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    Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic

    "To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire... those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

    Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving."

    Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory

    So? Do men love other men because they embody the hero archetype?
    Why do I keep running into this quote everywhere these days? Always being posted by men and mostly reacted to by men.

    I wish she wasn't so bitter (or trying to be edgy,) that she used the word homoerotic because most people end up fixating on that aspect instead of what she was actually saying.

    Do you (if you identify as a man) love men because they embody the hero archetype?
    I think so, especially when I was a child. I'd always love characters with hero and trickster traits. It made me admire their nonchalance to life and how they'd save everyone
    if youre gay just say that
    Bi actually :3

    Here's another quote from her:

    "There is so much pressure on women to be heterosexual, and this pressure is both so pervasive and so completely denied, that I think heterosexuality cannot come naturally to many women: I think that widespread heterosexuality among women is a highly artificial product of the patriarchy. I think that most women have to be coerced into heterosexuality."

    Do you think women are only straight because they're forced to be by the patriarchy?
    Kinda funny this is an academic and she thinks she can define love based on the traits she loves. Then notice that men appreciate different traits in women so the logic she somehow conjures is that men don't love women. It's stupid this is maybe the stupidest thing I've seen. Of course men and women love different things about each other. Men recognize and respect the same things in other men as women do but we love the woman because love is a connection it's not idealizing someone. Everyone fuckin writes now days no one?s gonna know anything
    I agree that Frye is articulating something she feels dispositionally is true about men. It's anger, it's alienation-- men are over there playing their male games, look at how they love and admire each other, see how they are friends and teachers and idols, and they will never love you, women, as they love themselves. Men see women as merely means to their own ends, but they respect each other as ends in and of themselves-- that kind of thing. And if you have that disposition, or if you just assume that disposition for a moment, you can riff on that over and over. Not much discovery happening there.


    She continued to explain that a "lead AI demon" called Dark Matter then "enters basically as the "black swan" to claire de lune". However, the two entities "fall into a lesbian romance due to the fact that they are the only two fully Ai beings in this universe?.

    Men and women are fundamentally different , and experience life through different lenses. There is camaraderie in male bonds because they both share similar experiences. A man can never experience what love is like between two sisters, for example.

    Why are you seeing problems with the way masculinity is expressed, but not with toxic femininity. It seems like you are taking on the role of victim, and blaming men for all your woes.

    Society often conditions men to reserve admiration, respect, and idealization for other men because they?re seen as equals or role models.
    Women are not the equals of men. That's a fact, so why should they see them as such? Why should men aspire to be like women? They value different things; even our brains are different. Toxic femininity has told women that they need to be like men to succeed, instead of embracing the traits that make them unique. Women are having an identity crisis.

    Toxic femininity tells women to objectify themselves. Women are told by other women that lip fillers, butt lifts, nose jobs, and other cosmetic procedures are what men like. They are told that they should give up their most fertile year to establish a career for themselves. It also encourages lying to each other. For example, if someone in the friend group is ugly, all the other women will say she is beautiful. This type of lying is the root cause of most delusional thinking.

    I'm not sure what the various archetypes have to do with love, so you may need to help me out with the correlation. The various archetypes were created through observation. Throughout history women have been the nurturers and caregivers. There may be a few outliers, but those are the exception, not the rule; just like there are men who are nurturing and caring.
    Because it's hot. Most of the rest of this post is too heterosexual for me and therefor a turn off.

    Pseudo intellectual culture is word garbage and stems from deep insecurity and the need for attention. Women don?t look up to and revere other women? I'm male and look up to Joni Mitchell so I guess I'm a covert trans lesbian in my subconscious? I'll write a giant theory and waste a couple weeks deconstructing random things.
    Yeah I think you should write a fanfic about yourself as a lesbian and a female musician who looks like but isn't Joni Mitchell.

    Kind of got curious what people were saying elsewhere and found a post on a subreddit called exredpill.

    What does this quote mean?

    I've (25m) never been in a romantic relationship with a woman. I've been working on myself to get rid of some problematic thought towards women.

    But I found this quote that a lot of women seem to resonate with:

    "To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire? those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

    Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving. - Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality "

    I'm kind of confused. I've grown up around mainly women and have a fair few women I recognize as very admirable people, but this quote makes me question if I've ever been truly respectful to the women in my life. How am I even supposed properly to show love or attraction towards women without it disrespecting or inconveniencing them?
    I wouldn't think about it too much in that way. The author is 83 years old and feels lonely because she's not a man.

    She was born in a time before BL and slash fanfiction and so on could have saved her.

    Well made a marginal improvement. Then again if she had the personality type (creative) for that perhaps she would have been Anne Rice in the first place though, right?

    Are heterosexual men more attracted to the opposite sex than vice versa ? If so , shouldn't this skewness in attraction be addressed as it will lead to men seeming more desperate as a group ?
    That's already how men are portrayed, although a lot are actually ambivalent.

    I agree though we should force men to grow out their hair and then see what percentage I find attractive.

    As much as some men won't admit this and say that women are way more shallow, evidence shows that this is the case in a physical way.
    If you are saying men are more shallow, I agree
    Finally someone here who agrees and gets what I said! I?m not even saying they all are or that women aren?t, just that on average they are when it comes to looks.
    I am certainly more shallow about looks than my wife is. And if you look at movies and sitcoms and fairy tales like Beauty and the Beast, male characters are allowed to be ugly but never the female characters. This is sad but universal across fiction in cultures. I can't think of a single rom com in ANY language that has an ugly heroine and a good looking hero. It's obvious the male audience is shallower.

    This sub is comprised of good people, who are very politically correct about what can and cannot be said about men & women. So they won't like it if you say that one gender has different sexual motivation than the other gender.
    It's OK I'll be shallow on their behalf.

    This isn't quite doing that but almost. The guy is more objectified overall and besides the makeover parts which destroy the point she's a otaku who is not attractive and they're all scared of attractive people but really she's just average looking imo:

    Lol I've never watched the dub before:



    You absolutely will have to look to Japan or South Korea for anything like this though.









    This is still the best painting though:



    I noticed in another reddit post I stumbled on everyone was having a meltdown over some video game elf or something I dunno.

    Is this related? (I haven't watched this video yet lol...)



    This surely is:



    Someone from twitter was doing phrenology or something on whoever the character is in the thumbnail.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    Today I learnt there is a Sonic the hedgehog protein, also a pikachurin protein, and a spock1 gene.

    My friend sent me this reddit thread about this discovery by a Japanese research team that can maybe allow you to grow a third set of teeth using this drug. Related:

    https://www.france24.com/en/live-new...o-regrow-teeth

    Tests on mice and ferrets suggest that blocking a protein called USAG-1 can awaken the third set, and the researchers have published lab photographs of regrown animal teeth.

    In a study published last year, the team said their "antibody treatment in mice is effective for tooth regeneration and can be a breakthrough in treating tooth anomalies in humans".
    and then I started reading the comment section in the reddit thread where someone had brought up the sonic protein lmfao.

    https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3264868/

    The etiology of autism spectrum disorders (ASD) is not well known but oxidative stress has been suggested to play a pathological role. We report here that the serum levels of Sonic hedgehog (SHH) protein and brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF) might be linked to oxidative stress in ASD. By using the whole blood or polymorphonuclear leukocytes, we demonstrated that autistic children produced a significantly higher level of oxygen free radicals (OFR). In addition, we found significantly higher levels of serum SHH protein in children with mild as well as severe form of autism. We also found that the serum level of BDNF was significantly reduced in autistic children with mild form of the disorder but not with severe form of the disorder. Our findings are the first to report a correlation between SHH, BDNF and OFR in autistic children, suggesting a pathological role of oxidative stress and SHH in autism spectrum disorders.


    I think this is how the Sonic name happened:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedgeh...naling_pathway

    The Hedgehog signaling pathway is a signaling pathway that transmits information to embryonic cells required for proper cell differentiation. Different parts of the embryo have different concentrations of hedgehog signaling proteins. The pathway also has roles in the adult. Diseases associated with the malfunction of this pathway include cancer.[1][2]

    The Hedgehog signaling pathway is one of the key regulators of animal development and is present in all bilaterians.[3] The pathway takes its name from its polypeptide ligand, an intracellular signaling molecule called Hedgehog (Hh) found in fruit flies of the genus Drosophila; fruit fly larvae lacking the Hh gene are said to resemble hedgehogs. Hh is one of Drosophila's segment polarity gene products, involved in establishing the basis of the fly body plan. The molecule remains important during later stages of embryogenesis and metamorphosis.

    Mammals have three Hedgehog homologues, Desert (DHH), Indian (IHH), and Sonic (SHH), of which Sonic is the best studied. The pathway is equally important during vertebrate embryonic development and is therefore of interest in evolutionary developmental biology. In knockout mice lacking components of the pathway, the brain, skeleton, musculature, gastrointestinal tract and lungs fail to develop correctly. Recent studies point to the role of Hedgehog signaling in regulating adult stem cells involved in maintenance and regeneration of adult tissues. The pathway has also been implicated in the development of some cancers.[1] Drugs that specifically target Hedgehog signaling to fight this disease are being actively developed by a number of pharmaceutical companies.
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sonic_hedgehog_protein

    "The gene has been linked to a condition known as holoprosencephaly, which can result in severe brain, skull and facial defects, causing a few clinicians and scientists to criticize the name on the grounds that it sounds too frivolous. It has been noted that mention of a mutation in a sonic hedgehog gene might not be well received in a discussion of a serious disorder with a patient or their family.[17][90][91] This controversy has largely died down, and the name is now generally seen as a humorous relic of the time before the rise of fast, cheap complete genome sequencing and standardized nomenclature.[92] The problem of the "inappropriateness" of the names of genes such as "Mothers against decapentaplegic," "Lunatic fringe," and "Sonic hedgehog" is largely avoided by using standardized abbreviations when speaking with patients and their families.[93] "
    ^ I shared that with my friend and he was like:

    Should have called it the Robotnik gene
    So I said:

    that's mentioned:

    Robotnikinin

    A potential inhibitor of the Hedgehog signaling pathway has been found and dubbed "Robotnikinin"?after Sonic the Hedgehog's nemesis and the main antagonist of the Sonic the Hedgehog game series, Dr. Ivo "Eggman" Robotnik.[89]
    😂

    friend:

    Good lord
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    I'm looking for humanoid rabbit stories again. I found a review for this one writte by Jasper Fforde:

    England, 2020.

