Random Thought of the Day

[Nyctophilia]

lol.

[Otherside]

License has now expired. Online status when I do a check shows it as expired.

Doctor says they filled the form in and sent it back a week ago. DvLA insist they have not seen it. Could apparently take two weeks, and then another month for them to come to a decision as to whether to reissue and how long. Why this is taking an age and a half. With the exception covid, never taken this long to get a new card before.

Apparently I can drive under Section 88 of the road traffic act. Problem is I have no way of proving that. Enterprise Car Club are nagging me about the fact I need to give them the details of a new card as the one I have is expired and I currently don't have one.

[Nyctophilia]

This is a lot of text - but you should care for the vibe. Look into the eyes. Her eyes, looking at him. Men feel like they've lost something -- and they have. Met a girl (recently (in SF(!!!!!))) that is just reflexively sweet and kind. How women """are supposed to be""", now I'm not saying women "have" to be like that, but I am saying I *would* go to war for her and for women like her - uncynic, earnest, sweet - to get to keep existing and *it's not even sexual*. I feel like this kind of "trad" woman is what men are trying to refer to - in a very haphazard way - it's not about cooking or cleaning or whatever the fuck. It's about being earnestly and openly and vulnerably loving, especially in a context where w everyone is irony poisoned. Men want to be champions for women but they need them to look at you with those eyes. Cheerio.

I get it, but I'd rather stab myself than be that person. Also the whole bit about war is a huge turn off to boot and no incentive whatsoever.

What I'm saying is men will GO TO WAR for this. listen, LISTEN!!

Why are you saying it?

Women do that when they're in love. Something happened to womens' brains in the past century and now most women are unable to love.

I think they are performing less and the image posted is a painting likely painted with staged models told what expressions to pull - ironically.

Seems weird to make this a public policy preference. If it's politically imposed how can the love be sincere?

Of course it wouldn't be. It's an insane take to make coming from desperation I think.

there's a masculine version of this too incidentally

figure it out

Not the answer he was looking for I imagine. At least these are expressions an actual guy pulled once lol. Instead of a painting that actually may or may not be AI generated too. Oh dear god it gets more bleak.

Just horrified that this appears to be someone is a seventh pregnancy after 3 sets of twins very close together.

Look at the length of the child behind the dad and count the fingers on the mom?s hands.

This photo makes me want to vomit

THAT'S what your take away is from this photo? 🤔

Wow really? I mean it's not immediately obviously AI but it is immediately obviously in the style of a painting lol..... Why do so many people think it's a photo?

I know they photoshop people to 'remove flaws' but really? You think this is a photo?


Someone linked this:





Do you guys have to make everything about war and [BEEP]? I mean granted I said I'm at war with right wing men on twitter but that's because I have emotional dysregulation issues.

There are no masculine versions of anything in SF

Hilarious. 0/10

[Nyctophilia]

I've seen two people's lives ruined today for being assholes/edgy online or an attempt at that anyway. There was a teen girl on some video chat app who got posted around using the n word. I doubt much will happen. Though her reaction was interesting. When she realised the guy she was talking to was livestreaming she started screaming and clearly realised the gravity of the situation.

This other guy sent some guy a bunch of homophobic and transphobic stuff on instagram so he got him fired from his job. A lot of people are pointing out stuff in each of these cases like 'you're a psychopath' and well yes (on the spectrum anyway I would say,) and I wouldn't do this myself, but you'd never say the stuff you're saying in real life and you should think about why that is.

this man had his full government name AND job in his bio and decided to talk crazy to me on instagram at 5am and already lost his job before 9am lmaoooo

you trumpy mfrs need to worry less about immigrants taking your job away, i'll do it first.

Supper low to go after a man's job just because you don't understand your own body!! Talking [BEEP] on the internet is one thing taking the way that man takes care of his family is low. What if his wife is sick and they have kids now you have a starving family!

Vicious, violent, intolerant left?.

He lost his job. That might not bother you, but this man has family that love him.
Forget about politics. Where?s your humanity???

i think you are mistaking me for someone who give a fuuuuuck lmao

The "fuck your feelings" crowd sure has a lot of feelings about this post.

womp womp

I have to say building a political party around pissing people off and implying they're weak for reacting to you over and over again like the US right has been doing has not been a great move.


You'd never say the stuff he said to some random stranger irl because they might kill you.


Although... This is a quote from Andrew Tate's origin story (to show what can happen when you do this irl):

"He had this American accent," the friend continues. "And everyone would take the absolute piss out of him all the time. He always used to say 'Oh my god!' in a really strong accent and everyone would go for him." Then, after a few months, a boy started to tease Tate in science class -- and he flipped. "I remember Andrew giving him a few punches to the face," the friend tells me. "Everyone was like 'Fucking hell! Andrew has lost it!' After that, Andrew started to behave like a different person. He became a rebel and that made a bit of a cred for him." Another classmate describes how he remembers Tate swearing at a teacher. "He knew that was how you get respected," he says. "That's when the change started. If you can talk the talk and walk the walk, that's when success comes."

I believe that is how we got into this situation en masse.


In this case it was someone with this temperament instead I think (I have a feeling he doesn't tend to start shit, but if you attack some group he cares about or himself then he'll seek revenge in a non-violent manner but I don't know this person so I could be wrong there are both dark triad and dark empaths on the left but definitely an abundance of the latter and it's more common soooo):


https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/dark...x=1647617663-1

We asked almost 1,000 people to complete assessments, based on questionnaires, on the dark triad and empathy. We then used a method called latent profile analysis that allows you to establish clusters of people with different profiles of certain trait combinations.

As expected, we found a traditional dark triad group with low scores in empathy (about 13% of the sample). We also found a group with lower to average levels across all traits (about 34% were "typicals") and a group with low dark traits and high levels of empathy (about 33% were "empaths"). However, the fourth group of people, the "dark empaths", was evident. They had higher scores on both dark traits and empathy (about 20% of our sample). Interestingly, this latter group scored higher on both cognitive and affective empathy than the "dark triad" and "typical" groups.

We then characterised these groups based on measures of aggression, general personality, psychological vulnerability and wellbeing. The dark empaths were not as aggressive as the traditional dark triad group - suggesting the latter are likely more dangerous. Nevertheless, the dark empaths were more aggressive than typicals and empaths, at least on a measure of indirect aggression - that is, hurting or manipulating people through social exclusion, malicious humour and guilt-induction. Thus, although the presence of empathy was limiting their level of aggression, it was not eliminating it completely.


In line with this notion, empaths were the most "agreeable" (a personality trait showing how nice or friendly you are), followed by typicals, then dark empaths, and last dark triads. Interestingly, dark empaths were more extroverted than the rest, a trait reflecting the tendency to be sociable, lively and active. Thus, the presence of empathy appears to encourage an enjoyment of being or interacting with people. But it may potentially also be motivated by a desire to dominate them.

Moreover, dark empaths were a little higher in neuroticism, a type of negative thinking, but did not score higher on depression, anxiety or stress. Instead, their neuroticism may reflect sub-traits such as anger, hostility or self-doubt. Indeed, the dark empaths reported judging themselves more harshly than those with dark triad personalities. So it seems they may have a conscience, perhaps even disliking their dark side. Alternatively, their negative emotions may be a response to their self-loathing.

Eg: making you lose your job. It's the extreme end of that but I think still counts.

Hidden dangers

Though the aggression reported by the dark empaths was not as high as the traditional dark triad group, the danger of this personality profile is that their empathy, and likely resulting social skills, make their darkness harder to spot. We believe that dark empaths have the capacity to be callous and ruthless, but are able to limit such aggression.

It is worth noting, however, that those clinically diagnosed with an antisocial personality disorder (often showing excessive levels of dark traits), most certainly lack empathy and are dangerous predators - and many of them are in prison. Our research is looking at people in the general population who have elevated levels of dark personality traits, rather than personality disorders.

We are continuing our quest to find out more about the characteristics of the dark empaths in relation to other psychological outcomes. For example, we are interested in their risk taking, impulsivity or physically aggressive behaviour. We also want to understand how they process emotions or facial expressions, or how they perceive and react to threats.

If you add the combined dark triad and dark empath score together (33%) Approximately this percentage of the population won't let you get away with what you're doing one way or the other.

This scene is sort of like someone with NPD (would fall into the dark triad group,) vs someone with that personality I think:



I've seen it suggested and I do imagine that group would be particularly good at espionage.




Now I'm just posting Black Widow clips.


This is an interesting reflection of their characters too:




Jasper Sitwell: I was throwing up, I get seasick. [Steve forces Sitwell to the edge of the rooftop, Sitwell just smiles] Is this little display meant to insinuate that you're gonna throw me off the roof? Because it's really not your style, Rogers.

Steve Rogers: You're right. It's not. It's hers.

