not counting me in on that first statement.

It's good to see you back.

And just from experience, drinking, drugs and such have never fixed my problems. They actually made my problems worse because on top of feeling sad, grieved, frustrated, hurt, etc, I would add guilt and self hatred because I once again drank.

As for your question of what do I do when nothing is going right...................

I try to reframe the "nothing" part. When it seems like I've struggled all day long with something, I look really hard for that one small thing that actually went right that day. It could be that I made it home in one piece which is hard to do in a college town. I may spend a moment looking at trees or birds or a squirrel. It's just a way to ground my thinking.

When I get in the "all," "none," "everything," "everyone," "never," and "nothing" mode, I'm thinking in black and white. Black and white thinking is being stuck around the 3 to 7 year old stage of development when we don't have a lot of power to do anything. When I see I'm thinking in those extremes, I purposely do something only an adult has power to do...........drive, eat dessert before or instead of dinner, stay up all night, go to a movie, lay on the floor and stare at the ceiling. I remind myself that nobody can tell me what to do at that very moment and so I'll damned well do it.............because I'm an adult. It just helps me live in 2015 rather than 1960 or 1970 or 1950. (yes, I'm that old)

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OK. . .so. . .what is it that all of you do when nothing is going right?
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This is how I recover form working long days when everything feel like a heap

I start with some time out - I try to stop everything that I need to do and begin again very slowly. I like to find myself a room that is clean, tidy and not cluttered, I make a few different lists such as things I need to do, things that are worrying me, things I need to sort, etc and I unless there is anything urgent I hide the list away. Then I like to do some things that relax me - watch a film, make some nice food, take a long hot shower/bath, sit listening to music doing nothing - then I will tidy my room, for me when I tidy my room I get the feeling of starting fresh (I rent an apartment with someone else and I pretty much live in one room. It gets cluttered easily and that makes me feel stressed). When I feel more settled and relaxed I go back to my lists and tackle each thing one at a time - I find my head is more clear and able to tackle each thing better, if I cannot sort or do someone I write down why and when I will try again or how I will tackle it again. When things get done I feel like I have accomplished something, no matter how small and things that go wrong seem smaller.

[cathering]

have a cup of tea
take a walk
have a shower
change my mind
stop, sit down and think a bit....