    There are 1.2 million human-sized rabbits living in the UK.

    They can walk, talk and drive cars, the result of an Inexplicable Anthropomorphising Event fifty-five years ago. And a family of rabbits is about to move into Much Hemlock, a cosy little village where life revolves around summer fetes, jam-making, gossipy corner stores, and the oh-so-important Best Kept Village awards.

    No sooner have the rabbits arrived than the villagers decide they must depart. But Mrs Constance Rabbit is made of sterner stuff, and her family are behind her. Unusually, so are their neighbours, long-time residents Peter Knox and his daughter Pippa, who soon find that you can be a friend to rabbits or humans, but not both.

    With a blossoming romance, acute cultural differences, enforced rehoming to a MegaWarren in Wales, and the full power of the ruling United Kingdom Anti Rabbit Party against them, Peter and Pippa are about to question everything they?d ever thought about their friends, their nation, and their species.

    It'll take a rabbit to teach a human humanity...

    Hmm this is almost what I was looking for but seems a bit heavier based on this + some of the comments I'm reading and not technically a romance book. I mean I like the inclusion of social dynamics/culture stuff for this kind of thing but this sounds like the romance is very minor? Also seems like the main rabbit character is a female rabbit?

    When I read the blurb for this one, however, I did go "goodness, this is a bit on-the-nose for Fforde", but I set it aside to read closer to the release date, and that's how I ended up reading a very on-the-nose-not-just-for-Fforde and not-at-all-subtle book about the way Middle English conservatism treats oppressed minorities in the middle of global riots for BLM, as a prominent children's author peddled transphobic ideologies during Pride Month, while the UK draws ever closer to crashing its way out of the EU in the most aggressive way possible.

    So, that was great for my stress levels.

    It's clear - very clear - that this book was written in response to Brexit, and potentially the refugee crisis. It's coded xenophobically, but a lot of the language in it, and the discussion of personhood echoes both with racist and homophobic and transphobic rhetoric. I get the impression Fforde is angry. It caught me by surprise, I follow his instagram and it's almost entirely photographs of aeroplanes, ceilings and vegetables. Clearly instead of venting his spleen online, he channelled into a book that is both a laughably thinly-veiled allegory of current behaviour (and I think that's intentional) and absolutely unforgiving in the way society breeds and enables these ideals.
    Well, he also might vent anonmously. Not everyone is like Stephen King and JK Rowling doing politics on main.

    A book exploring prejudice and social oppression through the lense of humans vs giant anthropomorphic rabbits. Its parallels aren't subtle, and it isn't an easy read if you've found a certain flavour of politics quite stressful over recent years.

    It doesn't have the sort of plot that usually pushes a Fforde book forwards, because it's not really about the plot, it's about circumstances coming together to help an everyman figure realise his faults and how to become a better person.

    I found the ending a little lacklustre, but the emphasis isn't really on the outcome of the plotline so perhaps that's why it doesn't feel like a major payoff. It's about character growth, and you do see that.
    From some other review:

    In 1965, an "Anthropomorphising Event" transformed 18 ordinary rabbits into 18 intelligent, talking, human-sized rabbits. By 2020, there are over a million of them in Britain, and the United Kingdom Anti-Rabbit Party has taken power. Peter Knox is a small-town "rabbit spotter" whose life is changed when a family of rabbits -- one of whom, Constance, was his friend in university -- moves in next door.
    That's very cute, or not cute I guess.

    I even cried at the end though I can't say why without spoilers.
    I'm hearing this a lot and that's why I don't really want to read it...

    Like how I don't want to watch Requiem for a Dream even though I hear it's good because I know something happens and someone said they liked this book a lot but don't want to read it again because of how heavy it was. I watched Grave of the Fireflies once and that was enough for me.

    Anyway so there is stuff like what I'm looking for but all of it in written form is m/m homoerotica (I've stumbled on straight stuff like this in audio form which is why I got curious in the first place.) I also read a story with a humanoid rabbit who was in this male vampire's harem as a teenager with some other humanoid animal people. I used to read m/m stuff almost exclusively as a teenager but only on/off in my 20s and not as into it these days + very particular about it.

    In the audio thing I was listening to there was a female hunter basically who got trapped in her own trap. It was a very short porn kind of thing but I think it would be interesting if there was something similar as a longer romance story...

    Oh look one of the 353242342342342 male werewolf stories...

    Chasing His Bunny: A Wolf-Shifter Fated Mate Romance (Big Bad Bunnies Series Book 1)

    He's a wolf. She's a bunny. Surely she's just a sweet snack and not his fated mate?
    No... God I hate gender.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    Briana Boston is facing 15 years in jail for getting frustrated on a phone call with her health care insurance company. After her claim was denied, she said emotionally, "Delay, Deny, Depose. You people are next."
    Yeah that's stupid (tyrannical actually.) The UK does stuff like this all the time but thought one of the few advantages to the US was not doing stuff like this but guess they're touchy about this right now. It's an insane amount of time regardless with no weapon and no plan and they know this is bs. And I've said this kind of thing or had to really work hard to stop myself from saying this kind of thing a lot not in person but online. Sometimes directly and sometimes indirectly. So I have sympathy.



    I'm so tired and you can't even move anywhere to get away from this purposefully ambiguous and vague interpretation of speech laws.

    Also the claim that she's a copycat who was arrested for threats to commit a mass shooting... What? With the most liberal of interpretations that is incredibly trumped up. Mangione assasinated one guy.

    There are two things here that bother me about Briana Boston's case.

    First, that a judge can set an unreasonably high bond based off the country's vibes

    Second, the statue she's being charged with doesn't include telephone calls? I'm not a lawyer so if anyone could explain...

    Yeah you're going to see a lot of stupid stuff like this.

    There are men in the US who have killed trans women who get no prison time (literally there's one case in particular I'm thinking of because of the gay/trans panic defence but they've started taking that less seriously,) and numerous murderers and rapists who get shorter sentences throughout the world...

    Recently the UK's prisons have started to run out of room so they've spoken about letting people with lesser crimes out early.

    The government released thousands of inmates early in order to free up space - with more than 1,700 let out in England and Wales in September, and then another 1,200 in October.
    But I'm guessing this won't happen/be necessary in the US as they have more space (the UK is incredibly densely populated and nobody wants to live next to a prison lol,) the plan is to just imprison everyone sooner or later. Because otherwise how will they maintain their world record?





    AMERICA IS AN OLIGARCHY
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    [BEEP] YOU ELON MUSK
    "When the looting starts, the shooting starts" is a phrase originally used by Walter E. Headley, the police chief of Miami, Florida, in response to an outbreak of violent crime during the 1967 Christmas holiday season.[1][2] He accused "young hoodlums, from 15 to 21", of taking "advantage of the civil rights campaign" that was then sweeping the United States. Having ordered his officers to combat the violence with shotguns, he told the press that "we don't mind being accused of police brutality".[1][3] The quote may have been borrowed from a 1963 comment from Birmingham, Alabama police chief Bull Connor. It was featured in Headley's 1968 obituary published by the Miami Herald.

    The quote was similarly used and possibly repeated by Headley himself in response to the 1968 Miami riots. Variations of the quote may have been used by other political figures, such as Alabama governor George Wallace, Philadelphia police commissioner and eventual mayor Frank Rizzo, and Chicago mayor Richard J. Daley, and in 2020 by U.S. president Donald Trump.
    In the aftermath of Hurricanes Katrina (2005), Ike (2008), Sandy (2012), and Harvey (2017),[48] would-be robbers were warned that vigilante deadly force would be used for property crimes through hand-painted signs that read "you loot, we shoot". Authorization of deadly force by police officers following natural disasters dates back at least as far as the 1906 San Francisco earthquake, when Mayor Eugene Schmitz declared "The federal troops, which are now policing a portion of the city, as well as the regular and special members of the police force, have been authorized by me to kill any persons whomsoever, found engaged in looting the effects of any citizen or otherwise engaged in the commission of crime."[49]

    Reports of vigilantes shooting black Americans in New Orleans during the aftermath of Katrina had circulated since 2005, most notably centered on the Algiers Point neighborhood.[50] In 2010, The New Orleans Times-Picayune reported that officers of the New Orleans Police Department had been authorized to shoot looters, although none of the officers involved in 11 civilian shootings cited that order in their defense.[51] Mayor Ray Nagin had requested a declaration of martial law in response to reports of widespread looting,[52] but lacked the authority to declare it.[53]

    British street artist Banksy repurposed the same phrase in a 2018 piece depicting a stockbroker fleeing the New York Stock Exchange with bundles of cash.[54]
    "But they're criminals."

    Yeah so are these life insurance companies lol. But presidents can literally just start wars after all.



    "I have no problem with theft. May I be honest with you? I have no problem with theft."

    I completely understand why he said that.

    I'm hearing the judge has a history too.

    https://www.polk.edu/news/polk-state...dges-chambers/

    Combee entered the healthcare field, working her way up through the corporate offices of Laboratory Corporation of America, overseeing quality assurance and scientific affairs, eventually becoming an associate vice president of the S&P 500 company. She ended her career in the healthcare field as chief operating officer of Columbia Central Florida Laboratory Services in 1997.

    It was through those career experiences that Combee's interest in law emerged.

    "We dealt with rules and regulations all the time -- especially figuring out ways around those rules and regulations," she quipped.

    At 45, after having also earned a Master of Business Administration from USF, Combee enrolled at Stetson University College of Law, beginning her transformation from executive to litigator.
    I literally just saw a psychopath troll (cause that's what they are,) say something incredibly disgusting to a woman on twitter, an equally credible threat. Will the US authorities do anything about this? No of course not.