[Steve steps aside and Natasha kicks Sitwell off the roof. He plummets down, screaming.]

Natasha Romanoff: Oh, wait. What about that girl from accounting, Laura...?

[Nyctophilia]

OK you win. I'm 100% a cis woman now lol.


edit: Basically until about half way through this post I didn't realise ratsmacker was just their username which made this whole thing more hilarious and surreal btw.


I dunno I'd say he means well but it also just seems like trolling anyway lol.

I love bisexual culture. No where else would you see such a cool idea. It seems way more chill than being a lesbian which is v stressful.

This aint it. (Also a weird time to vent that lol.)


I mean it's hilarious but cringing so hard lol.





It's not terrifying just painful.


It's so.... You know what it it is. Like yeah:

>"i dated mostly women or trans women"
>tguy isn't masc

someone save that tboy, oh my god.

He doesn't know how to flirt with guys.


In fairness I'm realising he said he doesn't know how to talk to guys and that def comes across. It's so sexless to me lol.


I can't even give him any advice because I think trans women are the only people who have any 'rizz' these days. I certainly don't lol.


This worked:


No matter how good you are at [redacted] it's still not like you can really breed me. That must be so frustrating for you huh miss? I bet you want to breed me so badly but you just can't. Wait- where are you going? You can't just take a nap. Miss. Yeah you won't be able to breed me but you're just not even going to try? No I don't want to be bred not that I could be anyway I just thought you wanted to. You need me to beg? Why would I beg?


There were lots of bread puns too. It's important to know.


It was from something that was aimed at women but whatever. I can't listen to stuff with a trans guy intended as the 'listener' it's often either cringe in various ways or something. Often the trans guy is submissive etc too. Stuff with a non-binary listener barely exists and is always going to be awkward and fit a kind of archetype that doesn't work for me I think. But it doesn't really exist either so I have no idea. I have various hangups etc I won't go into anyway.


Oh wait that's his username OK. That makes so much more sense. I was like what is the rat thing about?

i'm a transgirl but if someone called me big dog i'd probably cum a little

why do I follow you...

😔

as a trans dude I'd kill to be introduced to someone like this. being part of "the boys" even in a date setting would be so euphoric lowkey

I guess I just don't get it.

This guy is more trans masc than I am

Weird plot twist:




(someone was posting that in response to people's tweets.)


Even better then just do the thing I quoted. Oh wait not with him though lol. Both cause that'd be a weird thing to do on most first dates and also the female stuff. You can change the language obviously. It also doesn't trigger dysphoria for me but I imagine it would with some trans guys OK taking this too seriously wasn't that serious in the first place. Just hot thing.


I found the reddit thread lol. (Whatever post that screenshot was in response to has been deleted.)

I'm sorry, is this supposed to be a date, or are you going to be throwing a football?

I've never gone on a serious date with a man, i don't know the proper ettiquete

That's kind of cuter since she came out as trans. Probably still a troll lol.

i have also dated nonbinary people and one man. i simply can't find any quality men

If you really want to call him something other than his name, try saying "hi handsome."

This is such a good one! Thank you!!

Why didn't that occur before lol?

Are you trying to be bros or to date?

Are you kidding me? YOU ARE A MAN! How would you like the person you're dating to greet you? That's your answer. You might be a unicorn, but I have never 'dapped (?) up(?!?)' a guy and called him big dog unless I was trying to make sure he never considered me in a romantic or sexual way, ever.

Evidently not.


Also dapped up is funny too. Hah gen z (or whatever gen we are on now.) Well OP is 24 so yeah that's gen z.

People thinks it's a joke but I have call a lot of people big dog. It's basically another way of saying hey bro or hey boss, tbh I think you should be fine

No like it wouldn't be that weird platonically.

A lot of trans women are annoyed about this I think:

"women or trans women" kek 😭 i hate bisexuals

Honey. Nooo. You say something like "hi -name-, it's so good to meet you!"

thats a bit gay don't you think?

Got to be trolling.


You are a bit gay don't you think?


I dunno some people apparently like being called that but it's not for me lol.

It's not a troll, why does everyone think this is a troll LMAO i'm just autistic and horny

Well-

Probably because you're a man asking advice on how to greet your date, who is also a man, and in one of your comments you responded with it being a bit gay to greet him by his name lol

My thoughts exactly. Then they came out as a trans woman in a post despite saying they were male in OP and it's reddit so even if you're closeted irl what was the point?

Life use to be so simple...

Genuinely... Why is the first trans man you've gone for one who "doesn't pass" according to you? Why the othering language about trans women and cis women? Why trying so hard? It sounds infaltalizing.

To the trans men saying you'd easily jump into this guy's bed if he gendered you right one time, get better standards. You're better than that, and even if this guy doesn't have malicious intent I can tell you from experience guys who act like him often do. They think you're easy, and don't see you as men. They go for you cus they think you're an easy "woman" who he can bro around with, skip to the sex with, will prod at you if your transition ever gets too masculine for their interests, and cus they failed to get trans women who tend to be a little more aware of chaser behaviour. There's a reason these men go for trans and cis women and exclusively early transition trans men. Idk why it's a trend with trans masc chasers to act this way, but be more aware. It's so common, and it can get dangerous. You don't deserve this. He shouldn't have to consciously think of gendering you right and he shouldn't be viewing the act of doing so equivalent to flirting.

I mean it's up to them. There's a bunch of trans guys who are into people saying anything masculine + male coded to them even if it comes off that way and no matter how sincere it is. I'm non-binary anyway so I'm not necessarily into that.


But you're not wrong as a general rule not that it matters I guess if you just want sex.


Also seems like they broke up with their girlfriend recently and much more poetic about that:

I recently broke up with someone very special. I didn't notice it then, but I now see she slowly turned me into a very affectionate person, very slowly, so slowly, like the way trees grow, like the way rivers carve paths through boulders, the way the sunlight warms up your skin.

I find myself constantly trying to not bother my friends and family with poetry or letters or hugs or compliments.

I have all this love, this absurdly heavy thing on my chest with no right place in the universe.

I have so much love and nowhere to place it.

And the most shameful part about this is that I'm afraid to give it to myself, because I don't feel like I deserve it.

Oh no I'm dying:

This is so beautifully written 🥺❤️ If your poetry is anything like your writing here, you should be submitting it to be published! I think you should lean in and mine that vein, write and revise and rewrite and write some more. Seeing your words as worthy of your own attention and even others? is such a valuable experience for developing positive self-worth. Plus, it?s fun! It lights up a competitive side in me I find very motivating.

I am being completely genuine here: you should write a poem about going on a date with a trans man for the first time, and wondering whether or not it's okay to call him "big dog." I could see it being both very funny and very moving. It shows so much openness and sense of humor on your part, and it paints a very interesting portrait of sexuality/romance in 2024. When you write a draft let me know!!

I'M DEADDDDDDD 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I'm serious!!!! 😂😂

At least they find it funny I guess.


What's even better is their account is 'queen of mice' lol.


I would actually watch a TV show about this person lol.

[Nyctophilia]

there's only so many times a guy wants to deal with a woman starfishing who's unable to overcome their own neurotic sex issues before he just accepts that he might as well get his nut off and go to sleep because this basket of problems is never gonna cum without psychiatric intervention and sex drugs.

If that helps you to protect your self esteem lol.


It seems like he really struggled to enjoy sex himself though:

Yeah, no, I'm fine. They were the problem. Just too neurotic to relax and enjoy themselves.

Oh yeah man, I've definitely been with some real buzz kill sexual partners. It's a bummer, but it happens. After a while I just cut my losses and get what I could out of it. Honestly, I've had to fake a few orgasms (thank god for condoms) just so I wouldn't screw up their sex anxieties any worse then they already were.

My girlfriend likes me just the way I am ;) And I like that she doesn't have any neurotic sexual hangups, so it works out great! In fact, she wants to marry me and to have kids together.

Now that I think about it, my girlfriend is one of the few women who have actually been able to make me cum. I've actually had to fake orgasms with quite a few women I've slept with so I didn't hurt their feelings. And that's probably because they weren't actually that good at sex.

I wonder if he's made a connection about how he's having better sex now that his relationship is more serious?

I never had an issue making my ex cum despite never doing piv with him and being very neurotic in general.

You're honestly lucky if they even agree to do piv if they're that uninterested. They need to put in less effort for guys like this frankly as it is unappreciated. Also a lot of women seem to not enjoy sex like this clip "20 years of unsatisfying sex" (which a bunch of the audience agreed with):





Women also have more orgasms with other women, and in committed relationships. I think it's because they feel more safe/feel less pressure and intercourse is less central.

