Random Thought of the Day

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When Wright took his idea to the Maxis board of directors, Jeff Braun says, "The board looked at The Sims and said, 'what is this? He wants to do an interactive doll house? The guy is out of his mind.'" Doll houses were for girls, and girls didn't play video games. Maxis gave little support of financing for the game. Electronic Arts, which bought Maxis in 1997, was more enthusiastic.

Haha jokes on you.

I actually was a very girly kid (played with dolls, favourite colour was pink until age 7ish, changed outfits several times a day randomly, wanted to be a mermaid etc,) and played video games. The most excited I've ever been in my life was the day my parents bought me and my brother a playstation. I wish I could get excited by things like that now. I was pretty into computers and similar stuff though so also geeky.

Actually changing outfits constantly probably isn't 'girly' per se interest in fashion/clothes is I guess. My memory is vague so I don't really know why I used to do that lol. I remember I think my mum commenting on it at some point. I had a bunch of weird quirks.

The Sims is the most harrowing game ever made. If you actively enjoy it, you're either a dangerous sadist, or you're just playing it wrong.

Yes.

But I'm not really indulging sadism most of the time while playing so also no. Twitter is a better outlet for sadism and domination fantasies occasionally. You don't have to expend effort really you can engage in it vicariously. Like reading all the people react to the sex worker. I like it when people think I'm secretly trying to destroy/control them too. I'm not really but I enjoy them thinking that. It's fun.

Twitter would be more useful if I wasn't part of a couple of 'victim' groups though. Instead I get mostly annoyed by the constant infantalisation.

Like I say this was pretty good (there are 18+ stories that are not too far removed from this too lol...):

these brainwashed, submissive-by-nature feminine females are pawns of dominant-by-nature masculine females who have convinced them that it's 'empowering' to be a 'hunter' and sleep around... 🤔

I did check and he definitely wasn't being sarcastic either lol:

I'll take "Trad Wives" for 500 Alex.

No, sorry, sorry... we were looking for Billie Jean King or Cardi B...

Trad wives aren't brainwashed by anyone to the contrary, they've resisted being bullied by the masculine female narrative to dominate and instead, adhered to their 'complementary' nature to masculine males.

Oh yeah and the internet are fixated on 'trad wives' right now too... I'm mostly indifferent to that. Obviously some people are using them to further their own agenda etc and some women are too, but I don't think most women are typically aware of that or trying to push white nationalism etc.

It's very Disney. Very Maleficent and prince Philip fight over Aurora.

and the dominant narrative today is an attack on nature... the masculine females push 'FEMINISM'... feminine females are being brainwashed by the DOMINANCE of the masculinity of the masculine females.

😀 Almost makes me like feminism you know? Unfortunately most of it's not a plotline taken straight out of porn. Ftr I was yelled at persistently by a feminist once for like a solid month and she kept signing up new accounts for posting a study on a forum (without comment,) that I think pointed out that the real problem with sex addiction they found was usually related to guilt/shame rather than true addiction (not 100% sure that was the finding though but it was something vaguely like that.) So she kept yelling at me to kill myself, and that I should go do porn/sex work etc because it's abuse on and on. She had pre-existing issues with me but that was a huge trigger for her, and a lot of feminists are actually quite sex/porn negative and so no.

This niche reactionary belief is 'Kind of hot though. I'm not gonna sit here and lie to you' (yeah most politics now is just sex stuff manifesting in a weird way.)

We don't really know who the 'masculine females' are in this equation. I'm assuming feminist and [BEEP] theory writers like Judith Butler and I'm really more androgynous than masculine, but I'm going to identify with this role anyway. 'Choose your character' lol.

I'm not actually a psychopath though so I do also feel bad/experience guilt which kind of conflicts at times. Depends on how serious/traumatised/upset they appear. Like one guy kept going on about how women and trans men were secretly trying to feminise/domesticate all cis men etc which is fun, but he seemed to have had issues from a past relationship that may have been abusive so not good. He talked about his ex a lot.

I'm pretty sure this was a leftist/liberal/centrist shitposting so it's not as good as serious responses from reactionaries but still amusing moreso because of all the ridiculous stuff:

Having been left by his loving wife, Curtis Yarvin has coupled himself with a cat sorceress Lydia Laurenson promissing her dominion over all the NRX
He worships catgirls
He Blackens his skin with leather, like a gimp
He practices promiscuities listening to vile avant garde noise

At one point someone said I was demonic/Satanic on a forum because I had an avatar of this painting of a merman painting of this story and my username was a Greek goddess LOL.