    I really get it.



    "Very violent eulogy I like it."

    Spoilers but I'm surprised it Spoiler: took her 7 seasons to quit lol.

    I'm guessing that if he said the same thing to an insurance company, he'd be arrested. 🤔
    Strap in for this comment over and over now lol. Because people are saying heinous things on twitter 24/7.

    It's a sitcom so they like to have a bunch of personality archetypes that loosely represent a crossection of the population but hers really clashed with that role.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    ^ The guy in the news clip in Hasan's video who is like 'I didn't seen any kind of memorial for this guy who was shot'

    "Why is nobody asking why normally Americans are supposed to be super anti this sort of thing but it seems like they're not reacting in the way that we want them to. I feel like that is the real story. Those who are supposed to identify and figure out why people feel this way are just not doing their jobs at all."

    Yeah so as he says he's doing the thing where they just kind of play dumb and it is annoying. As Bill Burr said before (and then got ranted about by Ben Shapiro multiple times lol):



    "We can't have white guys in suits getting whacked"

    Where was this level of coverage when this happened lol?

    I'm trying not to quote anything overly graphic here but there's still a vague description of what happened:

    CHRISTIANSBURG, Va. -- Former Virginia Tech football player Isimemen Etute was found not guilty of all charges Friday Spoiler: in the beating death of a Blacksburg resident following an online catfishing scheme.

    Etute, a Virginia Tech freshman linebacker at the time of the incident in May 2021, had been charged with Spoiler: second-degree murder, which carries a sentence of five to 40 years, and the jury could have convicted him on the lesser charge of Spoiler: voluntary manslaughter. Instead, the jury believed a self-defense argument that Spoiler: Etute feared for his life after seeing the victim "make a reach" toward his bed where a knife was later found.

    Etute collapsed in tears as the verdict was read, with cheers erupting from a contingent of about 30 family members, supporters and former teammates.
    Etute was arrested June 2, 2021, and charged with the May 31 Spoiler: murder of Jerry Smith, a local Blacksburg man who had posed as a woman online to meet straight, college-aged men.

    According to testimony, Etute first connected with Smith in April 2021 on the dating app Tinder, with Smith posing as a woman going by the name "Angie Renee." Along with teammate Da'Shawn Elder, Etute went to Smith's Blacksburg apartment on April 10 under the assumption that he was meeting a woman. Elder testified that he was disturbed by the circumstances of the meeting, in which Smith hid his face and kept his apartment nearly pitch dark. Both players initially left, but Etute returned to the apartment, and testified that he received oral sex and a $50 gift from Smith.

    Etute testified that he left the April 10 encounter still believing Smith was a woman, but teammates later began teasing him that his sexual partner could have been a man.
    During a police search of the apartment, Spoiler: a knife was found between Smith's mattress and box spring, but Etute testified he never saw the knife, and he did not mention any concerns for his own safety during his initial police interview on June 2, 2021.

    Spoiler: On July 1, 2021 -- just more than a month after Smith's death -- Virginia passed a bill restricting the use of the so-called gay panic defense, in which a defendant accused of homicide could receive a lesser sentence by saying they panicked after finding out the victim's sexual orientation or gender identity. The judge in Etute's case ruled that the new legislation did not apply to this case, as it was enacted after the incident took place, though Turk argued it likely would not have altered the outcome of the trial.
    In closing arguments Friday, the prosecution said Etute's recollection of events did not include a Spoiler: reach toward the area where the knife was hidden until after he'd been charged with murder.
    America - where violence is legal sometimes and words are sometimes violence.

    Nah I'm not buying self defence these kind of guys do this [BEEP] all the time. They have an honour culture so they take stuff like this really seriously and then get Spoiler: murdery.

    I still think now and then about Edward Dutton's former university friend in the UK who was a trans woman who he wrote about in one of his books I was skimreading. Edward Dutton is a British hedetarian who moved to Finland at some point and takes part in highly questionable research and is generally viewed as far right and an anti-feminist. He kept forgetting who she was and then seeing attractive women and remembering 'oh right' because they lost contact. She was a philosophy student and then ended up becoming a sex worker Spoiler: and was killed, probably by a client + her flat was set on fire. You can find news articles about her she lived in Brighton at that point from what I remember.

    Curiously to me she kind of looked like Contrapoints and had a similar education background. But this was long before Contrapoints came out. Edward thought she was autistic I think or maybe she was diagnosed.

    I'm sticking quotes etc under spoiler tags, though I've removed some parts anyway:

    Once I got over the shock, I knew immediately what must have happened. I could imagine it vividly. Some middle-aged, single man, probably uneducated, a laborer or something, pays Dreya for sex.
    Spoiler:
    He comments on how amazingly neat Dreya's [BEEP] is or how uncommonly perfect her breasts are.Dreya, in her autistic innocence, replies, "Yes. Well, they are very perfect, unnaturally perfect, but that's because I was actually born male and had gender reassignment therapy. So, like, that would explain their nearperfect shape." The manly builder, who prides himself on his manliness, realizes that, as far as he's concerned, he's had sex with a man. He completely loses all self-control.
    I was sure that this was what had happened. I was so sure that I telephoned the newspaper to tell them so. The News Desk journalist was incredulous at being informed that "Andrea Joanna Waddell" (as was now the name) was once "Alexander John Waddell." He didn't believe me. He asked if anyone could corroborate what I was saying, so I gave him the phone number of a friend from university who did just that. It turned out that my instinct was shared even by the prosecution when the case came to trial in May 2010. The murderer, a 42-year-old Sky TV fitter named Neil McMillan, pleaded "not guilty," but was convicted due to forensic and CCTV evidence. He had paid Dreya 140 for sex but, at some point, also being very drunk, [...]


    And that's why I don't like 'them'



    But it's the only thing they have to cling to culturally unfortunately. Everything else is taken from them by the men (and sometimes women,) in suits. Slenderman if you will. The Gentleman from Buffy... Not a coincidence.

    Spoiler: I'm also aware that this happens to sex workers in general because people have very little respect for them, drunk people with psychopathic traits are also a serious liability. Drunk people in general but it's worse when someone has psychopathic traits. As of course people who see sex workers (some forms of sex workers more than others as this varies,) often do and then on top of that people who are into trans women I reckon.

    I say this as someone who is sexually fluid by the way as a group we have higher rates of dark triad traits well at least women do since most men have higher rates in general so research there is inconsistent. It's because psychopaths are transgressive so anything that is transgressive will attract people who are more psychopathic and it's a spectrum too obviously. So not everyone with higher traits is clinically psychopathic but anyway.


    Trans women are dehumanised even more than cis women by a lot of men, because they can't give birth and occupy a kind of ambiguous space gender wise. So to hypothesise they have sexual attraction to them (typically less than with cis women but this varies,) but no protective feelings like they would (usually) have with cis women. (but it's complicated somewhat by the fact a lot of these kind of guys are the same ones who would Spoiler: be responsible for domestic violence with cis women too this guy in particular had been found guilty of weeks prior Spoiler: having raped a woman in a hotel room it's important to note the different levels of force used there though.)

    It is a little more complicated than that though that's like a transfeminist argument I think, and I think there's a lot of truth to it but it's also worth noting that this happens with trans men too:

    Spoiler:
    Results showed that both transgender women and men had higher rates of violent victimization than their cisgender counterparts, but there were no differences between transgender men and women.


    I think gender ambiguity infuriates certain people in general. Bad things like this also happened to her even before over and over:

    Her life reads like a catalogue of disasters. Spoiler: She was bullied at school, knocked down by a car in Battersea, mugged in Prague, and once attacked by a gang of young thugs in Reading. While completing her second degree she developed acute ulcerative colitis which was nearly fatal, but she underwent successfully surgery resulting in an ileostomy, which was later reversed.92
    This trans woman he knew + some lesbian witches (no they really identified as witches,) and I guess one probable trans guy during his times at university had a big impact I think on a lot of Edward's thoughts about genetics. He used to go to LGBT+ meetups at his university out of curiosity I guess, alongside Christian stuff.

    (One of the former 'lesbian witches' - the more feminine one who he found pretty which clearly bothered him - came out as a trans guy I think, but his description was slightly vague but it seems a reasonable assumption. I don't know if any of them were bisexual as people tend to just say lesbian when two women are in a relationship.)

    So more than with most people, this is a very personal thing for him I think. If you look at history [BEEP] people often die younger than average and have chaotic lifestyles just look at Byron or Elagabalus but he seems to imply if everyone had gone around insisting his friend was a man, his friend would still be alive 🙄 I don't know why he just mixes up pronouns throughout inconsistently but yeah (he does spend a lot of time judging people btw both in his writing and tweets, not impartial at all):

    I am not so much interested in judging Dreya, either. But we should try to understand her and people like her. This is especially important now that such people are increasingly socially prominent--and particularly now that you can lose your job if you fail to accept their assertions about gender and identity as unconditional facts.

    My friend suffered from Gender Dysphoria and Paraphilia. My friend was autistic and seriously physically and mentally ill, points also congruous with these traits being products of developmental instability and high mutational load. Even her left-wing viewpoints have been shown to be associated with evidence of mutational load, as discussed earlier, which makes sense, as they tend to correlate with not having children, meaning that those who hold them are maladaptive. Of course, saying this may be regarded as a "judgment" (albeit one empirically based), but if more people had "judged" my friend in this way--and, most of all, helped him and her through mental illness, rather than encouraged him and her to make a virtue out of it--Alex may well have been alive today, perhaps writing poetry, reviewing cuttingedge cocktails, and leading a local Philosophy Society.
    Her being misgendered wouldn't impact any of this really.

    Kurt Cobain called too (mostly so I could include a music video in this post):



    Some of the best music about serial killers and not about serial killers was created by people with transgender cousins I hear. (Not him, Steven Wilson lol.)





    Who are the conservative dad rock guys going to listen to if people don't have transgender cousins?