I've decided to adopt the common internet male lens of sex now (competitive,) so the fact that I gave my ex so many orgasms and I had none also I've given myself hundreds (if not thousands,) of orgasms means I win sex:





"Wanting to be with a woman? How gay is that? You win sex against a man that's as straight as it gets."


I'm amazing. You're right this delusion is fun. I can see why internet straight men and fictional gay executives do this. So in other words just fictional characters.


I suppose I should be a little humble. Fiction writers and GWA and that period where I watched softcore Korean stuff on YouTube also helped. But even before just with my imagination. In fact back in the day I'd say that was some of my best work.


(I wasn't interested/didn't want to do stuff with my body. I did above the waist but didn't really like it - but tbf he didn't really offer other stuff either lol from what I remember just said he was jealous of my duvet at one point which I used to you know. So shout out to my various duvets too. I feel like I might have tried to use his body in a similar way once but didn't really work? I mean because I can't dissociate or start reading [BEEP] lol, well I was already kind of doing that with him anyway like performing, and he wasn't that attractive to me sexually I guess. I have to be psychologically turned on too of course not just manual stimulation.)


I mean shockingly he never tried this:

This worked:


No matter how good you are at [redacted] it's still not like you can really breed me. That must be so frustrating for you huh miss? I bet you want to breed me so badly but you just can't. Wait- where are you going? You can't just take a nap. Miss. Yeah you won't be able to breed me but you're just not even going to try? No I don't want to be bred not that I could be anyway I just thought you wanted to. You need me to beg? Why would I beg?


There were lots of bread puns too. It's important to know.

Go figure. (Being sarcastic obviously. Didn't even know I was into this back then, some related stuff I guess but never talked to him about it anyway.)



30 Rock is so great:

"But my kids are creative types."

"Yes I understand Hank Junior is writing a children's book about a giraffe who learns he doesn't have to work hard."






"Why don't I have any other friends?"


I started reading this other thread (not the one these other comments were in. From 8 years ago.)

I had never even heard of "star fishing" before I found askmen. I still don't really understand it. I'm 34 and I'm not ugly, I've been with several dozens of women in my life, and I'd have hard time thinking about one time that was truly bad - even if she did just lay there.

I know one girl in particular that I dated for a couple of months was a "star fisher". She had a great bod though, just the right amount of curves. So what that she liked to just lay there, she was hot and to me, the sex was perfectly fine.

I'm not just not down with the kids anymore, I'd almost hate to be a young lady these days. I mean, sometimes you're horny but tired and you want to have sex with the least amount of work possible. God forbid you starfish on someone and next thing you know you're the "star fisher" to all of his friends and Reddit. Is everyone expected to [BEEP] like a porn star these days?

Just laying there. Not even moaning or dirty talking, not getting on top. Not playing with herself.

Basically being a living fleshlight.

Mm I can tell I'm not that into the idea of having sex with most men really because reading a thread full of them complaining about like starfishing and women not being enthusiastic enough just makes me think "but they're having sex they probably don't even want with you including piv sex!" That already seems like so much effort to me lol. Now you're complaining about their customer service. That being said I did do a lot of performing and dirty talk with my ex.

When she just lies there and is performed upon instead of being an active participant.

She doesnt do things she wants, she doesnt grab or squease or scratch or move how she wants. She doesn't tell me she wants to be fucked in whatever position, she just lies back in missonary from start to finish seemingly not wanting to put any effort in.

Like the top post said, the number of times this had happened to me, i felt like a sex worker pleasing a client.

My read on it is the opposite. She feels obligated to have sex with you. What I mean.


It's good that gen z are having less sex really when you consider this, and I think all the incels should read posts like this because so many people including guys have had disappointing/unenjoyable sex. So what are you really missing lol?

I'll never understand how people now just apparently think choking and grabbing people's throat with no conversation is just vanilla/normal stuff to be doing. Absolutely insane (also another reason I'm glad this wasn't really a thing when I was dating, because this isn't the only time I've heard about this sort of thing. Probably shouldn't quote the whole thing):

[...] Luckily he was immediately apologetic and was also freaked out by the idea that he scared me, to the extent that he teared up once he saw things from my perspective. He was pretty inexperienced, I guess, and took a lot of his pointers from porn. He just thought that it was a routine move and didn?t require any additional familiarity/trust/consent between partners. We?re actually still in touch to this day because of the impact that had on him.

Speaking of Tina Fey I guess (and this film is PG-13)





"Welcome to health and Human sexuality. We'll be getting into abstinence, of course then followed by in the spring condoms and choking."


In one US study on female college students supposedly 58% had tried that. It has become more common generationally (which is something that's kind of obvious lol.) Some people surveyed both men and women are just going along with it/doing it because they think it's what their partner wants and again haven't spoken about it.

One in four Gen Z adults --- who as of 2024 can be as old as 27 -- confess to never having sex, according to a 2021 Kinsey Institute and Lovehoney survey quoted in the story. Some 31% of that group said the the closest they've come is sexting, or virtual sex with a partner.

Understandable lmfao.

[Nyctophilia]

A choice....

Would you rather be someone who's dependent on your boss, your coworkers, your company leadership, and macroeconomic factors in an at-will employment arrangement with 0 commitments (the independent woman), or your husband who has promised to never leave you (the "dependent" woman)? how much will you gain in bathroom square footage when you deduct your taxes owed, the additional taxes your husband now owes, childcare, cleaning services, car expenses, take out meals, babysitters, and therapy? i suppose your kids don't deserve your time. you have better things to do, like turn the gears of capitalism by generating shareholder value. at least you're not dependent on your husband! that would be disgusting and degrading!

Why would you shame people for not doing something you're not willing to do yourself?


You should answer your own question and become some woman's house husband you contemptible worm.


I'm more of a secret third thing though. As always.


I'm a member of the lumpenproletariet sent here to destroy you.


That would go kind of hard as the opening to a punk rock song.

I think it would have to be horror punk kinda thing:

Generally unemployable people who make no positive contribution to an economy. Sometimes described as the bottom layer of a capitalist society. May include criminal and mentally unstable people. Some activists consider them "most radical" because they are "most exploited," but they are un-organizable and more likely to act as paid agents than to have any progressive role in class struggle.

essentially parasitical group was largely the remains of older, obsolete stages of social development, and that it could not normally play a progressive role in history. Indeed, because it acted only out of socially ignorant self-interest, the lumpenproletariat was easily bribed by reactionary forces and could be used to combat the true proletariat in its efforts to bring about the end of bourgeois society. Without a clear class-consciousness, the lumpenproletariat could not play a positive role in society. Instead, it exploited society for its own ends, and was in turn exploited as a tool of destruction and reaction.

Gonna just continue reading their trash until I have a full song lol:





(I actually have no idea where I'd fit into the class system you get different answers from different people. To some people especially the fascist right all left wing people are lumpenproletariet perhaps in some biological sense.)


Oh and I don't have kids. (This was posted to the natalist subreddit lol.) Like around 50% of people my age in the UK apparently. Enjoy the declining birth rate. 🙂


Lol I deleted most of this post I made yesterday about some other post on that subreddit which discussed women saying they weren't going to have sex or kids because of Trump (which is a tiny phenomenon really.) But I'm bringing back this part as it's related:

Short story... feminists are brutal AF and as a Kim Gordon fan... I am looking forward to watching real women wreck shit.

Lol. This is the only Sonic Youth track I've heard, it's pretty good I guess:





I think as far as feminist music goes stuff like JoJ is better, though.





Bake it up and we will stab, stab, stab!
Come on, don't be afraid
We will make you stab, stab, stab!
My world is evil but American made

Give me something easy that I can complicate
Something healthy that I can infect
Give me a mate in a crippled state
With Halloween teeth that I can break

It's a more authentic representation of feminine rage/evil.


I miss when people made music lol. It makes everything better. if you put your message in the form of a song.

have you ever noticed the number of educated women with kids who are married to men who make a huge amount of money but still work a job? this is what I am talking about.

Many people find fulfillment in their careers. Women are people.

Perhaps you should ask why there are so many men who earn less than their wives but continue to work when they could look after their kids?


What inspires them?


Why don't more men adopt feminine roles in our society?


There seems to be an increasing demand for femboys these days even from women:

my gf [20F] wants me [28M] to be a "catboy" [NSFW]

I met my gf Sara (fake name) 2.5 years ago on a discord for a certain popular video game. We were long distance for the first six months, but I was able to take a business trip in her area to meet her and it was one of the best days of my life. Sara ended up coming to NY for college and we spent nearly every weekend together. When Covid hit, she didn't want to return home so she's stayed with me and has been for the last ~9 months. Through all this stress, Sara has really been my rock and in spite of everything the last 9 months have been better than ever expected for a worldwide pandemic. She's perfect for me, or so I thought.

[....]