I'm trying to find the post, it may have been deleted by mods. I just stumbled on this weird post where I posted some freewriting I created instead lol it's all from 2018:

There once was a cat named Lily that flew by all the windows of the town and splintered the window panes with blood curdling screams that never disapeared. And after everyone had left the chaos that emerged from the trees twisted them into statues that fell into your mouth. And I can't hide this empty wonder as trees melt softly into a cage that sits on top of hills. And spires that light the darkness that crawls into the mist and shadow, fighting with demons and glass.

Maybe this should end if I can play this song into the bright and open up all the crisp packets with scarlet worrying miners. And daylight sparkles into the end of the street. Trying to jump into caverns and fireflys run into the mound of dirt that lists to the side of your head. Lilting in the twilight.

And some from November:

their open toed cats made things hard to believe because while they are their food and thought about all the cats they'd forgotten they could no longer admit that they were filing papers into oblivion with ease. And this method is inane and difficult and wondering why I can't seem to shake this boredom. As ever increasing numbers of people fall into the thrashing maw of his unholy demonic orifices that bleed out eternally into escape routes that chaotically intertwine with peaceful doves that frollic among thieves and teach dogs to own their feelings. And wine is a curious trap for pets but there is no way out of the fire. Six floors below the habitat that ensnares your mind. Hopeless alibis fall from your eyes mixing words diving runes counting the moons that slay the sky.

Even in context this is weird lol.

Ah man I can't find it it was so funny lol. I can't even remember what the actual thread was about but then he just started going on like 'many women in these days have turned against God' or something like that then started describing my avatar, name etc so it was really obvious who he was talking about but he didn't actually say my name (which is good because it's forbidden to speak that name lmfao. In the mythology,) just like 'someone who has posted in this thread' it's funny because this specifically used to annoy me a bit when I was a young teenager. People used to make that assumption based on my clothing style at the time. Anyway none of that stuff was Satanic either. I am kinda, but my avatar/name wasn't.


edit: Man it's so weird how most of my parent's generation got married in their early 20s lol. Well that might not be a statistical truth but I notice it a lot in famous people when I look them up, and my parents got married when they were 21. They didn't have kids for ages though. My dad didn't really want any. Though he says he changed his mind after we were born. They really weren't great together though. I think most millennials saw that in our parents and went in the opposite direction of either getting married later or not getting married and also being pickier etc.

A majority of millennials those born from 1981 to 1996 aren't tying the knot at the same rate as previous generations.

56% of millennials are not married, leaving less than half of millennials saying 'I do,' according to the Pew Research Center.

For communications major and millennial Cara Polus there is a different mentality towards marriage that her generation has, compared to how her parents approached it, who have been married for over 35 years.

'There's a lot of fear around marriage and getting trapped into something that may not be good,' Polus said. 'A lot of people are just wanting to go on a journey with someone before they commit to something that big.'

This is America though I assume.

My mum's youngest sister is also gen x (my mum was born in the late 50s and my aunt in '72 so big age gap,) and never got married though but she's been in a relationship with her partner for 2+ decades now and they have 2 kids.

Tyler Mikkelson, a communications major and a millennial, voiced the same sentiment while adding that he has many friends with divorced parents.

"My parents never got divorced, but half of my friends? parents got divorced. How do you see that and say, 'Oh, marriage is a good thing,'" Mikkelson said. "My brother's friends got married in their early thirties [and] late twenties, and they seem happy. We'll see in 10 years."

My parents never got divorced they seperated when I was in my 20s though, and their relationship was unhealthy and they didn't communicate properly.

[Heelsbythebridge]

There's really no such thing as moderation with me. I am either 100% in one direction or the other.

[Nyctophilia]

Suggestive of why most mainstream music isn't rock:

After being signed to Arista Records, Lavigne moved to New York and began working on her debut album, Let Go, collaborating with a host of prime songwriters and producers. For a year, nothing was working for Lavigne and was on the verge of getting dropped off Arista.[2] The management pitched her songs written by other songwriters, but she declined, insisting she wanted to write songs herself.[3] Lavigne relocated to Los Angeles, where she collaborated with songwriter-producer Clif Magness, who gave her ample creative control in the writing process. Lavigne and Magness wrote "Losing Grip" and "Unwanted", songs that she deemed reflective of her vision for the entire album.[4] However, Arista was not thrilled with the heavy-guitar laden songs that Lavigne was writing, prompting the label to look for other producers to match their demands.[5]