    Oh right they only like classical music I forgot lol. Never mind then.

    You have to be very intelligent to make classical music and even though people still make music like that it evidently does not meet this crowd's standards (as I've said before.) I'm not an expert on classical music though obviously.

    Also rock is dead RIP.



    I love this era so far.

    None of my cousins are rock stars clearly they're doing something wrong (not me procrastinating on making gingerbread biscuits and video editing.) Actually four of them have kids (3 female cousins, one male,) one I think doesn't but not heard much about him in ages, two are too young to have kids really, me and my brother don't have kids and then I have another male cousin who has a psychotic disorder and has no kids. I'm the wrong kind of transgender clearly. Actually my dad said some cousin of his in Germany is in a band but he didn't seem to know many details so I can't check who that is.

    Dad: "I never understood why you guys don't make music or something."

    (to me and my brother months ago who has never expressed an interest in that in his life.)

    Also dad: "You have to be careful because doing anything is incredibly risky."

    Hmmmmmmmmm.

    (Also I tried numerous times over the years and to put it bluntly I don't have the attention span or skill/intelligence etc necessary for self teaching and doing that really. But I did really want to do something with one idea I was working on in 2016 but realistically won't happen, especially since I'm doing storytelling video game stuff on YouTube now instead.)

    I guess Rick Beato was right haha but I'm a younger millenial and no one's missing much in my case believe me lol:



    I still disagree about what he says about music not occuring while playing though. I think about and notice video game soundtracks all the time. I haven't even played this game lol as far as I remember and the music is great:



    But in terms of creating stuff sure.

    "It's maladaptive to reproduction so it's bad" when you're talking about up to 40%+ of people? Or more? Certainly not just trans people and not just autistic people and so on - is quite the statement. Of course his loophole for that is that a minority of people are 'genetic mutants' and the rest were just tricked by a psychological virus. Have you thought that if you're that bad at convincing people to adopt a conservative lifestyle and to reproduce (since that's a major focus now,) you're the problem then? But he owned a cat before which by his own logic says a lot about his personality.

    It also occurs to me though that this kind of thing happens, because nobody tries to help 'naive' men or trans women:

    As the trial progressed, Dreya's naivety became ever clearer. She kept 37,000 in cash at her flat in a filing cabinet in the sitting room. She advertised her services on websites such as one called "Adult Works." Dreya had even contacted the "National Union of Prostitutes" to ask how she could go about paying tax on her earnings.89
    And tbf it's kind of hard sometimes eg:

    trans guy yelling at me that i lack reasonable personal safety standards bc i walk around at night in my dress and let strangers approach me... yes... yes i do... i love u tboy, for caring... but i love being trash too much

    i feel like its kind of transfem coded to drink booze with homeless dudes sometimes or chat with random sketchy dudes who approach you at night with weird questions
    This is so true I have so many sketchy interactions with homeless people now that I'm kind of a girl
    this almost makes me wanna try hrt
    Yeah you should it's fun and good for many reasons 👍
    my gf just carries a gun
    My gf carries a knife in her boot... i carry a switchblade in my purse
    so real, i used to buy packs of beer and share them with homeless guys while they monologued at me about not seeing their kids and how gaia created everything... most ppl r so boring by comparison, as tho their souls have been eroded or smthn
    absolutely is, i sat w a dude and his girl in the woods in the shack he built smoking joints and showing them videos of me getting head on my phone
    that frightens the [BEEP] out of me
    ^ Lol. (That last quote.)

    I like to call them sidequest givers
    I think some people are in some kind of competition about this too.. I definitely think so. Aella is like this too (Aella is a bisexual agender womanish person though, she's not a trans woman basically is what I'm saying,) clearly the same personality type:



    I'm conflicted too because I hate when people act protective towards me hahaha. Like my dad. I absolutely hate it (it's probably worse because it's my dad though I think as it's coupled with my dislike of infantilisation. Perhaps this dynamic started when I was a young kid and was trying to run into the ocean and he had to keep stopping me who knows? But I don't remember this much during childhood I'm a naturally neurotic/anxious person so feel like I don't need it. But I remember one moment as a teenager and then a lot more stuff as an adult.) But some people - parents usually - go overboard with being protective. I've read some insane stories online.

    I've been quite lucky though. I know multiple people who have been mugged over the years but nothing has ever really happened to me. I mean besides being bullied in school and mild sexual harrasment. I'm not taking unnecessary risks like this though, I just go to concerts alone at night and things like that which already my dad dislikes. You get a lifetime of this kind of thing from people when you're afab and as I say, I hate it and the psychological impact of it that increases risk aversion (a serious problem in our culture now.) However, some people are just the complete opposite extreme.

    Actually a lot of trans women are very concerned about their personal safety though especially when they've had a lot of negative experiences in life.

    walking around portland w my gf and some random homeless sleazy looking guy approaches us n asks for a cig... After i give him one he goes "are you both uh .. transgender girls 🤙🏻🤙🏻🤙🏻???" And i laughed like a ditzy idiot and went "haha yeahhhhh"
    Or walking around mexico city with my ex and ending up drinking wjth a homeless guy who then proceeded to call us 'hermanos'
    Being with someone else has less of an impact though tbf. I had two guys ask me this in one night once (and in different towns/cities,) the second guy just started yelling after me after I answered him and I'm not sure if it's because he didn't hear my answer or wanted something else. I still think about that because it was so anomalous lol (like the one time a drunk woman on a train started ranting to me about men,) I also had a bunch of teen boys in the train station kind of jump at me to try and make me jump I think? But I wasn't really paying attention and so barely reacted. What was I wearing? Yeah I was wearing a tank top, shorts (not super short knee length ish,) and a cap I think and possibly dog tags. My hair was not super long. Chin length probably.

    (not 100% sure if I was wearing shorts or jeans though but maybe. I don't shave my body hair so I avoid wearing shorts when I'm alone because as I said I don't take certain kinds of risks and I know people can be weird about gender ambiguity but maybe I did that time. Spoiler: It's not violence I'm worried about in general, esp during the day time although that is a possibility in some places but not a huge one, it's mostly just weird comments I might get from strangers and drunk people as there are a bunch around that you'll encounter now and then. I want as few unpleasant interractions with people as possible really.)

    It was very weird as I've often look underaged as an adult, so people aren't going to be asking me for cigarettes (most of the time.)

    This guy (Vlad) has a series of videos documenting his experience of 'dressing like a woman in public' in different countries at night (though he's based in Russia,) but tbh I've not encountered anything like the more dramatic stuff he shows in the UK (I don't know if he's done a video in the UK or not,) and even strangers don't approach me with such frequency as he gets this happening (as I say it's an entire series,) so I think people's experiences vary wildly depending on body language, location, appearence etc (you're not allowed to say this but obviously it's true,) and generalising doesn't work well otherwise explain the discrepancy:



    If it's that much of a problem then you should agree with efilism.
    I only recently learnt what this means and I still end up misreading it and thinking it's about elves lol. They're starting to pop up everywhere I guess there's a difference with anti-natalism since they don't use that term. Perhaps it extends to all life or something?

    People's solutions to problems like this are often (increasingly often) either:

    genocide (possibly of the entire species if not specific subgroups of people.) Lighter forms of this are deportation or imprisonment of certain groups.
    curfews for men
    curfews for women

    So basically tyrannical solutions. Consequently I take risk aversion quite seriously as freedom and safety are often at odds with one another.

    The voice is kind of a superpower with some guys lol:



    That one woman who just stops and stares at him and is like "Really you're a boy?" Then "But you look good." I know what she means and English isn't her first language but the shade to men lmfao.

    So the guy in the UK was sentenced to a minimum of 22 years I think. Which is a pretty stark difference from the US case but I'm sure class differences among other stuff impacted that.

    It's one of the reasons these guys piss me off too (not the only reason and this isn't usually on my mind it's just irritating):

    Depends. How much do you like making out with other men?
    Are they suggesting this would increase or decrease the odds? It's unclear for me especially in the US. On the one hand I feel like a lot of American gay guys probably aren't into long hair, but then the facial hair would probably improve odds. So 50/50.

    This won't work for (reddit (tm)) bisexual men though, and arguably that group is larger. You can definitely make out with more guys by being a femboy. You will once again have to shave though.

    😐

    I don't recommend doing that because it's lowkey annoying reading comments like this as though they're doing something radical:



    Sh, He's mine I call dibs I'll be fruity one time for this😭🔥
    "It's difficult but I will put aside my heterosexuality to date someone hotter than any cis women I know and be like every heterosexual man in every culture pre-modern Christian West. 😔 Please give me a medal for my deep sacrifice."

    That kind of vibe.

    A billion comments like this kind of thing all over the place. I find androgyny attractive (not necessarily to this degree, I mean this aesthetic is very feminine visually obviously) but I can see why twitter find this kind of thing very annoying in hindsight lol. Like they're into femboys and women who are muscular but still reasonably feminine hahaha. It's like all the grindr guys who are pissed off about all the chasers on their app (though at this point grindr is just an app for everyone from what I hear.) They won't [BEEP] masculine guys.

    Having said that this sort of thing is pretty entertaining:



    Or when they're just straight and doing it for the $$$ and playing gay chicken. Just like egirls. Lifehack unlocked.

    This cutie pie in makeup and plucked brows gets gobsmacked when guys flirt with him? C'mon kiddo. He's more feminine than most of my girlfriends.
    C'mon Finn. You bait and tease us and then gripe about responses? You're really cute gurl.
    Yeah it's funny. For me.
    Kat Blaque is a trans woman who is open about that and won't date straight guys lol. She's prefers bisexual or pansexual guys.



    She also spoke before about all the guys who are weird and assume she's non-binary and act in certain ways because they know a lot of cis women and afab people don't want to [BEEP] them anymore because they don't like their attitudes towards trans women LOL but it's just superficial.

    I do enjoy having this kind of power though (not individually obviously I'm not attractive but collectively,) yeah you better treat them better.