I really adore her, but lately she has become really aggressive about me participating in her TikTok niche "community/interest" (idek if that's the best word) too. Turns out some of these interests were sexual? Our sex life is pretty normal, vanilla and semi-frequent but she's recently seemed a little bored during it/less enthused. That's when I found out that her TikTok interests were more risque. She has been telling me she wishes I was like the young men she watches on TikTok who wear cat ears and little dresses. I think her asks are kind of extreme and possibly immoral (I'm Catholic). I was raised to think men should be a certain way and already struggle with how gangly and un-masculine I look. In addition to talking about dresses and cat ears she keeps talking about pegging and is obsessed with taking my 'virginity' (yes the one you're thinking of). I want to make her happy, but I'm afraid it's too much and people will find out about it. Sara can sometimes lack a filter and will inappropriately gush about how good I am In bed. I'm worried that since she's really active on other social media--she doesn't know I know her handle and also joined the discords--and I've seen some of her posts about having a submissive boyfriend who does what she wants. She's been talking about how uninterested and unfulfilled during sex with me because all she wants is to try and 'top' me.

I think some of her catboy interests have been manifesting already. Sometimes she'll watch over me cleaning and tell me to redo a spot in a forceful way. It was cute and funny at first but then I realized she wasn?t joking and I found it strange. She spilt a glass of orange juice yesterday while looking me in the eyes and then said ?Get to work?. Again, strange. She?s tried to be a bit more aggressive in bed, and I was taken back by it and caught off-guard which she may have interpreted as uninterested. Sometimes after sex she will ask for a snack or something and when we go to the kitchen to make it I?m usually in just my underwear or robe. Lately she has been hiding my robe but leaving out her dresses and suggested I try wearing that instead. I usually reject that but it?s getting colder and I can?t find my robe. Even while making a meal she?ll be more aggressive/demanding comments and sometimes she makes me feed her? The other day when she was in the bathroom

I saw she was had tabs on looking for cat ears and maid outfits, at first I thought it was hot and got excited but then I noticed it was a size large, so for me. We haven't discussed this at all and I'm not really sure what to do next. What should I do? I don't hate the idea and I want to make her happy but I haven't been into the more aggressive aspects she's put up over the last couple of months. I also don?t want to do these things if she's going to tell her discord friends about our sex life and I'm afraid that it will compromise my faith. I want to make her happy but I don't know what to do. Advice?

Terrifying? I understand. Unlike you I do understand.

I understand that you want a feminine partner and prefer to take on a more masculine role in your life.

As I said:

I get it, but I'd rather stab myself than be that person. Also the whole bit about war is a huge turn off to boot and no incentive whatsoever.

You however are incapable of understaning anyone besides yourself.


"Why doesn't she love me enough to become entirely dependent on me."


I hope you get you housewife robot one day though bro.


Looks like this guy has also posted a bunch on nofap. Hardly surprising.

[Nyctophilia]

Imagine Kurt Cobain and Tony Hawk are both your grandfathers, you're like the Son Goku of white people.

Lol. And I know people don't like Courtney Love as a person (and she does have a bunch of issues and probably an undiagnosed/diagnosed mental health disorder,) but her music is pretty good too.

Get ready to feel old.

Yup lol.


It's so weird to think that if Kurt Cobain was still alive he would be a grandad now... It feels kind of weird that Francis is about my age really since he died so young and kind of just stayed 27 forever. Like I was listening to Nirvana when I was in my teen years. Well I first listened to them in childhood because my dad had one of their CD's but I bought their greatest hits album later myself.

The woman who said on live television in 2005, that if you are an actress, you should never accept to meet Harvey Weinstein alone ?

Yeah, he could have had a worse grandmother.

Oh yeah I forgot about that.




I'm sure it was an open secret for a while though. Also sometimes people share gossip they're not 100% sure about. It's like with Johnny Rotten:

Tony Hawk meeting Courtney Love like

It's possible they've been in the same room together at some point before then. He's been a very famous skateboarder for a long time and the alternative music and skateboarding scenes overlap somewhat.


Lol speaking of:

Hawk was featured as an extra in the "Weird Al" Yankovic video "Smells Like Nirvana". He can be seen sitting in the bleachers during the crowd sweep near Dick Van Patten.[41] Hawk also made a cameo appearance in the Simple Plan music video for "I'm Just a Kid", he can be seen, in a crowd, at a high school, watching kids skating.

[Nyctophilia]

I fell down another weird rabbit hole that I started investigating.

what's the deal with "Miladys" and "Remilia"? specifically on twitter?

i keep seeing people say these two words and i think Miladys are some sort of NFT but i cant really find what the sort of ideology is that is associated with it. most of the people with Milady profile pictures are like alt-right/general conservative/left with spirituality/esoteric vibes? i don't know how to explain it. by spirituality, i mean that subculture of people who eat raw meat, don't believe in sunscreen, avoid seed oils, and want traditional lifestyles. if you have no idea what subculture im talking about, you probably wouldn't be able to answer the question i guess. but if you're curious, click the link at the bottom for a large twitter account that conveys what i mean. its not just a twitter thing, though.

im trying to really tell what kinda political vibes or if there are even political vibes (since ive seen so many political differences among posters) associated with this subculture and basically how it started? there are like probably 1000s of these accounts on twitter but i cant really find a good explanation of whats going on. a guy i followed on social media a few years ago has changed his whole social media presence to Remilia/esoteric stuff and reposts lots of people with Milady profile pictures. im just trying to tell what it means?

[...]

Yeah. I think the same. Though I also think it's fairly removed from the crowd you are thinking of but it all kind of jumbles together. And Remilia Scarlet is a character from Touhou but not seen any images of her specifically.


https://www.palladiummag.com/2022/11...ternet-person/

Charlie's most infamous account was named "Miya Black Hearted Cyber Angel Baby" (@BPDGOD). He launched the character in 2017 as an experiment in depersonalized posting; his goal was to become the "most infamous thing on the network." The Miya character was known for elaborately canceling itself with the help of partner accounts, as if to make an obtuse commentary on mid-2010s cancel culture. Often, Miya played with obscure online philosophies by taking them to their logical extremes, taking aim at digital subcultures such as "pro-ana" (pro-anorexia) communities and transgender accelerationism.

The effect was the internet encapsulated, the darkness of the deep web embodied by an eerie little girl.

Despite Milady's reputation as a Gen Z project, the median attendee appeared to be a thirty-five-year-old man spaced out on some sort of drug. The couches by the stairs were crowded with mostly male attendees in various states of oblivion. One, bleary-eyed and wearing a red varsity jacket, watched me as I climbed the stairs.

Online, I had watched potential attendees bragging about the various drugs they were going to do at the Milady rave. In person, the display was less bacchanalian than sad. I had a sudden feeling that I wanted to go home.

Upstairs, I met a representative from Seed Oil Capital, one of the anonymous Twitter accounts pumping Milady, who was selling Milady t-shirts for $20 a pop. He had clear skin and dead, vacant eyes. I told him that I had seen Seed Oil on Twitter and he grunted in response. "Everybody loves me." After a few one-word exchanges, he asked for my Twitter handle so that he could "pump me as an e-girl." He slouched in his chair and told me, unprompted, that he doesn?t have many friends.

The e-girl girl sitting across from us slurred "I have twenty-seven Miladys." She wore a Milady t-shirt and a dog collar as a necklace. Her legs spilled out of her fishnet tights. A few minutes later, her boyfriend came to the table wearing a hat that said "Please be patient, I have autism."

The girl actually seemed quite nice, so I gave her my pitch of why I had thought Miladys were cool: using an anonymous profile picture allows you to freely express yourself on the internet and reclaim posting as a medium for connection. Technically, you can actually post anything you want on the internet; the only thing holding you back is reputational cost. Miladys are about supporting the old internet, the free internet.

"You get it, I love that you get it." I didn't sense that she cared very much. Five minutes later she was sitting on the "I have autism" guy's lap, shaking her black tennis skirt into his jeans.

Prior to becoming an internet person, Charlie was a relatively standard 4chan kid. He says that he wanted to be an artist and make internet art. He went to art school and studied architecture--with a specialty in furniture--then switched to a BFA. But he dropped out after realizing circa 2014 that the traditional art world had no interest in engaging with the anarchy of the internet. I asked him, somewhat seriously, about his favorite piece of furniture, and he showed me the Red and Blue chair by Gerrit Rietveld.

As the night went on, he seemed to lose steam. Again and again, he described how Remilia was on the cutting edge of culture and how Milady was making the world a better place. He never clearly explains his earlier work--the supposed grooming cult, the esoteric extremism, and is indignant about his treatment at the hands of the insufficiently online. Isn?t it absurd they tried to cancel me? For an art project?

I stayed with Charlie until one in the morning. The drinks wore off. We had talked for six hours and I was starting to feel a bit sick. He is just some internet person.