Lavigne came to the attention of the three-piece production team the Matrix. Arista could not find the right direction for Lavigne, so the team's manager, Sandy Roberton, suggested that they work together.[6] According to member Lauren Christy, they had been listening to Lavigne's early songs and felt they contained "a Faith Hill kind of vibe". As soon as they saw Lavigne coming into their studio, the Matrix felt that her musical direction was incongruous to her image and attitude.[6] After talking to Lavigne for an hour, the singer said she wanted songs with punk rock inclinations. They told her to come back the following day, and in the afternoon during that day, they wrote a song that evolved into "Complicated" and another song called "Falling Down". They played it to Lavigne, inspiring her musical path.[6]

When Josh Sarubin, the A&R executive who signed Lavigne to the imprint, heard the song, he knew it was right for her. Lavigne presented the song to Reid, who agreed the musical direction Lavigne and the Matrix were taking, and set "Complicated" as the album's lead single.[6]

Ftr I think those are two of her best songs LOL. So massive [BEEP] you to them.





This song kind of gets at that too:

[Nyctophilia]

Something like this lol:



Only insert rage in here somewhere (because the stupid fucking response lol. I attacked them in return.) Then go back to only talking about myself here and/or ignoring any responses to anything I post.

[Nyctophilia]

[there was more post here but it doesn't matter and decided to remove it lol.]

Not only that but the more you guys push this hyper masculine war fetish ideal thing the more I notice... Nevermind my attention has been completely derailed/highjacked lol:



That outfit is ridiculously hot.

Yeah I don't care anymore (about the stuff I was talking about before) lol.

I love how dedicated they are to make Barbie's town, accessories, clothes, look like a children's playset. I'm glad this isn't a gritty live action, but a campy one instead

I don't think anyone would try to do a gritty take on Barbie...

Excuse me. As I said before:

I kind of need this film to be like some kind of weird surreal dark artsy detournement. Bonus points for including this song somewhere:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_k8A43CSE8

There's an academic with a drug problem just slowly losing the plot, and Barbie realises that she has infinite clones being controlled by female children like Being John Malkovich and she has an existential crisis. No wait she has infinite lives and the memories of her other lives start seeping through. And she has an existential crisis. Maybe the academic is a Barbie too.

And it's just like Fight Club somehow.

But at the end of the day kids are going to want to watch this because they play with the dolls and then I come back down to Earth.

[...] the whole soundtrack should just be Crywank's last album

lol just Coil and Crywank tracks

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnWUFWPE4Z0

edit: and Xiu Xiu

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#you don?t even need to photoshop chris fleming into prog bands #he?s already there

omg. He does look like him in that photo. But without the hair. I forgot about him.



His content is so fucking random. Also how is 4 years older than me but seems like an anachronistic time travelling figure? And now that I think about it also sounds like tumblr tags lol. 'I'm like an American girl doll that got left out in the rain. I'm lovely. Men want to protect me.'



'everything is relative to the niece.' 🤣



That character is hilarious. Like the American Mighty Boosh.

Oh it's his favourite show apparently yeah it shows lol.

[Ironman]

My back has been hurting since I used my weed whacker for the first time. It was the same angle as shoveling snow - no wonder.

I tried to run yesterday with the back in pain, and I felt twisted up lol.

[Nyctophilia]

It would make more sense if she said we hate straight men tbh all things considered (and on a personal level lol all things considered. I mean I like to [BEEP] around with their sexuality/gender in fantasy.)

I mean I am going to need to chuck every one of the men who quotes this fucking line into a volcano:

Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times

I am very done with that.

Hopefully that will be a hard enough time for them. It seemed to work in Pompeii but that was volcanic ash.

[Ironman]

I feel a bit better today - still a bit of a twinge in my back if I am in the wrong position. I have my third run tonight, so hopefully it will go better.

[Nyctophilia]

Actually most of the art liberals make have destroyed real art. Thats why theyre broke and become activists. Most conservative art arent accepted by woke companies therefore many have left traditional art and some prefer selling them online and on etsy etc. LIBERAL ART IS TRASH

Hmm 'liberals' make most of the art though 'good' and 'bad' throughout history. So of course liberal art is trash because basically all art is liberal art.

Eg:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Openness_to_experience

Openness to experience correlates with creativity, as measured by tests of divergent thinking.[15] Openness has been linked to both artistic and scientific creativity as professional artists, musicians, and scientists have been found to score higher in openness compared to members of the general population.[16][17]

Regarding conservatism, studies have found that cultural conservatism was related to low openness and all its facets, but economic conservatism was unrelated to total openness, and only weakly negatively related to the Aesthetics and values facets.[41] The strongest personality predictor of economic conservatism was low agreeableness (r= -.23). Economic conservatism is based more on ideology whereas cultural conservatism seems to be more psychological than ideological and may reflect a preference for simple, stable and familiar mores.[41] Some research indicates that within-person changes in levels of openness do not predict changes in conservatism.[42]

I dunno that's a huge cope on his part lol. 'Conservatives' tend to have other strengths though like being more Conscientious. They're happier too. I mean not this guy apparently, but in general.