    Lol: "Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power." - Oscar Wilde

    I quoted this once and someone was like 'he's fucked up' basically and "this is a messed up way of viewing the world" yes but also true especially when you don't really enjoy sex and others enjoy it more let's be real.

    The superficiality does make it counterproductive though for dating purposes.

    https://podcasts.apple.com/hu/podcas...=1000534617578

    Straight Men Who Rebrand Themselves To Date Nonbinary DFAB Folks
    One of the most fascinating issues I've had with dating in this new consciousness around gender is that some heterosexual men have stopped understanding that "transgender woman" doesn't mean "non binary person who was designated female at birth". In this podcast, I tell two stories that reach the same conclusion: that some heterosexual men have started to simply shift their language, but not their preference. I tell a story of a man who I went on a great date with that promptly ended once he understood what I meant by "trans woman" and a situation at a lifestyle party where I connected with a guy who spent most of the evening ranting about how open minded to and experienced with transgender people he was, who would later reveal to me that he wasn't attracted to trans women at all, even after we were intimate.
    I cba quoting it all again but the guy at the party who she speaks about was really weird like she said she was trans and he spent the entire day kind of bragging about how open minded he was, then later he dragged her into the bathroom with his female partner and blamed her for tricking him. I don't know if he was cheating without telling her and using that as an excuse, whether his girlfriend is transphobic and he was just playing along not to get in trouble with her or whether he was just... Retarded and made incorrect assumptions which was his own fault really.

    Anyway this is another topic I could rant about extensively but the point is, there are some serious double standards in the US and most countries and corporations are protected over many other people.

    I'm also seeing a lot of commentary of this woman where they emphasise that she's a mother with three kids. I know why they are doing this, I know it's effective, and I also know that her being a mother usually means that the children will be impacted too - like there are people she is responsible for so her going to prison won't just ruin her life but theirs too. However her being a mother isn't evidence that she's incapable of criminal behaviour so not a good argument without further info - there's a female spree killer in the UK who had two children she'd previously abandoned. Also, you have to wonder how it would be recieved if it was a guy or if it was like '[BEEP] 42 year old with three cats' you know what I'm saying? Right wing people definitely wouldn't have any sympathy (though some don't anyway,) "Oh my god it's an evil witch." But regardless of who it is I still think it's an overreaction and hopefully they won't go through with that insanely long sentence.

    I think Gayle must be conservatives worst nightmare (I'm back to watching Bob's Burgers episodes recently lol):





    Lol from the second video: "If this was Peter and Lois I wouldn't care but not to Bob and Linda."

    Family Guy has no moral structure it's like the It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia of cartoons, although maybe South Park is that too? Family cartoons anyway. It's not wholesome and it's not trying to be so makes sense.

    She's like the worst qualities of Gene, Tina, and Louise turned up toe eleven.
    Gayle is the "bad ending".
    Unfortuantely when people reproduce sometimes Gayle's are born.

    Gayle is a pretty extreme personality though, but there are elements of her personality in lots of different people including people who are more functional and normal seeming sometimes. Adultery and callous behaviour in romantic relationships is super common among very high functioning people with decent careers for example. The threshold for tolerating most of these traits is quite low for a lot of people though.

    Conservatives: Everyone should reproduce

    Conservatives: Don't be weird, neurotic, stand out, or have any flaws at all!

    Conservatives: "I'm Ben Shapiro and here's a 15 minute neuroticly charged video on why John Lennon's song Imagine was evil, also the Barbie movie. I wanted to be a scriptwriter. But just ignore that. My wife is a doctor and I do this political crap for a living but I'm a better person than John Lennon and failed creative liberals I promise!"

    Conservatives: "Why aren't liberals reproducing? The birth rate is going to collapse! Don't they know they are the worst people ever with their hair dye and their pronouns? We kept telling them. God they're so selfish."



    They gave her an episode last season where she wasn't being a complete mess even if it was some small success which was nice.

    Megan Mullally is a genius. No-one else could make these lines believable.
    I didn't know she voiced her, that makes a lot of sense lol.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    Every time I stumble again on Simon and Malcolm Collins' YouTube channel it's quite unpleasant the things they end up saying. Like their specific transactional view of the world and superiority complex. It reminds me of some people I knew and hung out with at uni but more extreme and up front.

    What the hell type of weird redditor meetup is this.
    lol.

    Basically the tl;dr of this post they also met through reddit or maybe just he proposed to her on reddit and they both were prolific posters, but it's like reddit if it was more controversial.

    You know what nevermind actually because I got invited to a discord server for 3+ years and then joined some others with some of the same people (before the vibes eventually got too much, I wanted some place to discuss the topic I was interested in,) by people in groups adj to them too and this happened via pm on reddit lmfao.

    Not that everyone in this circle is exactly the same or as extreme or whatever but it's really ... Something.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7J_6qRAlDY

    Your social media argument at the start is the dumbest thing ever. Early adopters of social media were the most affluent and tech savvy people of their generation. Early social media was largely bound by offline norms. It was inaccessible to middle schoolers. It had not had time enough to have memetic evolution happen. The algorithms were a lot less refined and a lot less predatory.

    Now you have normies having their entire social existence mediated by a few apps that are ruining their psyche. I think you are just too invested in being "tech optimist" to see that some tech is not human compatible. Social media in its current form is not human compatible. Right now, if I had kids and they're not complete morons, I'd rather have them join the most schizo discord servers under false pretenses than ever let them use instagram or tiktok on the daily.
    I completely agree having grown up with 2000s internet (though I'd add that by the mid-late 2000s a lot of people I knew who were not tech savvy were using myspace and bebo or whatever,) and I didn't bother watching most of the video. I skipped through parts of it but glad they summarised most of my thoughts about the first couple of minutes. I'd also add that many of us are mentally ill and have various issues and that his social bubble is very unlikely to be representative of even millenials who grew up using the internet regularly (for me from the age of 11, sometimes at school before then.) Moreso because I think even then it was probably attracting people with certain personality traits - probably higher neuroticism.

    His wife Simone in the video grew up with anorexia and is autistic possibly other stuff going on too... I can't remember, and he doesn't seem 'OK' to me honestly either... I don't think most YouTubers are lol (I am also a YouTuber.) It's like what I was saying about Ben Shapiro very judgy guy, seems neurotic, so not really... Zen. Jordan Peterson is another one.

    I'm sure lots of people have problems that are undiagnosed too so that's another thing. It's actually pretty hard ime in the UK to even get a diagnosis lol.

    I mean this entire video is coming from the media criticising him for his parenting too so it's obviously a personal thing.

    Not to be you guys'd enemy again but your conclusions are so frequently just so sloppy and not for ideological reasons, just needs correction. Common theme is self-justification or self-rationalization as a pseudo ideology.

    Social media not being harmful in the statistics is yet again you relying on poor experimental design and bias reaffirmation. First, millennials didn't use post 2012 tier social media as young children. Two, more importantly, extroverts/socially successful people are inherently going to be the early adopters and heavy users of any sort of social technology, and this group is always going to have better mental health and social outcomes than others.

    The issue is how use of social media - and this especially includes the socially successful - spoils the social medium in which the whole participate. In other words, social media habits ruin the social environment for most people but the already socially successful are doing fine regardless.

    This principle can be applied to almost any cultural commons. It's one reason for degeneracy as the early adopters who break down traditional norms tend to be less hurt by the break down, but downstream of their party are social consequences that damage society to such a degree that the children and grandchildren of the socially successful are harmed. While I disdain the crabs in a bucket mentality of Scandinavia, it's certainly better honed that that poverty crabs in a bucket mentality of celts, and otherwise the social ethos is mercenary in nature in cosmopolitan or continental Europe.

    Individual success needs cultural checks or your multiply social harms that affect future generations. Your consistent attitudes in these videos is proof of that.
    I don't watch their videos much because they annoy me a lot for many reasons I don't care to go into right now (edit: well I guess I sort of did later lol but still not thorough,) and also know I disagree value system wise with the person in this comment. I can tell by their unironic use of degenerate alone tbh, but the bolded has stood out to me so I'm glad someone else noticed.

    I think my value system reveals that I often operate as though everything is genetic though I'm undecided on whether it is as is the science, and I see this a lot from people who are socially liberal actually whereas conservatives tend to operate under the assumption that people are more mutable or at least that change is realistic? And so should change (because they have lower tolerance of chaos.) I think people can control behaviour to a point, and sometimes people gain issues later in life, but are mostly driven by personality traits that are present from early childhood.

    It makes me think of the 4 hour backtoback YT video of the 'Bear whisperer guy' Steve Searles that I ended up watching with my mum one day because we started watching bear videos (there's a feminist joke here but it's to obvious,) I liked them before it was cool! Anyway 2 hours in and my mum was like 'how long is this video?' LOL that's the real problem with social media. So we watched all of it in the end. It ends on a kind of sad note though and also he's lost his job now essentially due to funding.

    Maybe it was this (it was very obviously not a documentary though lol or at least not a 'documentary movie' whatever it was we watched as after a while you could kind of see from the repetition of certain information that they'd just stitched several episodes of something together but it barely registered for a long time because I was so immersed):



    Yeah I'm pretty sure that's it. I think maybe it autoplayed or something. I normally notice in advance but was watching on TV with my mum instead of how I usually watch so.

    He Kept a Community's Bears in Check, but He Won't Anymore
    Steve Searles, known as the 'bear whisperer' of Mammoth Lakes, Calif., quit his post after the coronavirus epidemic led to cuts in the town's budget.
    As the coronavirus pandemic wears on, Mammoth Lakes, like municipalities nationwide, has faced budget shortfalls and started looking for cuts. Mr. Searles was recently asked to work six months, through the busy summer bear season, instead of year-round, cutting his salary in half. So he turned in his badge and uniform and resigned last week.