"This remarkable, sometimes incoherent transcript illustrates a phantasmagoria of fear, terror, grief, exaltation and finally break down."


That's what it feels like reading about this a bit lol. But with less emotion and more like a depressive drone.


Apparently has some link to gender accelerationism as well and unsurprisingly Nick Land in general.


This sounds sort of like g/acc. None of this really makes sense with any other part of it which I guess is par for the course these days:

https://michellefederico.substack.co...ccelerationism

There will be an attack, it will be transformative, and we will meet again on the other side. Up into the cloud we go? What exactly happens to us and our meatbags is not clearly articulated. What we do know for sure is that we will not be boys. And in the world of Remilia, this is essential.

One defining feature of anything shared by Remilia is that their protagonist, their ideal type of being, whether fully or only partially human or entirely machine, is unmistakably feminine. We?re all going to live in the Afterlife Online, or as technologically optimised humanoids, and we?re all going to be GIRLS. Heavenly ones. With it/its pronouns, because if everyone is girl, there is no need for distinction. Pronouns are for humans, anyway. We?re leaving all that outdated stuff behind us.

Hyper-Feminine Futurist Warfare

Milady, the protagonist of the #BRG-verse and the alleged revolutionary subject of the future, threatens us with heart emojis and "love attacks" instead of machine guns. There is no intention of causing physical harm, although there "will be victims". Love attacks are a means of getting people to comply, to bring them to the side of Landian posthumanists so that we can all peacefully live in cyberspace - the "afterlife online". Jet fuel can?t melt steel beams - but love can. The way I read this, in the greater context of love attacks, is that it is unneeded and unpreferable to blow a whole building up if one can work with "glass shards in the organs" and "love bombs" to achieve the same goal - the reference to the feeling of emotional damage alludes to manipulation and attacks on people?s inner world, their feelings, which is considered the traditionally feminine form of engaging in conflict.

Why are we all girls? Because BRG, being proudly cute/acc, carries cuteness at the core of its philosophy. Acceleration, in the eyes of Remilia and its followers, will be cute, it must be. Anything that isn't cute would slow down the high-speed accelerationist progress train we?re already sitting in, but we will get to this at a later point.

To further explain the hyperfemininity aspect, let me introduce you to "Milady", the love attack bombing front line fighter in the battle for Landian accelerationism.
Evolution Favours the Cute

If I was to consider that in the way of standard historical religions like say Christianity I might consider it a denomination of g/acc it's more or less the same though with a slightly different focus. Cuteness instead of femaleness.


I want compensation from everyone who accidentally thinks in similar ways to me by coincidence and schizotypy.


A lot of the accounts are supporting Trump etc ironically or not is unclear. Whenever I'm looking up anything weird I always eventually end up back on r/sorceryofthespectacle lmao:

What Was KaliAcc?

A few of you may know about the former Internet movement known as KaliAcc, or Kali Yuga Accelerationism. From what i've gathered it seemed to have combined Landian accelerationism and Dark Enlightenment thought with Evola-type esotericism and angelic/vaporwave imagery. My online friend I know believe may have been involved in this, and may have suffered from the grooming and self-harm the group supported. My friend is a young trans girl and she made numerous references to KaliAcc during its peak. she'd always been interested in philosophy and deleuze and land and all that and I'm kinda worried she might have gotten groomed. regardless, do any of you know anything about what this was? seems very strange.

Hella late reply - these people are really hard to gather information about. It seems to be their MO to disappear/reappear in some fringe circle of social media, with a fresh "rebrand" that somehow connects back to the shared ideology of miya or whoever the [BEEP] is miya at the time

Lol. I wonder if these people know Nyx. I follow someone who apparently knew Nyx irl. They disappeared from twitter after various bannings and aren't really that active anymore (mostly due to not being on any mainstream social media I bother with though. I know they're on some other site but I think less actively.)

C/Acc's proposal of returning to affect through what would be seen as traditionally alienating presents a Deleuzian reversal of the concept of alienation. Instead of arguing as land does that there will be smoothness in alienation they destroy the very binary of alienation.

While this sounds very Baudrillardian, this too displaces the dominance of seduction, as there is no individuation of subject and object. Instead one is completely lost in the "cuteness" that dominates contemporary culture.

Here, I'd posit that in c/acc the affect replaces the sign, not by escaping towards an outside it but replacing the focus of expressions altogether away from the sign to the affect produced by the aesthetic-terrorism.

C/acc is presenting the Outside immanently with its usage of potentialities, multiplicities and stratification(notice how in the c/acc book there is plenty layered wordplay).

Regarding culture, cute accelerationism destroys culture. According to Shulamith Firestone's definition of culture, c/acc is intensifying the cybernetic quality of the unification[elimination] of the Technological & Aesthetic modes of culture.

Oh God. The droning bright electric yellow of it all. Philosophy remains a mistake.

pro-tip: do NOT read more on it, forget this keyword even exists, clear all browser caches and hope the algorithm forgets you ever were associated with it. Your life will be better.

this is true. i am too twitter brain to escape it myself unfortunately

Lol prob for the best yeah.

yeah i've seen lots of political/social commentary posts from that side of the internet and can just see it as crazy nonsense. but the guy i mentioned in my original post really made me want to learn wtf this was because these people's posts seem a bit more like actually crazy nonsense than typical "schiz0posting" or whatever people call it. and he?s a young guy that was fairly normal when i followed him on Tiktok.

it isn't a surprise it has some history in pro-ana spaces bc lots of those spaces are 1. inherently obsessed with aesthetics (it's an eating disorder community so of course) and 2. usually have reactionary/mean-spirited/near sociopathic ideals b/c of how much they believe in beauty standards and harming yourself for them. i have been in ED online spaces in the past just bc of being a girl online and they have a racism problem and a (obvious) bullying problem. also 3. there are huge underground (?) communities of men who secretly follow the accounts of these pro-ana or even non-pro ana ED accounts b/c these girls are mentally ill and vulnerable and usually thin. online is a sick place especially for young people trying to find themselves.

I'd imagine they try to infiltrate spaces occupied by autistic people too because it's connected to a surreal supremacy movement. There's a significant overlap between the two disorders in women.


Milady tweet:

I'm working three jobs so my future wife can stay home and look cute and be autistic

Lol timely. YouTuber answers Steven Wilson's subtextual question:





(I guess I haven't watched this video yet.)





"You kind of excel in this particular department. I'm talking about religious cults. You're very good at that here."

Nick Land like "Hold my beer I will found all American cults from this day forward and they will all have the suffix /acc"


Trump "Hold my beer I'm going to turn our entire country into a cult."





"No one does cults better than me." - Trump, probably.


Are British people less susceptible? Perhaps it's just that everyone wants to be a cult leader here and there's no space irl. Not that that applies with the internet. Oh people are prob more introverted too.

It's worth pointing out the UK is a lot smaller than the US too so you'd have to factor that into comparisons.

[Nyctophilia]

Beating a dead horse but the US really is broken:

AIO? I left my therapist for political reasons

I said, 'I understand this is personal and possibly inappropriate, but I need to know if you voted for trump. I don't want to receive life advice, be vulnerable, and be treated by someone with such a drastically different set of morals and values than I have.' She said it shouldn't matter who she voted for. I said, in this case, for me, it does. She said she would not tell me who she voted for, but that she's conflicted by many of the issues. I asked what she's conflicted about. She said she's conflicted about Black Lives Matter movement because it was 'violent' and she said she's conflicted about social programs because she doesn't want people taking advantage of them… (uh… you’re against social programs and you’re a THERAPIST?) I told her that pretty much answers my question, and I'm thankful for our time, but I'm sorry, I don't think I can continue working with you. She got pretty angry. Said she was disappointed and teared up a bit. I feel like kind of a dick, but I can't justify paying money for treatment from someone I fundamentally disagree with about what being a good person means. … I don't know, am I overreacting?

Edit: holy crap, this blew up. Wow, I’m still conflicted about how I handled this. I know I could've done it in a better way. and I appreciate the honest feedback… I don’t post very much and I’ve never had so many people respond…

I'm not even criticising the OP but it's just how can a country where people have such drastically different values work in this sense?

It's also a bit weird that the therapist got upset to the point of crying since I imagine they get all kinds of responses from people if they're working with mentally ill people (and also kind of need to be able to handle that because it's part of the job to deal with mentally ill people with emotional dysregulation issues, paranoia etc.) Really goes to show how much this election cycle has messed Americans up.


I'm also pissed off with this pronatalist subreddit I found days ago as this is a topic I'm interested in and half the posts are just about the freaking US election again and the 4B movement and right wingers gloating about how liberals will stop reproducing like some kind of passive genocide movement, while hypocritically pretending they care about the fertility rate.