Obviously a lot of creative people can't really function, never make any money etc. It's a high risk strategy.

At least three aspects of openness are relevant to understanding personality disorders: cognitive distortions, lack of insight and impulsivity. Problems related to high openness that can cause issues with social or professional functioning are excessive fantasizing, peculiar thinking, diffuse identity, unstable goals and nonconformity with the demands of the society.[49]

So you probably are generally better off being 'conservative' practically speaking but you also don't get any say in that (well unless you take psilocybin to become more open maybe, and I don't think that works the other way around.)

This is pretty interesting actually:

Openness is related to many aspects of sexuality. Men and women high in openness are more well-informed about sex, have wider sexual experience, stronger sex drives, and more liberal sexual attitudes.[34] In married couples, wives' but not husbands' level of openness is related to sexual satisfaction. This might be because open wives are more willing to explore a variety of new sexual experiences, leading to greater satisfaction for both spouses.[41] Compared to heterosexuals, people who are homosexual, asexual, or bisexual?particularly bisexuals?average higher in openness.[54]

First, we showed that sexual minority persons averaged higher in openness than members of the heterosexual majority, a novel finding for asexual people, but also replicating findings for gays/lesbians and bisexuals (Lippa, 2005, 2008.) This difference is consistent with the notion that sexual minorities often have a different social reality from that of nonminorities, one which is unique and often marginalized relative to the heterosexual majority and which may foster high openness. For example, most sexual minorities, including asexual people, have likely faced significant discrimination in their lives (e.g., Kosciw, 2004; MacInnis & Hodson, 2012).

(Also putting aside the cluster [BEEP] of ambiguity that is 'woke' I think this is the funniest definition I stumbled on so far. The Daily Mail obviously really lol):

UK builders go WOKE: Study finds three quarters of tradesmen discuss their feelings with colleagues while two thirds shun the fried breakfasts and nearly half say they are history buffs

This is definitely top 10 tweets of all time material:



It's like he put a bunch of buzzwords into a dada poem generator.

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Oh my god this debate (I didn't watch all of it but yeah)

Also there's an insane part of this video where she (Kelly) just says 'A lot of black people enjoyed being slaves back when that was a thing.' After Naomi asked her if it was right that a couple of centuries ago it was normal to own slaves to argue against the ad populum fallacy. Why does she decide to die on that hill lol? She admits it's wrong but only because 'we're not in that time period anymore' lol....

This video is insane.



The entire section called transsexual biology (in timestamp labels about 15 minutes in) is really dumb. I don't know why she (the trans woman being debated Kelly Cadigan, I guess?,) keeps pushing back against her pointing out you're biologically intersex if on hrt. She seems to want to define it as having to do with chromosomes yet sex is defined by several characteristics including secondary sex characteristics, so changing them would make you biologically intersex.

Also I don't know why she's on hrt if she thinks she's still biologically male. That would mean it's doing nothing lol. Also when transphobes and terfs say people were born as women/men it irks me because nobody is born a man/woman lol. Only adults can be men/women.

Kelly Cadigan's vibe is also kind of uncomfortable. Trying to find a way to get at what I mean. At one point she comically points out that she can talk to anyone like she's saying she's approachable I guess.

Naomi: "I talk to the intersex community quite a bit."

Kelly: "You also have a huge platform so people might be scared to talk up to you."

Naomi: "I mean your platform is 7 times my size so."

Kelly: "Yeah but I can have a conversation with anybody, I'm super open."

But her energy for me at least isn't making that come across lol. She's actually kind of being patronising at various points and clearly thinks very highly of herself.

Then they start talking about a study with detransistioners and Naomi (the YouTuber) points out a bunch of people went on hrt to get certain effects they wanted and then went off but didn't regret it because they were non-binary.

"So one of the studies I believe was the English study that had a very weird and small sample. [...] What that study did which was really dishonest is that they conflated anybody who stopped taking hormones as a detransistioner and when I actually read the study what I found was that half or more than half of people they counted as detransistioners were non-binary and they only wanted to be on hormones for a couple of years because they wanted to obtain androgynous bodies and sex characteristics and that was actually their intended treatment path. [...] So counting them as like detransistioners or people who regretted their transition is pretty flawed in nature."