    "With me or without me, we've set the example here in Mammoth of what is possible," he said. "Whether this gets worked out or not, all of us have the ability to coexist with bears and lock the damn dumpsters."
    Mr. Searles, a longtime hunter, was originally hired by the town to kill bears that were causing havoc. Instead, he got to know them, and has worked to show the town and nearby areas that the animal can be trained to avoid people and their belongings. He opposes euthanizing bears that cause problems, preferring shouting and other aversive conditioning to tell bears when they aren?t welcome. He only hazes them if they get out of line, which can mean setting off firecrackers, shouting harsh words or, occasionally, firing shotgun-propelled bean bags at them.
    "I never met a bear that couldn't learn," he said. "I mean, I don?t try to teach bears geometry or how to ride a unicycle."
    John Hechtel, a retired wildlife biologist for Alaska's Department of Fish and Game, said he believes there were some benefits to Mr. Searles?s methods.

    "If the residents are happy and they think he's doing a good job and they feel like having him there addresses the issue, that?s a good thing," said Mr. Hechtel, who spent more than 30 years studying bears.

    He added that the bear whisperer probably had a greater effect on how people in Mammoth Lakes perceived and reacted to bears than on the animals themselves. "The question, to me, is how much damage people will tolerate," he said. "There are some places that won't tolerate any damage at all."

    Mr. Hechtel said it wouldn't be practical for state wildlife agencies to emulate Mr. Searles?s tactics on a broader scale. Bears that habitually break into homes and cars in search of food aren?t likely to change, he said, no matter how much you yell. Mr. Hechtel "likes bears as much as anyone on the planet," he said, but some repeat offenders do need to be euthanized.
    ^ that quote comes to mind that I've bolded. There's some level of general chaos/weird personality traits and so on that people will tolerate (before even getting into actual destruction to property and criminality.) Like being incredibly passive/avoidant - not working or not working hard, not having kids these are all not crimes but seen as bad for society right?

    Also curious about what that commenter means about celts (like specifically celts.)

    Well at one point in the video (in one of the parts I actually watched,) they compared themselves to cuckoos and seemed to want to emulate that? I think they have a general might-is-right kind of philosophy for life:

    "Everyone with less than 2.1 kids is being cucked by the people with over 2.1 kids because functionally you're contributing to a future, you're paying taxes to help raise genetic material that's going to replace you intergenerationally speaking."
    "If you watch cuckoo chicks it's really like dramatic because they're much larger than even the parents who are feeding them. So the cuckoo chicks after they starved all the other little chicks in the nest they'll be like twice the size of the parents who are feeding them. And this is the way that I feel that you as a pronatalist need to be raising your kids will to be. It needs to be their soul, their fire inside of them they need to look like a little cuckoo chick when the teacher is trying to feed them, when the school system is attempting to pathetically disicipline them in their weak, weak way. Where they look weak and pathetic and tawdry next to this big, burly will of a child."
    Then there's a clip of a cuckoo with annotations.

    "Their weakness leads to immorality."

    And then there's some [BEEP] about Nietzsche "See our episode on weakness and immorality in Nietzsche." It went well in the early 20th century.

    "Because that's what's downstream of allowing this to spread and metastatize."

    Because of genocidal tendencies?

    "We have to replace them."

    We're all traumatised by the education system but jeez.

    At least he says he punishes his kids not to break their will (which he suggests most parents do,) but to encourage them to act up in certain ways where they need to be punished while being aware of where boundaries are.

    Also let's not forget:

    Simone and Malcolm Collins previously worked in venture capital and technology sectors. Simone previously served as the managing director for Dialog, a secretive invite-only social club co-founded by investor Peter Thiel.[2] Malcolm previously worked as a venture capitalist at TheVentures in South Korea.[2][5][6] The Collinses are currently the managing directors of the corporate wholesale travel agency Travelmax.[3]
    Malcolm is the great-grandson of Carr Collins Sr., founder of the Fidelity Union Life Insurance Company, and grandson of James M. Collins, a Dallas, Texas businessman and politician.[25] In 1997, Malcolm's parents undertook a contentious divorce and custody dispute; the proceedings were characterized by one judge as "extensive, bitter and long-lasting".[26][27] During the divorce, Malcolm was ordered to live at a private boarding school funded by a family trust.[27] The divorce was finalized in 2001.[26] It was discovered in 2021, upon the death of James Collins's wife Dorothy Dann Collins Torbert, that some $29 million had been embezzled from the family trust fund by Barbara Chalmers, the family bookkeeper.[28][29][30] Reflecting on his childhood, Malcolm noted that he has "no beef with my parents. My childhood was hard, but my adulthood has been easy. Can I say a parent did a bad job if I'm happy with my life today? I don't think so."[27]

    Simone was born in Japan[31] as a self-described "mistake baby" and the only child to a failed polyamorous marriage.[27] At some point in her life, Simone experienced eating disorders that gave her fertility issues.[27]
    This is the kind of family background where it's amazing they got anywhere in life and it's 100% inherited wealth + status + genetics that tipped them over into anything that you might find positive.

    Also notable is how they call people their enemies in videos which this comment might be alluding too. I noticed and commented on that before LOL.

    Like here (I was reading a thread on the pronatalist subreddit about how it's not convincing to women and various other complaints. Many of them pointed out the sexist and controlling language of a lot of people posting there and I was like thinking yeah true, and also this elitist rhetoric lol):

    I was just going to copy and paste a couple of quotes I wrote before but it's honestly not enough context in explaining so I'll have to quote more:

    Let's talk about what pronatalism is more broadly. It is a movement dedicated to ensuring the preservation of a pluralistic and diverse Human species. People would be like why that? Why not just increasing birth rates because if we do nothing what's going to happen. Is we're going to have a crash in Human fertility, we're going to have a crash in the world economy both of which are things that are still going to happen if we do something. But a few groups will come to power and basically erase everyone else that's what it looks like is the path we're going on. We're going on sort of a monoculture of a species where one or two or maybe three if we're lucky. If our group just completely fails - cultural and ethnic groups will be the only things left of our species and they'll wipe out the rest. And that is absolutely terrifying to us because I think that one of our greatest strengths is our diversity and I also think that in this unengaged world the groups that end up wiping out most of the other groups are going to be quite technophobic. Ie we are moving back to a dark ages of extreme religious tribalism.
    I actually have to take a moment here. So they're American. So the culture (America) that has 343432434342 cults is going to turn into a mono culture? Interesting. Good luck to the future victors I guess.

    Tbh though what I actually see is US culture being adopted everywhere and the politics both left and right wing in other countries too.

    And so what we are trying to do is build an alliance of the individuals who are high fertility and do want to exist in the future and the cultural groups that are high fertility and do want to exist in the future and this alliance mean something. If you are a culture sort of axiomatically you differentiate significantly from the dominant culture in our society right now. It is a very low fertility cultural group. This is what we call the cult or the urban monoculture or the virus whatever you want to call it. It is this large culture that exists in pretty much every major city in the world today.
    And what this means is that the first enemy that the pronatalist movement is facing is this urban monoculture and that is because the urban monoculture being very low fertility can only replenish it's ranks by converting the children of nearby demographically healthy cultural groups and those are becoming increasingly rare so it is becoming increasingly aggressive in these conversion policies. [...] We often liken it to cultural genocide but it's not really traditional cultural genocide. Yes it is driven by hatred and dehumanisation of these cultural groups, you know they see them as deplorable and savages as most people do while comitting cultural genocide but it's also a necessary genocide. It is a parisitic by design cultural group that can't exist without it.
    I feel like even if this bolded part for many people is true (as this is true for how many people view their outgroup really,) he's also projecting a bit here based on you know the other things he says and defining certain groups as his enemy. Also this general framework for viewing the world is one I see replicated often which makes me less inclined to trust it. It seems like some kind of common narrative in the human psyche if that makes sense? It's the same model many people use to view gay people for instance. You can replace the groups and just keep the model. Vampires are part of the same story.

    The virus thing pops up again and again as well. Like I think there's something in the Human brain that's evolved to sort of be wary of viruses and then as a result of certain environmental triggers it just starts to see other things as viruses.



    It's not that we hate this cultural group right? But if you're going to save the fly, you kill the spider. If you save the flies without killing the spider eventually the spider dies anyway. You know, and so all of us, all of the pronatalist communities are banning together right now to defend ourselves against this one cultural group and we frame it very much as the enemy. The important thing to note is 1 it is the lesser of the 2 enemies that the pronatalist movement is bound to face, it is the kinder of the two enemies we are bound to face, and it is an enemy that when it dies and it will die, because if you look intergenerationally things like Amish communities you can look at their deconversion rates they've gone down over and over again. Communities that live next to it are getting better and better at defending themselves. And that's one of the reasons it's so pro immigration right now because the only way it can get new children is by importing them from cultural groups that aren't quite as wary.
    If you look at the pronatalist movement many are surprised by how heavy it is in 1st generation immigrant families and it's like yeah they are often the most pronatalist because they are recent immigrants from high fertility areas and they understand the value of their own culture and want to preserve it and they like the idea which is what America told them it was. [...] Come here you'll get riches, we're pluralistic, many different cultures exist alongside each other. And then they get here and it's like 'ok now that you're here your children are going to have to go to a school where their history and traditions will be erased. They will learn that they are allowed to identify however they want. They can identify as your ancestral culture but they are not allowed to differ in their beliefs around sexuality, around gender, around morality, around what should be the future of our species, on how we should relate to the environment, on the way you should interract with other religious and cultural traditions. And they're like woah I came because I heard that we could be different and all work together while maintaing our differences and then they look at the pronatalist movement and are like you guys are what America was telling everyone it was yeah let's join that thing.
    I'm sure most immigrants from traditional cultures have never heard of this movement. It's mostly white, rich, highly educated people with idiosyncratic beliefs who are talking about this.