They do the same [BEEP] by writing off all [BEEP] people, even if they want kids.

My interest in this subject has nothing to do with the fertility rate though, but more the fact that lots of people are not having kids they want to have and we're also becoming more and more miserable. The part where we're becoming more miserable and mentally ill is leading to lower fertility too.

Nobody has any hope of doing anything for any cause they claim to care about lol. I guess I'm expecting a level of intelligence that just isn't there.

[Nyctophilia]

Recent reports have shown that the Latin Mass in r/Catholicism as well as Evangelical streams of r/Reformed Protestantism are growing amongst Zoomers and younger Millennials.

As per the previous discussion, there needs to be a pro natal religious group in American culture, similar to Orthodox Jews in Israel, that the majority can identify with as a more hardcore version of their religion.

The Amish are very different from the average American, but Trad Caths and Evangelicals are not.

There also needs to be a decoupling of the idea of natalism, homophobia, and transphobia. I've heard that 10% of people are gay. Look at the recent right wing panic about trans women breastfeeding. That's anti natalism. That's discouraging trans people from having kids and we need all hands on deck during this time. Cis, trans, gay, all religions, all ethnicities.

I may not understand it, but we live in the current day. I don't know how I feel about surrogacy yet but I do know it helps gay men a lot. I do support single parenthood, which is another way the right wing is anti natalist.

Pope Francis's decision to publicly baptize a child born out of wedlock, was a natalist win, because so many times priests in South America refused to do this.

There are lots of transsexuals and we should focus on the technology to give them the same opportunities for natalist as everyone else. I'm starting to come around for surrogacy as well even though Christians tend to be against it.

Well at least they're consistent. Or perhaps I should say 'not authoritarian.' Since others think they can force people to adopt traditional gender roles and not be trans and/or homosexual - but mostly trans. Like this guy:

The recent rise in transgenderism is due in large part to cultural factors. It can, therefore, be reversed through similar measures. It is far better, from a natalist perspective, for persistent transgender identification to return to a fraction of a percentage of the population than for it to spread widely among persons who would otherwise become normal adults.

Moreover, the push to normalize transgenderism stems from an underlying ideology which deems gender roles as a sexist imposition of a capitalist patriarchy, and which aims to "liberate" men and women from binary oppression. This, clearly, runs counter to a movement whose aim is to reinforce the emphasis on childbirth and family formation, two priorities which are inextricably tied to the existence of binary sex roles. Gender ideology is inherently antinatal.

All of this is connected only if you're lacking in creativity.


The physiological/phenotypic patterns people have been noticing means there's a good chance it isn't cultural actually. So it's a waste of time to focus on that.


If you're the kind of person who thinks the increase in autism over the past 3 decades is cultural though, then you're going to try this regardless. In some sense antivax conspiracy theorists are more clued in then you lol (but I believe they're completely wrong too,) but oh well. Eventually we'll probably have more/clearer info. We're getting there slowly.


You could try and get women to have kids younger that might reduce the rate of genetic mutations:

Some studies have suggested that a woman's chance of having a child with autism also increases steadily with age. The number of de novo mutations in egg cells increases with age, although to a lesser degree than it does in sperm. As with men, women who have autism traits may have children late.

I don't think that's going to really work though. I mean I don't think conservatives will convince them. Nothing about how our societies are structured make it a viable option for most. And the 'date a much older guy who is ready to have kids and have kids with him' pathway which some younger women do take, once again increases the rate of genetic mutations. By a very small amount but I guess it scales.


I think it's going to have so many different things contributing in the end. Here's one of the 3523525252 things they've already found:

A variant genotype for the CYP17 gene, which acts on the sex hormones pregnenolone and progesterone, has been found to be linked to transsexuality in trans men but not in trans women. Most notably, transmasculine subjects not only had the variant genotype more frequently, but had an allele distribution equivalent to cisgender male controls, unlike the cisgender female controls. The paper concluded that the loss of a female-specific CYP17 T -34C allele distribution pattern is associated with transmasculinity.

In 2013, a twin study combined a survey of pairs of twins where one or both had undergone, or had plans and medical approval to undergo, gender transition, with a literature review of published reports of transgender twins. The study found that one third of identical twin pairs in the sample were both transgender: 13 of 39 (33%) monozygotic or identical pairs of assigned males and 8 of 35 (22.8%) pairs of assigned females. Among dizygotic or genetically non-identical twin pairs, there was only 1 of 38 (2.6%) pairs where both twins were trans.[10] The significant percentage of identical twin pairs in which both twins are trans and the virtual absence of dizygotic twins (raised in the same family at the same time) in which both were trans would provide evidence that transgender identity is significantly influenced by genetics if both sets were raised in different families.[10]

There were a pair of female twins (anecdote.) Both were very androgynous but one was slightly more feminine presenting than the other. One was a lesbian (the more feminine one,) and the other was pansexual with a thing for feminine men I think....


Oh I found the video. Remember when Arielle Scarcella made informative videos instead of right wing pandering cringe reaction content? Good times:





"I find guys attractive but I have a very specific type that I would go after."

"She likes feminine gay guys."

Lol the bit where Arielle is like 'you're pan though so it might be able to take it.' Discussing if she'd be a top or not and she's just like politely trying to hint 'No. No I dont think I want to be penetrated.' LOL


They both read as being [BEEP] to me because of their faces/mannerisms. Like Kristen Stewart has a similar energy. Kristen Stewart is bisexual though. I dunno I think that's who I'm thinking of. They have a really familiar vibe but I don't know who I'm thinking of and could be multiple people.


It's important to note that whether people come out or not, or whether they medically transistion or not, they are likely to have the same psychology which will reduce desire to have biological children and behave in a 'binary sex role' kind of way.


Anyway it's a small minority so doesn't really matter except that actively pushing against this is sort of pointless and destructive to said minority (which is something I care about.) I'm not sure the wider spectrum is a small minority though... Like how most liberal people are somewhat androgynous and don't enjoy binary sex roles to varying degrees. I think you should consider the possibility that the ideology is a rationalisation of preferences that are genetic and/or biological too.


This is kind of naive though but I think we should encourage libetarian values too but like with the president of Uganda a lot of people won't accept certain things because they're authoritarian. They'll only accept that it's impossible to change. I think this is more biological than most people think (maybe genetic too but definitely biological,) which is why I think people should consider that but at the same time I don't think people should be aggressively forced to adopt cultural norms they aren't into regardless. Also goes back to what I said before about left wing people generally being better at encouraging traditional femininity than any of these guys. Ironically. Because they're just posting things online about their interests while not trying to force them.


I don't think the people alive now are the same as in the past and I'd prefer we don't learn that the hard way but as an individual I have no control obviously lol so we'll see.

[Nyctophilia]

This has to be satire right?

https://www.scmp.com/week-asia/lifes...stirs-backlash

In Japan, call to ban women marrying after 25 stirs backlash

Naoki Hyakuta, founder of the Conservative Party of Japan, also angered many when he proposed uterus removal for women at the age of 30

Naoki Hyakuta, a writer and founder of the Conservative Party of Japan, also said that women should not be permitted to attend university from the age of 18, apparently so they could focus their efforts on producing more babies.

I was seriously wondering. I wasn't familiar with the website.


https://www.independent.co.uk/asia/j...-b2644795.html

The leader of a minor Japanese opposition party apologised on Sunday for mentioning a hypothetical idea that women have their uteruses removed after turning 30 so they feel they have a "time limit" on childbirth.

Omg.


OK we're done. Humanity isn't going to make it. We can't come back from the direction we've gone too far in. There are too many rape-y authoritarian men. Japan and South Korea are going to die first obviously.


"Remove your uterus to reverse the declining birth rate."


Lol.





It's stupid before you even get into the ethics of forced surgery.

When Kaori Arimoto, a senior member of Mr Hyakuta's party who was with him on the programme, suggested that his comments were inappropriate, even as a "science fiction" scenario, he replied, "I was explaining about the time limitation (faced by women in giving birth) in a plain way".

Ms Arimoto said that social values were rapidly changing and many people no longer equated happiness with having children. She asked Mr Hyakuta for his views on restoring these values.

Mr Hyakuta responded that reversing this trend would require changes to the social structure and suggested, hypothetically, that if women felt a "time limit" on childbirth, they might choose to have children earlier.

Women already have an insane time limit to do everything that doesn't work with current society, reducing it won't help.