Yeah like if I went on hrt I'd probably stay on for a year or 2 to get a lower voice and then go off to avoid losing my hair and because I don't really need the other effects.

"Why is that flawed in nature"

Because they don't regret transitioning, they only wanted to be on hormones for a couple of years.

So do you not think that proves that some kids jump into transition or even adults? Without realising that or taking the time to make sure and go to therapy because of the easy access to hrt

How she got that from what was just said is beyond me lol. She's like not listening lol.

No they wanted this. They wanted to have androgynous bodies because they were non-binary. That was their desired outcome.

Yikes

What's wrong with that?

I just don't agree with it I dunno

Well I don't really agree with bitchy mean girl wannabe transmed pick me straight trans women who are obsessed with fitting in honestly, because you don't pass the vibe check, but I'm not saying you shouldn't exist lol.

You just don't agree with somebody who wants to have like an androgynous non-binary body?

Do you really think that's mentally healthy? That somebody wants to be something inbetween male and female?

Yeah there are intersex people who live happy, healthy, perfectly dignified lives and love their intersex bodies for example.

Yeah but that's not OK though.

Holy [BEEP] lol. And she's so dumb she doesn't seem to realise she is androgynous and biologically intersex because she's trans and on hrt. She'll never be genetically female lol. And how is it worse to be on hrt your whole life than to go on, get a lower voice (as an example) then go off again?

A bit later:

But you know it's not normal, even we're not normal but at least we try to fit in the binary. Do you think that people like that are mentally sane.

I think Naomi is non-binary too lol. She hasn't brought it up lol but it was on one of her other video thumbnails and someone just brought that up in chat. edit: yeah on profile as well. Uses she/they pronouns.

We're not natural but at least we're attempting to fit into the binary to seem natural in society. These people... It feels like you're trying to disrupt society. Like you're trying to make everyone want to be genderless. Which frankly I think is a huge concern.

Well first of all:



[BEEP] society.

Secondly What a bitch (I wish someone would clip this with her saying what a [BEEP] because it's the perfect reaction lol.)

She then goes onto to ignorantly assume that the definition of trans she goes with is the original one which non-binary people are erasing when it just popped up sometime in the 20th century and people who have identified as both, neither or some kind of third gender have existed for a thousand+ years and still do in other cultures.

Do you think I'm trans Kelly?

If you're using she/they pronouns I don't think you're really trans

lol OK. Tbh I actually don't care about whether people think I'm trans per se because that particular label is meaningless really. At least in a social context. Non-binary is more useful. Plus non-binary people are discriminated against medically, socially etc in a different way as you can see from *gestures post* so yeah.

Oh my God so she asked her why she doesn't think she's trans and she pointed out she's on hrt and then Kelly started questioning her about why she hasn't gotten any surgery.

'Have you had any work done at all?'

I don't feel like I need surgery to be pretty

So you don't have gender dysphoria?

I do have dysphoria I just don't feel like I need surgery to be pretty

It's not about being pretty, it's to clear your dysphoria.

Well just taking hormones has cleared my dysphoria so.

I'm not trying to insult you

LOL REALLY.

I knew she was going to be a lot but I didn't realise how much.

I'm going out of my way to want to pass really badly is that not something you desire at all?

Oh my God. I just what.



Straight trans women pass really easily. They almost always have very feminine body language which does a lot. She seems to think if people aren't on hrt they'll never pass (a point she brought up before,) but cis homosexual people accidentally pass as the opposite sex all the time without hrt and without trying because again they have similar body language. It's like bragging and you don't have to even put in as much effort she needs to stfu lol.

Oh my god no seriously they're literally acting out this debate. EXACTLY THE SAME.



Timestamp here: they are saying the exact same things with the same reactions. I always liked her character more too haha. But I also build my own PC(s) and wore knee high socks when I was younger so.

I know she knows she's acting this out she even brought up 'the mouthfeel' I don't know if Kelly does hahahaha. That's amazing.

She then says she doesn't pass and that she looks like a trans woman but not a cis woman so Naomi presses her on why she thinks she doesn't and she avoids answering at first because she doesn't want to look like a bad person which is funny after all the non-binary comments lol that ship hasn't just sailed it's sunk, but eventually she brings up facial structure which definitely isn't it imo. That can be an issue for some people but she has very soft/round features it's just her body language. Again this doesn't occur to Kelly because she hasn't picked up on the fact that body language is very important to how people are gendered.

That being said a lot of people aren't going to know and won't agree with each other if you look androgynous.

edit: Might be the best part lol Kelly just says

You're not a good debater you can only debate evidence that's scientific you can't have a talk about transgenderism in a common sense way. Is there a person in there or is there just a robot?