    To some extent this enemy is whitless when it takes over an organisation, or a community. It typically makes it very ineffective. We can look at the large companies that have been affected by it. One of the things we've pointed out on this show is that once a communtiy adapts racist belief systems economically it tends to undercompete it's neighbours, and undercompete what it did historically and this is seen in the virus or the cult communities. Wokeism just labels everything the exact opposite of what it is. It's like one of the most racist widespread philosophies in the world.
    So who is the other enemy. What is the real enemy that we are terrified of? The real enemy that we are terrified of comes from the fact that the two dominant cultural strategies now for high fertility are disengaging with the economy. Either preventing your members from working, or doing something that lowers the economic potential like preventing them from getting a traditional education. Anything that decreases an individual's economic potential is going to increase the fertility of a community. The other thing is to increase restrictions on how your community engages with technology. The more your community disengages with technology the higher fertility and this is true within communities you look at Amish, or mennonites [...]
    So here he finally gets to that.

    Incrementally any collection of groups - related families of groups - that increases it's fertility rate or increases it's fertility rate by disengaging with technology or economically crippling it's own members. The iterations of that culture that did that more extremely fertility wise outcompete those who do it less extremely. [..] The problem being that the less extreme versions are often soft in culture which means that they either bleed out in the main culture or bleed into the more extreme versions.
    He talks about a lot of stuff that seems unconcious as though people are doing this conciously which is weird.

    The other thing we've seen as a cultural stategy and likely even a genetic strategy because this does have a genetic link. Which is the far right authoritarian personality cluster which has nothing to do with right leaning politics and is found in left leaning individuals as well. It's what you would see in like an antifa member. It just means an extreme tendency to dehumanise people who aren't in your cultural group and an extreme tendency to perfer extremist hierarchical structures.
    Then you might want to talk about authoritarian personalities instead. Also right and left wing authoritarianism are not the same and I think a lot of people who are extremists are actually hoping to collapse hierarchical structures entirely. Basically what he just said is nonsense.

    edit: I'm actually not sure how you'd easily study antifa because antifa often deny being antifa like fight club or anonymous so obviously will attract many trolls because that comes with anonymity etc. But I am familiar with some of the recent research and it's not a singular personality type.

    I think he's partly discussing this (which I think is a dumb name for obvious reasons):

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Right-...thoritarianism

    In psychology, right-wing authoritarianism (RWA) is a set of attitudes, describing somebody who is highly submissive to their authority figures, acts aggressively in the name of said authorities, and is conformist in thought and behavior.[1] The prevalence of this attitude in a population varies from culture to culture, as a person's upbringing and education play a strong role in determining whether somebody develops this sort of worldview.[2]
    The RWA scale was designed to measure authoritarianism in North America. It has proven to be similarly reliable in English-speaking countries such as Australia, but less effective in other countries such as France due to cultural differences and translation issues.[3]
    Compartmentalized thinking

    In one of his experiments, Bob Altemeyer presented his students a booklet which contained the following statements on different pages:

    "When it comes to love, men and women with opposite points of view are attracted to each other."
    "Birds of a feather flock together when it comes to love."

    His students with authoritarian personalities were more likely to agree with both statements even though they are completely contradictory.[26]
    Omg (distracted) this exact example (for actual right wing authoritarians,) doesn't surprise me at all lol because they're really fond of extreme gender differences (and maximising them,) but also of course racial and cultural homogenity so they'd actually have to believe both. But yeah personally I disagree with the first statement, but not the second.

    There's also this term:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social...ce_orientation

    Social dominance orientation (SDO)[1] is a personality trait measuring an individual's support for social hierarchy and the extent to which they desire their in-group be superior to out-groups.[2] SDO is conceptualized under social dominance theory as a measure of individual differences in levels of group-based discrimination; that is, it is a measure of an individual's preference for hierarchy within any social system and the domination over lower-status groups. It is a predisposition toward anti-egalitarianism within and between groups.

    Individuals who score high in SDO desire to maintain and, in many cases, increase the differences between social statuses of different groups, as well as individual group members. Typically, they are dominant, driven, tough, and seekers of power.[citation needed] People high in SDO also prefer hierarchical group orientations. Often, people who score high in SDO adhere strongly to belief in a "dog-eat-dog" world.[3] It has also been found that men are generally higher than women in SDO measures.[4][5] A study of undergraduates found that SDO does not have a strong positive relationship with authoritarianism.[2]
    There's also another term LWA (left wing authortarianism,) and then this study suggests SDO was related to authoritarianism although previous research mentioned above seems to have not found that among students:

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34383522/

    We find that LWA, right-wing authoritarianism, and social dominance orientation reflect a shared constellation of personality traits, cognitive features, beliefs, and motivational values that might be considered the "heart" of authoritarianism. Relative to right-wing authoritarians, left-wing authoritarians were lower in dogmatism and cognitive rigidity, higher in negative emotionality, and expressed stronger support for a political system with substantial centralized state control. Our results also indicate that LWA powerfully predicts behavioral aggression and is strongly correlated with participation in political violence. We conclude that a movement away from exclusively right-wing conceptualizations of authoritarianism may be required to illuminate authoritarianism's central features, conceptual breadth, and psychological appeal.
    https://news.emory.edu/stories/2021/...gy/campus.html

    Another key finding is that authoritarianism from both ends of the spectrum is predictive of personal involvement in political violence. While left-wing authoritarianism predicts for political violence against the system in power, right-wing authoritarianism predicts for political violence in support of the system in power.
    In addition to the striking similarities between the two political extremes, the research also highlighted a key difference between the two: Left-wing authoritarians were more likely to perceive the world as a dangerous place and experience intense emotions and a sense of uncontrollability in response to stress. Right-wing authoritarians were more cognitively rigid, less open to new experiences, and less likely to believe in science.

    The research does not delineate the prevalence of authoritarianism in society. Like any other personality trait, authoritarianism lies on a spectrum with only a few at the extreme top-end of the scale, Costello says.
    I'm not surprised this research has historically had less use outside of the Anglosphere based on that wikipedia quote because it seems to really map onto extreme liberalism (high openness + low conscientiousness + neuroticism which I think is often associated though as I often point out not universally,) and extreme conservativism (low openness, high conscientiousness) and this particular political cultural framework that the personalities are drawn towards for whatever reason doesn't necessarily exist everywhere.

    Also there are a bunch of different findings one below suggests left wing authoritarians are not motivated by hierarchy:

    https://link.springer.com/article/10...44-023-04463-x

    The results of multiple regression analyses showed that a strong ideological view, according to which a violent revolution against existing societal structures is legitimate (i.e., anti-hierarchical aggression), was associated with antagonistic narcissism (Study 1) and psychopathy (Study 2). However, neither dispositional altruism nor social justice commitment was related to left-wing anti-hierarchical aggression. Considering these results, we assume that some leftist political activists do not actually strive for social justice and equality but rather use political activism to endorse or exercise violence against others to satisfy their own ego-focused needs. We discuss these results in relation to the dark-ego-vehicle principle.
    There's also an obvious difference between say tankies and extremist anarchists. And it's sort of an oxymoron to keep using the word authoritarian follower instead of just 'extremist' at a certain point. Especially for people who are specifically driven by just being sceptical of hierarchies where they're not on top lol.

    https://www.researchgate.net/publica...rning_Approach

    Development and Initial Validation of Two Brief Measures of Left-Wing Authoritarianism: A Machine Learning Approach

    [...] This convergence extended to virtually identical cross-measure patterns of correlations with 14 external criteria, including need for chaos, political violence, anomia, low institutional trust. In light of these results, the LWA-25 and LWA-13 scales appeared to function effectively as measures of LWA.
    ... Accordingly, future work is needed to clarify distinctions between left-wing and right-wing authoritarianism, and to separate these contemporary manifestations of authoritarianism from a general anti-establishment sentiment. Despite the apparent similarities in the violent and censorial means used to achieve their mutually exclusive goals, the extant literature reveals discernible differences in the correlates of right-wing and left-wing authoritarianism: whereas right-wing authoritarianism correlates positively with the need for order 160 and negatively with both openness to new experiences 81 and belief in science 146 , left-wing authoritarianism correlates positively with the need for chaos 156 and belief in science 22 and negatively with institutional trust 156 . ...
    I'm not going to lie. I lol'd. It really is like Sheogorath and Jyggalag.

    Jyggalag was at one time one of the most powerful of the Daedric Princes; he was so powerful that the other Princes began to fear him and his power. He was believed by some to be the only Prince who knew his nature, and the knowing made him go mad.[1] As a result, they cursed him to live in opposition of everything he stood for, to live the life of a madman and bring chaos and insanity rather than order and logic. Henceforth, Jyggalag became known as the Daedric Prince of Madness, Sheogorath.[2]

    However, Jyggalag is allowed to return to his original form once at the end of every era, an event known in the Shivering Isles as the Greymarch. During this period, Jyggalag's personality resurfaces and exerts control over "his" realm to summon the Knights of Order--his emotionless, vicious minions--to attack and burn everything in the Isles to the ground. Near the end of the Greymarch, Sheogorath "leaves" the Isles and Jyggalag appears in person to finish the Isles off. In reality, Sheogorath simply transforms into Jyggalag. Sheogorath then "returns" to recreate the Isles and its inhabitants, causing both identities suffering.
    Spoilers:

    Spoiler:
    "Enough! I am beaten. The Greymarch is ended. For millennia this drama has unfolded, and each time, I have conquered this land, only to be transformed back into that gibbering fool, Sheogorath. It was not always so. Once, I ruled this Realm, a world of perfect Order. My dominion expanded across the seas of Oblivion with each passing era. The other Princes, fearful of my power, cursed me with Madness, doomed me to live as Sheogorath, a broken soul reigning in a broken land. Once each era, I was allowed my true form, conquering this world anew. And each time I did, the curse was renewed, damning me to exist as Sheogorath. Now, though, you have ended the cycle. You now hold the mantle of madness, and Jyggalag is free to roam the voids of Oblivion once more. I will take my leave, and you will remain here, mortal. Mortal...? King? God? It seems uncertain. This Realm is yours. Perhaps you will grow to your station. Fare thee well, Sheogorath. Prince of Madness."
    This makes me wonder if everyone who defeats Sheogorath or really any daedric prince would just become the daedric prince like is it lich king rules lol? I guess that's not quite how it works though since the player didn't become Jyggalag. Although I really like that expansion pack I personally feel it's hard to think of the player as sheogorath because his presentation and personality is actually ironically perhaps so consistent across games including Skyrim which was released after this, and doesn't necessarily reflect the player character.




    don't try to grow a beard
    if you try to grow a beard you will fucking die
    Many are saying this.