The truth is men also aren't ready at all when they are younger (not just financially but emotionally,) and then just date younger women when they are when they hit their 40s (by that point women their own age are basically done with their reproductive life.) But most don't date younger women due to a lack of resources/too much competition. Younger women aren't really attracted to older guys unless they're high status etc and even then might be a bit wary these days. The average age gap in relationships is like 4 years top I think in either direction. Really big age gaps are for teachers who are about to go to prison, famous people (was going to say men but I'm pretty sure famous women can do this when they want as well look at Cher,) and really rich people. This leads to lots of single people and couples without kids. 'DINK'

"DINK" is an acronym that stands for "double income, no kids" or "dual income, no kids", referring to couples who are voluntarily childless. It describes a couple without children living together while both partners are receiving an income; because both of their wages are coming into the same household, they are able to live more comfortable economically than couples who live together and spend their money on raising their children. The term was coined at the height of yuppie culture in the 1980s. The Great Recession solidified this social trend, as more couples waited longer to have children or chose not to have children at all.[1]

I think some wealthy attractive women in their 30s are dating younger guys like shoeonhead with her husband who is 5 years younger and conservative (so ready to have kids at a younger age than liberal men.) But that's not an approach most can take. She'd made lots of money from YouTube I'm sure. + It's not really a big age gap.


Obviously this kind of dynamic won't result in kids most of the time because most younger guys don't want to have kids and they also want long term relationships with women their own age and younger. Being unable to get that they settle for something more short term with an older woman.


Also the above is something that can only really work in the West. Japanese culture is stuck in the mindset of 'woman stays home with family after marriage and never works.' And so most women literally have to choose between family and career to an even greater extent than in the West and so lots of couples are like 'well we'll just both work then no one has to sacrifice anything.' Working from home as a YouTuber is also atypical and incredibly flexible.


Also hilarious that they don't think women will just choose to never get married if you do that. It's like the people who complain about no fault divorce. I actually think getting married young is a very bad move. For the minority it really works for it works well, but for a lot of people it works terribly. My parents definitely shouldn't have gotten married in their early 20s it seems my dad didn't really want to. He also didn't want kids until we were born. There are more issues with my family but I hate writing about it.

The Institute for Family Studies reports that those who tie the knot at 30 years old are less likely to end their marriage than those who do so at a younger age (except for religious individuals)

"Everyone seems to be really risk averse so I think increasing the risk will help."


Btw what they are doing above is the female version of what's happening here:

[Nyctophilia]

Look at the creepy kids drawing at 2:56 into this video:







"Nobody cares work harder!"


Wtf is that about? Reminds me of the time someone posted an urban exploration photoshoot of this abandoned mental asylum and there were kids drawings and one of them said something like 'they took my brain' or something like that (can't remember exactly now but it was super creepy.) I think sometimes people plant that kind of thing though.

That kid probably needs help especially if it's an actual kid and not a teenager but the real question is why did they put that up in the background?

Also the woman who's like 'I can do this, I can do that' really does just sound like this she's doing a remix of this song (and the message of this song also kind of fits lol.)

[Nyctophilia]

the sub hundred pound five foot AAP waif who put me in my first dress married a feeder a couple years later and now my brain thinks feederism is getting cucked by food

Lol the things people post now. Imagine trying to explain any of this to a Victorian child. I mean you wouldn't want to explain this to a child obviously.

But you didn't have to specify five foot. All 'AAP's' are sub five foot three.

No not literally all but yes.

like 70% of people who say 'i like masculine women and feminine men' actually just like masculine women and feminine women

60% of the time in practice its "i like masculine women and pre-ordering women" possibly by people not even realizing it

gender nonconformity in "men" is so often a subversion of manhood itself. is a man feminine because that is his preferred expression? or is she feminine because she?s aware that it disqualifies her from manhood and revels in that?

"i feel most punk rock when i put on eyeliner in the men's truck stop bathroom because i know they hate me, i know i piss them off, and that separation from other men feels *good*" says the woman who doesn?t know it yet

Nope.

I always thought I'd be more into wearing makeup if I had more masculine facial features. In an alternative kind of way. In reality I'd probably be just as lazy about everything as I have been since I became a hermit. I've never really worn makeup (maybe 5 occasions ever,) but I did used to put more effort into aesthetics in general. It seems like an expensive habit too though buying stuff buying clothes/makeup/accesories. I've been procrastinating on buying sword/dagger earings for actual years now. They are no longer in fashion I think but that's ideal. They seemed to be several years ago.

I'm not really attracted to femininity but androgynous men are hot 10/10

I am but I also really like this genre:





Although I am also attracted to him as a girl since he posted a genderswapped image to Porcupine Tree's twitter:



And then I was also attracted to someone who looked a bit like him (which was how I got into his music,) and that person much later came out as non-binary.

So basically this means nothing.

But [BEEP] you.

He apparently has a trans cousin actually. Mentioned in autobiography.

I would like this genre but this guy is some far right Nick Fuentes supporter it seems. Along with half the guys and sometimes trans people who look like this now. Though with everyone just being ironic and insincere all the time if not government agents it's hard to say wtf that means. So it puts me off a lot and this video is somewhere between performance art and a mental breakdown as I said yesterday in the post I removed. The vibes (not just in this video,) are just terrible and intimidating at the same time to the point where it basically ruins everything but physically he's cute:



He screams in random parts of the video.

"Whoever you are I probably won't like you and if you found out enough about me you probably wouldn't like me either so we're on even ground right now. But I am cute. You can't lie I am cute."

Yeah.


This guy is trans/queer though as he keeps talking about monster energy drinks.





No I'm joking. It's a joke. He's not trans. He's a government agent/psyop.

I'm sure he knows because he points out at one point in the video that a lot of hot girls drink white monster energy drinks.

I keep seeing memes about how much transgender people like Monster? Why? Is it just an absurdist joke or is there something deeper to it?

It's just a subculture thing. A lot of younger trans girls (especially the ones who spend a lot of time online) are into gaming, anime, programming, and other stuff. Some things just catch on.

It's kinda like how musicals are part of gay culture, but less engrained than that.

monster energy drinks are pretty much a general [BEEP] thing, very popular with trans men and women, enbies and lesbians in particular
I don't know why but that stereotype totally holds up ime

So every one who isn't a cis man? Lol.

I drank a monster energy drink once while in uni so I could see if it helped staying up to get work done in 2009/2010 (and in that kind of subcultural group actually I guess. I was studying a game dev related degree.) Didn't care for it.

Futch guys are my favorite kind of guys

That's one of my favourite genders. They have to have long hair though. Otherwise it won't work at all.

They don't really like masc women either they just like muscular women

No it's the opposite.







I think I watched on episode of this show maybe? Can't remember. I watched a bunch of the show that this show is a spin off of but I could tell this was going to be worse and not my thing. Didn't know she was on the show though.

But I know the people they're talking about and yeah they're just into muscles lol.

Tbf I'm not into masculine women either if you mean physical appearence, just androgynous and not very often.

I think what is recognized less is that when these types say "masculine women" they absolutely do not mean it. They want somewhat muscular women and will freak out at anything beyond that.

biphobia but woke

Kinda.

Okay but in my case I like masculine women and feminine men and women.

And conventionally masculine guys if they fit the pathetic quota. If you have this tendency as a bisexual woman date women please!

???

Tfw your ex liked feminine men but apparently did not like masculine women, or any women at all... and you had thought you being her girlfriend was on preorder but she canceled before the preorder got filled 😭

Even if you're into both you might not be attracted to your partner after they transistion for various reasons.

Can we get an Arcane but yaoi I feel there's not enough yaoi in the world

I don't know why people are so pissed about this tweet. He obviously wasn't saying he wanted Arcane to change just wants something else similar but with yaoi. I also say this as someone who keeps trying to find fanfics for various pairings and failing miserably. Including Samantha/Charlotte from Sex and the City not long ago... The older I get the less common what I'm looking for is lol.

notice how the fujoshi is described creating their sustenance while the himejoshi only seeks it out and puts in no work. even in their writing the himejoshi cannot imagine creating anything

My people are foolish and must gain the light of knowledge

it is imperative you teach your people to pick up the pen. for the good of all

Hey look I agree. There's just always less people involved (except for JJ/Prentiss fanfiction. Everyone seems to have written fanfic for that pairing.) I wrote this earlier lol (the last line being most relevant):

I go through two or three audiobooks a week at my job and when I take a break from scfi and thrillers, I love a romcom.

But I can't find any that are like my relationship. My wife is trans and I'm cis and I can't find a darn thing.

I found books with transfemme leads who end up with either a cis guy or a trans guy. I found books with nb/f relationships. And lots of f/f books with two cis women.

But I want one like my relationship. Just one.

Any recommendations?

I think I looked for one with a trans woman and a non-binary person a few years ago and couldn't find anything, and also looked for that combination and couldn't. So it seems very rare.

This is extremely rare. I won't share my thoughts on why here, but yeah.

Anyway, I'm writing one!

Lol you should.

I read a ton of sapphic fiction, as a reviewer and a writer, and I don't think you will find a sapphic trans woman-centred novel within traditional publishing. Maybe there are some obscure self-published works, I dunno

Strange.