Basically just makes her seem like she can't keep up.

[Heelsbythebridge]

It's the two most important weeks of 2023 coming up.

[Nyctophilia]

I feel like I've seen this before but I love how their logo is blatantly Emily The Strange and this hasn't been acknowledged anywhere in the wikipedia article hahaha:



https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-Racist_Action

I have some of those comics from when I was a teenager (my dad bought me/got me them from somewhere maybe while working on some exhibition stand. He used to work setting up exhibitions stands and stuff like that so he'd get free stuff a lot. One time he gave me and my brother these large fake cadbury chocolate bars that were just wood planks inside a large chocolate bar wrapper lol) and I had a bunch of Sims 2 custom content like that etc, she was kind of everywhere at the time.

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edit: also can't relate to women dominating at uni haha. I studied games art and most people I knew and hung out with were either studying games art or were programmers. So I was surrounded by men, though I did know a few women as well. I lived in a house with 5 guys at one point too. Also in sixth form I was studying two subjects one that was almost exclusively guys (software dev,) and then another which was almost exclusively women (fine art,) which was interesting lol and I went to this club for a while from 16-18 to play yugioh with people, and everyone there except my friend who moved away shortly after we started going was a guy.

I don't entirely agree with this (shocking haha) I mean, I read erotica that's absolutely short term in focus and usually fetishistic and antisocial if I'm trying to get off (like mindcontrol stuff turning men gay/feminising them or other weird shit. Even my fantasies without reading other people's content have often been weird lol like the tree people phase as a teenager.) I've gone through periods where I did that a lot too. Masturbating everyday. Didn't ever really make me want to engage in casual sex or remove my interest in a romantic relationship. I think because at certain points in the past I just had a high sex drive (when I was a teenager,) and in general I do like orgasms. I don't associate orgasms as something I can have with a partner certainly not casually lol so these things are very seperated for me. Also I've always been very avoidant in my temperament though. So I like the idea of a long term relationship but I'm picky and spooked by people placing a lot of of emotional demands on me very quickly. Doesn't mean the idea of casual sex ever really appealed though. Oh my God a secret third thing again. #schizoid #AvPD

I think a more significant 'issue' (is it an issue?) For specifically cisgender men is they don't consume romance as much and mostly they have no interest in it so there's no counterbalance in media at least but I think a lot of anime is fulfilling that actually so. I've seen this as a point others have brought up and it seems stereotypically correct but I don't know if I even agree with it (for younger generations anyway,) lol so yeah. Or this. But again that's probably indicative that they (where applicable,) don't really desire long term relationships in the first place so they're not drawn to fantasy representations of that.

A lot of the culture also includes guys like Andrew Tate who promote a short term strategy and of course he is also narcissistic (comes across very clearly in clips I've seen lol,) and probably fairly antisocial in general. And this has far more of an impact than porn imo honestly.

A lot of media and advice etc targeted at men pushes tips that are useful for casual sex/relationships too. And because guys who are more suitable for long term relationships are derided as 'beta' and looked down on, and a lot of men don't want to be that guy because it lowers their self esteem, they constantly chase after a desire to be a fuckboy. And it probably is more masculine. I mean if you look at the research even down to the physiological level.

One really clear sign of this is the emphasis on going to the gym. Even on the left a lot of guys will critique the sexism of these guys but praise them for the advice to 'go to the gym.' I mean it's useful for fitness reasons and obviously this is also to compete with other men, but it's worth bearing in mind if you decide to go really crazy with building muscles:

If attractive, sex-typical traits are preferred more in short-term mating contexts, then they should also be preferred more by people who are more oriented towards short-term relationships, that is, people higher in sociosexuality [41]. Some evidence supports this view. Higher-sociosexuality women prefer more masculine male faces [29], [42] and more muscular male bodies [42]. Higher-sociosexuality men exhibit stronger preferences for attractive female body-mass index and waist-hip ratio [43].

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3534680/

http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/comm/hase...spb%202007.pdf

Across three studies, when controlling for other characteristics (e.g., body fat), muscular men rate their bodies as sexier to women (partial rs =.49-.62) and report more lifetime sex partners (partial
rs = .20-.27), short-term partners (partial rs = .25-.28 ), and more affairs with mated women (partial r = .28 ).

https://www.researchgate.net/publica...tion_in_humans

A functional analysis supports this prediction. Men's traits are better designed for contest competition than for other sexual selection mechanisms; size, muscularity, strength, aggression, and the manufacture and use of weapons probably helped ancestral males win contests directly, and deep voices and facial hair signal dominance more effectively than they increase attractiveness. However, male monopolization of females was imperfect, and female mate choice, sperm competition, and sexual coercion also likely shaped men's traits. In contrast, male mate choice was probably central in women's mating competition because ancestral females could not constrain the choices of larger and more aggressive males through force, and attractive women could obtain greater male investment. Neotenous female features and body fat deposition on the breasts and hips appear to have been shaped by male mate choice.

I just want to say I don't thank you for that. I don't have androgynous features or look like Tom Hiddleston in Only Lovers Left Alive, and you don't have this hair:



'Um how will looking like that help you attract slightly androgynous looking straight/bi men or some [BEEP] women? Or...'

Actually I think looking less neotenic would help with some people probably (and probably my last crush who was a woman, and the one before who was a guy I almost met up with but then we didn't and I didn't bring it up again cause my life was/is a disaster.) But I think back to like this one guy I thought was cute who was insecure about not looking more feminine than he was and already looked pretty androgynous and I think he was mostly into fairly neotenic and feminine women. He liked Asian women a lot and I'm not Asian but he did compliment one of my photos once where I looked very small and cute and had long black hair in the photo with a fringe you know like IAMX who is hot 'I'd [BEEP] me' but no! no I wouldn't. Not with those neotenic features. I'd [BEEP] my hair circa 2015(?) (Evidently. Edit: Also I think I had that hair style first lol and I checked and mine was thicker/wavier actually not really straight) And it's not aesthetic. How am I supposed to wear long coats when I'm 5'2" I ask you. I miss that t-shirt though it had a cool design. Basically like this I bought it in Brussels. The design is from a poster for a 19th century Parisian venue though lol.

But yeah I doubt he would have been into me beyond the photo or in real life and he was definitely out of my league he like made music and was pretty cute. I don't remember what he looked like now though really he posted a photo with makeup at one point and had long hair. He was into the whole visual kei aesthetic. It actually reminds me of this couple on YouTube who record videos together as a cis/trans lesbian couple. They got together back when she was in a visual kei band or something?:



They have a cute dynamic I go back to that channel now and again.

edit: OK kind of cis:

Danish [BEEP] couple out to educate and spread love! One is trans, one is cis (kinda), but we're both ready to entertain and have a good time with you guys! : )

And apparently she's writing a m/m romance trilogy. And put non-binary in some tags on instagram. I don't check their instagram accounts lol. And I don't want to project but this feels slightly sad because I understand the compromise thing and knowing you can't achieve certain things she brings up in this video. Though she seems less dysphoric than me so I dunno. Edited this post 65 thousand times ��



'Nature' what are you doing? Nature noooo.



Actually this isn't nature it's demonic. None of these thoughts are in the bible.

Yeah I can't not start shitposting at some point. It's a disease.

To summarise although women prefer slightly toned bodies on average that are also reasonably lean ('athletic' I guess,) the preference for muscles especially big ones becomes more pronounced if they're looking for casual sex and they also tend to distrust men with large muscles romantically. They assume they will cheat etc. Also I think it just becomes increasingly unnecessary or even a turn off with a lot of women when you get past a certain point. Not that you should base how you look on that necessarily.

So if you look at guys who have been married for a really long time now or in a committed relationship for a long time in the current era that's a fairly good way to know what kind of guys are successful in that area (because women initiate divorce 70% of the time.) Though you can't know how happy the relationship is so that's a thing but yeah. I don't go out of my way to observe that specific thing, but I have noticed two examples off the top of my head who are famous too because famous people are always getting divorced and remarried despite being famous and so often attractive (in theory right,) they usually have a lot of options.

So one is actually Geddy Lee who is 69 and has been married to his wife since he was 23 (46 years,) and the other is Thom Yorke who was in a relationship for 23 years but then that relationship ended a year before his wife died of cancer, so I suspect that had something to do with it.

Also this is very amusing again just found that while googling to check some things:

How much of a factor did Geddy Lee's looks play in having mostly male audiences at Rush concerts?

Several people on tumblr myself included really disagree with you I'm just saying. Well I don't really find him attractive at his current age more like he went from being really cute to being kind of cool. Vibes. Also technically I did get into them through their music first. There are other people who also don't have big female fanbases though where I got into the guy first lol. Looked like someone I used to have a crush on irl who is now non-binary and looks very different from back then (facially but also they used to have long hair when I was attracted to them.) I'm talking about Steven Wilson yeah lol. I think his fanbase does have more women these days though.