Been trying to find the same and it's honestly so depressing. My bestie and I both love romance novels. She is a cishet woman and she has a million books to choose from that includes her romantic preferences, and for me, a sapphic trans woman, I can barely find anything. It's really sad because we like going to the bookstore together and she often leaves with a romance novel and I never do. Have to do hours of research online, finding niche authors and while I have found a few it's still just sad to see how few there are and how difficult they are to find. Most of the time I just read lesbian romance novels were they never specify that they are cis and just headcanon them to be trans, but idk it's still not the same and inconsistencies often pop up because it becomes clear that the author only had cis women in mind. Shouldn't really be surprised tbh, being trans is being an eternally neglected outsider in so many ways, this sadly being one of them. Most people don't really think about us and those that do usually wants us dead

I wonder if there is stuff with two trans women? I've not stumbled on that either.

(I do mean romance. Obviously there is random erotica I could probably find on literotica or something, and audio porn stuff and visual porn that I don't watch.)

The closest thing is like fanfiction about two crossdressing anime characters from Fruits Basket I read as a teenager. Actually only one crossdressed all the time and passed as a woman (until the end in the cannon work where he gained the confidence to stop crossdressing which has to be my least favourite trope,) the other was just very androgynous and flamboyant with very long hair but I guess also crossdressed just less often.

And Princess Jellyfish where you have to squint (at least in the anime,) and again crossdressing guy who passes as a woman.

there are fanfics with female Loki I guess (not many) with female partners (very rare compared to m/m slash again,) my OTP is Loki/Darcy and was always looking for fem Loki stuff but finding very little also one thing isnt a romance really just a one chapter erotic fic where they have sex in a club bathroom which was pretty hot. But anyway Loki is a shape-shifting genderfluid alien who the rules of Human sex/etc dont apply to and kind of just written like a cis woman often anyway, or an androgynous guy or normie guy mostly depending on the fanfic.

I once read a Cloud/Sephiroth fanfic as a teenager where Cloud had a [BEEP] but wasn't explicitly said to be a trans guy. Lots of vague stuff like that back then. Still is probably.

I kind of headcannon Cloud as a trans guy. I think more people headcannon him as a transwoman. Obviously he's a cis guy but I just think his storyline of idolising other male characters, not living up to that and failing, and losing his identity and having to piece that together himself fits a certain trans masc experience well. Cloud is a very non-binary name though lol.

Anyway I'm sure sapphic stuff with trans characters must exist in manga or anime? I don't read/watch any these days so dunno though.

I've never sought out stuff with trans guy characters because erotic stuff I've stumbled on didn't work for me and I just assume it won't work well. I'm way pickier about m/m stuff these days too (for romance at least, I still read or listen to porn that includes that,) even though that made up most of what I read as a teenager. Like the only thing I've enjoyed recently was Spencer Reid/Langly fanfics. If one guy is really masculine in a stereotypical sense it won't work for me. I could never get into Loki/iron man or Loki/Thor I mean I also don't care for Loki/Thor because I prefer them to be brothers tbf.

There are no other Bishie characters to ship Loki with lol..... I saw some videos that shipped him with Thranduil from The Hobbit lmfao.

I did read some Doctor Strange/Loki fanfics for a bit because of that one scene in the 2017 film where he's like 'handle me?' I like that they both use magic as well. It makes it more gay no lol but maybe.

I'm joking but also kind of not the best Loki/Darcy stuff was also where they are friends and there's 'less of a gap' ? It's less heteronornative in some ways basically but also not common. I read one series like that and Loki's also female occasionally.


Yep now I'm just talking about unrelated fanfiction. Can't believe I couldn't find more Charlotte/Samantha fanfiction from Sex and The City. Nothing I like exists.


I should look for fiction with nerdy characters though sometime while being less lazy. Good idea universe.


Obviously I wanted to find Isha/Slaanesh fanfiction too. I've said so many times. I headcannon Slaanesh as non-binary though. Couldn't find that either. Fml. I mean prob for the best it would be a very fucked up pairing but in a world where there are fanfics about Freddy Krueger why can't a chaos God absorb almost an entire species and abduct an eldar goddess for weird sex games? Has to be more fun than what she's doing with Nurgle. 🙄

Pfft Nurgle. He's no fun at all.

Slaanesh would be fun to roleplay as yes.


Ohh I think I found something from this year. Its not a pairing fic though just a fic about the fall of the Aeldari called 'The Fall' on AO3. I assume this will be more or less cannonical with no relationship/sexual stuff.

the shadow coalesced and solidified into a great serpent, the scales of its enormous head dripping with the sins of the Eldar as it rose from the Sea of Souls to loom over the dying Isle. It was long enough to wrap around worlds, with scales glittering like amethyst and enormous golden eyes with slitted pupils.

That's so aesthetic.

Nurgle.

Isha swallowed as Nurgle landed on the rubble, leering her at her.

"Beloved," The crow crooned. "Come with me. Let us go away from here. I will keep you safe in my garden."

"I would rather die." Isha spat.

"You will die if you don't come with me, beloved" Nurgle answered in what would have been a patient way if his voice wasn?t like acid pouring into her veins. "I-"

"NO !"

For the first time the serpent spoke, all its heads roaring as one.

"SHE IS MINE!"

The crow cawed back, displeased. "Quiet, brat. I've had a claim on my beloved since before you were the echo of an idea.

"Now, where is Mother?"

Isha, who had been trying to use the distraction to slip away, froze as the attention of all four Chaos Gods turned to her, even as a shudder of revulsion and rage went through her at the abomination referring to her as mother.

Nurgle made a noise of disappointment. "Beloved, please. Come with me, it?s for your good. I can protect you from this foolish child of yours."

Morphing back into her Aeldari form, Isha sprinted towards the sun, Isha let the remnants of her power flow out behind her, creating a massive forest with each step, wild and massive and fey, full of dangers that might halt the horde chasing after her for just a moment.

Thats cool too.

I guess this sort of thing is probably as close as I'm going to get lol. I feel like Slaanesh is not too far removed from Marvel Loki conceptually who is much more popular. There are also fanfics about cenobites, Pinhead etc. People are sleeping on this. Then again people only really like Tom Hiddleston's Loki.


I should write something myself but I'm not that familiar at all with the source material so would have to read a bunch more.

Me when I just have bad taste: Clearly everyone is sleeping on this. LOL.

edit: Parts of this fanfic I started skimreading are now the closest:

Slaanesh was delighted to see Isha. So much time lost between them. After Sanguinius's apotheosis, she intended to try and convince him to let her have the eldar goddess as a plaything. For now however, she had to soulbind Isha. As she pounced on the struggling goddess, Nurgle entered his home. She considered grabbing Sanguinius and running, until the angel's voice rang out "Keep doing what your doing, and finish the process." He said, forcing her to continue trying to bind the struggling goddess. Eventually she had her arms pinned at her sides straddling her, and began the process of soul binding, which took far longer with the target resisting.

After that the fanfic got very gross for a bit lol because of Nurgle attacking Sanguinius.

Sanguinius stepped through onto the sands of Baal dragging the two goddesses. He then picked them up underneath his arms and flew off towards his fortress monastery. On the way there Sanguinius said to Slaanesh "Do not try to corrupt anyone. Do not do anything corruptive. You can torture any eldar we find however you want, but beyond that, do nothing untoward."

Isha tensed as he spoke. Sanguinius then said "Isha is the exception. Do nothing to her specifically unless you are told to by me or the Empress or given permission by her."

Slaanesh slumped in disappointment.

aww lol.

Walking up to her companion, Slaanesh said "As powerful as we are, you don't really need armor."



Isha groaned with disgust. "Unlike you, I have some semblance of modesty." She said venomously.



Slaanesh recoiled in mock hurt. "How cruel, I thought we were becoming friends." She said with false sadness.

[Nyctophilia]

I saw this video of an elephant pretending to eat a guy's hat:



Apparently a bunch will do that:

Elephant has a sense of humor. It's incredible!

As cool as that would be it's more likely training. The deer in nara will bow for crackers:




Oh I forgot about this track. I listened to it bunch a long time ago (maybe a decade or more ago.) Pretty sure this isn't about the deer lol. It's part of the soundtrack of something I forget what though:



Oh no it is about the city lol. OK.

In keeping with the theme of "all things past", each of the thirteen tracks on the album is named after an ancient city, most of which have been abandoned or destroyed, though Cuzco, Nara, Isfahan, and Estremoz still survive to this day.

Probably should have been obvious because of the flute part but yeah.

Well it's still not about the deer though.

It's used on Cold Case right. I never watched that show. I just knew for some reason lol.

There was another track I liked by them too. This one:



Was looking for this song (it actually does reference the deer lol):




"To be a deer in Nara"