I don't really get why some guys question/want there to be more women in certain fanbases. If you look at early My Chemical Romance concert footage it is mostly guys, later after more women got into the band most guys left. So, I don't think (most guys) actually want that really... Their music didn't change that much during the period where that happened. (It did change a bit more later but not during this period of time because this was like early first album vs 2nd album.) It was mostly just their image became more theatrical I think.



I think this song was actually a tribute to Gerard and Mikey's grandma btw.

'I wish more women were into x'

Yeah it's all fun and games until they're writing fanfics about the lead singer and the bassist having sex with each other (I don't have a band in mind when saying this btw lol definitely don't try and guess MCR lololol they're brothers not that that would stop some people,) and then you start to get annoyed about how they sexualise the band because it's supposed to be a platonic spiritual thing untainted by the material or something and the band is doing fanservice and making out on stage etc (and even if they're not on purpose you'll notice things that they highlight online and start getting irritated, it is a little insulting that they cropped Neil out like yeah they're hot here and I get it lol, but rude) and then you're gonna whine about that. 'Why are you shipping Cloud/Sephiroth together he [spoilers.] You don't understand the source material. Nooooo' Haha.

And before you know it you're creating a slur just to describe women who totally ruined your thing.

Fujoshi are women who were viewed as "rotten" for freely indulging in sexuality and centering [BEEP] narratives amongst male characters; Fujoshi were seen as women ruining the sanctity of heterosexual men's interests (i.e., shipping characters from popular television shows dominated by cishet men (Shonen series) etc.) The term was eventually reclaimed and is now used by female fans of BL. Nowadays, ?Fujoshi is probably better translated as ?fermentation girl? and the reason it was termed as such has more to do with the fact that these women would 'ferment' and change the 'product to be consumed' (anime series), so that it would be unpalatable for the (cisgender heterosexual) male viewer? (Mizoguchi, 2022). Can be thought of similarly to fans of Slash Fiction, Fujoshi were coined as such by men for their "rotten" interests, i.e. [BEEP] relationships. It was the fact that women were interested in [BEEP] relationships and sexual topics that they were seen as abnormal and unfit for marriage by traditionalists.

Someone said this is one of Rush's worst songs on reddit or maybe just worst song on 2112 and WTF? It's so good though.





I actually like some of their heavier songs a lot (big surprise hah,) and need to find more haha. I think this live performance is heavier than the actual studio recording:



WE ARE THE PRIESTS. OF THE TEMPLE.

Can you imagine if I was normal? What a concept.

Was this whole post an excuse to go off on this tangent? No actually it wasn't. This is just going to be happening for a while. But anyway.



When I was watching videos about Sneako before at some point I stumbled on a clip of him criticising someone for posting photos with a cat or something like that. I think but I did look again later while writing some other post and it's possible I just hallucinated that. But I think he did. And again you see you're criticised for doing stuff that signals you'd be a good fit for a long term relationship lol. 'Cute' stuff in other words.

Anyway this is all fine if it's what people want to do though and I have no reason to assume that men are stupid lol. That's the thing with people like Jordan Peterson. I think it's infantilising to not trust people to figure out themselves what they actually want. Also Jordan Peterson always seems so miserable.

I will say one thing I am incredibly picky and definitely not desperate enough to try and get a relationship (as he brings that up.) But then I think less so when I'm socialising with certain people. I've been rejected by lots of people I've been attracted to or in other cases a relationship just wasn't going to materialise due to it being online/long distance etc, or other factors and as I say I'm pretty avoidant and I think I need to fix other things before having a relationship anyway so I don't actively try to pursue that. So all those things feel like they have a bigger impact on me personally.

I wasn't hugely into visual kei but liked/downloaded some tracks in my late teens/early 20s or so:



Lol there's a comment from me a really long time ago on this video.

I think The Gazette have some good tracks but they're only sometimes considered visual kei I think. DOGMA which is more recent had some interesting tracks too but I think it's mostly gothic/alternative metal.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m2f3jQfbRl8

I also really like this Dir En Grey track but it's the same thing haha:

Gothic metal, alternative metal, industrial metal

but they loosely got considered visual kei early in their career I think or something.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9Ig54nw_IM

Also liked Girugamesh. Saw them live actually before they broke up. I think that was the concert where it was so packed they were lifting people out of the crowd and I thought 'hmm maybe I should since I don't know how much longer it's going to go on for' lol but then the concert was over the next song anyway and I'd become so dehydrated I drank like an entire pint of water in seconds. I don't know why that concert in particular was so insane lol.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RlgMmmb8Zk

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I want to be happy. Why is that so hard?