    Of course everyone who has ever grown a beard has eventually died I don't like those odds.

    This is actually very serious and I'm just like "omg it's just like a video game" everytime. Personally though I think of Jordan Peterson both aesthetically and in the sense of like him being a converging point personality wise and switching over the years because of the drugs (?) There's an actual research paper that cites him as an example of how you can become more right leaning after doing lsd that I stumbled on recently (!?) If I'm remembering correctly which is hilarious. Because most people assume the opposite and it has often been found that people do become more liberal after doing lsd but not always and they used him as some kind of case study I think.

    Outside of East Asian cultures - they are unique and have different cultural practices. The more xenophobic a culture is the higher their fertility rate is. As we've mentioned again and again it also lowers the economic potential of a community.
    I said except for East Asian. East Asian - we're going to talk about East Asian cultures in a seperate video because a totally different thing is going to happen over there.
    That seems like a great way to avoid the discussion of how low their fertility rate is despite not being 'woke (tm)'

    After assuring everyone that he was not talking about Muslims specifically (lol) "there are many xenophobic groups who are Christian, Buddhist, Jewish"

    That's another thing about this cultural cluster is they have a practice which makes them axiomatically impossible to ever integrate with the pronatalist agenda. [...] A lot of them believe that at the end of the day there's just going to be one religion, often one ethnicity and one culture in the world. And some of them will just say one religion one culture in the world. That's it. As we say they are highlandering it. So in the short term they work as allies with us because we have the same enemy which is the urban monoculture but in the long term they will be at odds with us and all of the other we call them symbiotic cultrual groups which do not believe it is their job to wipe out all other cultures in the world. [...] There are some cultures who say they want to wipe out all other cultures in the world but don't seem to be able to act on it or don't seem able to motivate themselves to act on it anymore and so they are safe ish to work with in the short term. There are cultures we say OK we'll say OK but we can work with other groups because we're such a minority right now and we will only become dangerous when we become the majority and so you need to keep an eye on those groups. But again this isn't a one religious thing.
    I think this question is going to become more interesting to us is what happens when one of these dominating cultural groups is also attempting a technophilic strategy. Currently none of them are not a single one [...] If you look at the other technophilic cultural groups they typically are not dominating as cultural strategies.
    Simone (because the rest of these quotes are just Malcolm rambling on lol):

    Well the cult, the woke virus riddled cult that runs society now is both dominating and technophilic but because it's low fertility-
    Yeah it is both dominating and technophilic. That is a good point. It is an example of a dominating technophilic cultural group.
    The only reason we don't take it very seriously is we understand that most other cultures that it uses to get fodder, to get Human capital, will eventually become resistant to it. So we don't think it has long term potential.
    And so essentially the true enemy of the pronatalist cause. Not the immediate enemy which is the urban monoculture which we sort of see as the god emperor of Dune. The threat that brings us all together. [code geas reference and I'm getting bored transcribing this] to finally put aside their differences so that they can intergenerationally work together that is what it is serving as. It is serving as a very simplistic villain right now a villain on easy mode. That is meant to prepare us for the true danger which comes after us which it is to a large extent protecting us from which is a world full of technophobic, aggressive, ultra religious extremists that want everyone who's not them dead. And in the other video similar to this we talk about the network of haven states. These are small, technophilic cultural groups. That are communciating with each other, trading with each other, and that work together and respect their cultural differences and are working together to bring civilisation after we enter this next dark age.
    And again you have the thing where Humans like to have a common enemy to unite against. This goes back to the virus thing in being a common 'pattern' and psychological need. (Now and then I zoom out too far and realise the futility of everything lol and this is one of those moments lol. Because people might not be able to function without an enemy. Even as he speaks talking about how 'they're going to unite all these people' he still has two. and frankly huge groups at that.)

    [...]

    Anyway:



    10/10 rhetoric. I have no idea why this isn't convincing many people.

    Love the framework, but how are internet vs. irl groups balanced in this? When I'm touching grass, I see pluralistic Tradcaths and no desnat or transhumanists subgroups in the LDS. Also, the monoculture won't go so easily, its relentless recruitment of girls is quite powerful.
    Understandable. Basically no women like what you're selling and you engage in various forms of 'cope' to avoid that.
    This was a comment on one of their videos which amused me so I also saved this:

    Why is it that everything you guys post sounds like it was taken out of the R9K glowie playbook?
    Tbf I have no idea wtf is up with this couple and that wider circle in general.


    Edit:
    So basically after this in a video transcript I found from another video not the way I linked (I'm an idiot and transcribed the previous parts of the video I was quoting by listening instead of copying and pasting the AI generated one that's mostly accurate from their website.) Malcolm just admitted that he doesn't like having friends because:

    Like, I'm not friends with people to talk to them. Because we don't like, Friends. Like, I don't want to waste time being friendly with someone, right? I would only invite somebody if I thought that they were either going to be useful to our career or useful to our mission of changing the world. And so we're looking for interesting.

    Yeah, people who have power or people who are likely to have power in the future. That's what we were optimizing for and that ended up with a disproportionately Jewish [00:05:00] group. Well, I also wonder because at these parties too, especially because they're largely Gen X, Millennial and Gen Z attendees, they're insanely flaky.
    So it's broadly the same but when it says 'so we're looking for interesting' it's actually Simone interjecting 'or interesting' in a kind of 'oh you,' kind of way? To which he responds 'yeah people who have power, or people who are likely to have power in the future.' Also Simone brought up the thing about generational flakiness so it doesn't do a great job of differentiating.

    I decided to remove some of the more controversial discussion but yeah of course there was more.

    "We don't have friends, we have people who help us obtain power."

    Holy shit. But tbf this is how tons of people operate so at least they're honest I guess?

    I had to scroll for a bit on the video before finding a comment that brought that up lol... Since they are all preoccupied with the controversial discussion topic.

    Why does Malcolm want to 'change the world'? ''Like, I'm not friends with people to talk to them. Because we don't like, friends. Like, I don't want to waste time being friendly with someone, right?'' Where does Malcolm derive the value of changing the world, if people are only peons for him? He really doesn't see the contradiction there. His whole thing is safety optimization for him and his family. Changing the world means nothing in a vacuum. You guys in the comment section would be thrown under the bus by him if he sees fit.
    I Couldn't even tell you what the right wing even is anymore. I would like to think it's and endless pursuit of what is true and works. But it's not
    Why would it be that? And I wouldn't say they are right wing necessarily.

    Oh man I forgot Simone was running as a republican in Pennsylvania recently LOL well I guess technically then. I'm sure economically they are anyway. It sort of feels otherwise like liberals cosplaying or there's something uncanny about them. They refused to give any of their daughters (or children in general really,) feminine names because of research suggesting they will be taken less seriously. They also had some video on archetypes where they basically just said most of the positive traits were male ones or something.

    And I should note, so a lot of people hear this and they go, wow, you're much more negative on the female tropes than you are on the male tropes. Why is this? And I go, do you not remember that we named all of our daughters, like gender neutral or masculine names?

    We have multiple videos where we talk about, like, I do not believe modern femininity is healthy. And as we've pointed out, women can embody these masculine tropes as well. And I think. That women are genuinely better off embodying masculine tropes, they are not the unique sphere of the masculine. They are just often the emotionally healthier tropes and they are the tropes.

    I think men gravitate towards more in our society today than they might have historically because the gender differences in, in, in men and women and women gaining Disproportionate power within our society, which they have right now, has led many of the more [00:28:00] emotionally healthy, i. e. trying, i.e. sacrificial tropes, to be uptaken by the downtrodden class, which is what you typically see in a society and, and so they're becoming more masculine tropes. But historically, I think that these were often seen across genders much more equal numbers, and that you really didn't have, like, it was understood that most of these tropes that we are now labeling as feminine were actually just seen as bad, and everyone knew they were bad.
    I think this is basically what feminists believe. Or like old school ones:

    https://link.springer.com/chapter/10...-031-13071-7_2

    These texts in particular offer powerful critiques of traditional femininity and distinctive defenses of sexual equality. This is not to say Wollstonecraft, Taylor, and Mill have nothing to say about masculinity or men's relationship to sexual equality; the harmful effects of patriarchy on both women and men are central to their positions. Yet these foundational texts offer limited positive visions for men and masculinity, with a kind of partial androgyny on the one side and universal masculinity on the other.
    Whatever manliness is, we will not find it by taking stock of features shared among existing men. "Manly men are more hypothetical than tautological: in Wollstonecraft's estimation, the condition of manliness is something yet to be achieved on any widespread basis," Abbey (2019, 12) explains. Men's failure to be manly arouses Wollstonecraft's ire for individual men and the social conditions that produce them: "I presume that rational men will excuse me for endeavoring to persuade them to become more masculine and respectable" (Solomon & Berggren 1983, 271). This is why moral education is so important. Wollstonecraft believes that "every being may become virtuous by the exercise of its own reason" (274), but this universal potential must be actively developed rather than stifled or perverted by a society's systems of education.

    Many traditionalist critics would agree with Wollstonecraft that rationality, independence, and productivity are essential to man's true nature, from which we have disastrously diverged. Where they would disagree, and what makes her argument particularly fascinating, is the claim that these things are--cultural perversions aside--woman's true nature as well.
    Ultimately manliness has very little to do with either sex or gender for Wollstonecraft; the term summarizes a set of desirabilia that refer to admirable character traits, egalitarian and meritocratic social and political arrangements and terms of interaction, and the exercise and exchange of talent, effort, and power on just and rational terms. [2019, 15]
    For Wollstonecraft the issue is too much sentimentality and not enough rationality, all around, in the education and enculturation of both women and men. Here we might contrast her vision for education with both Rousseau's Emile, which warns against educating women like men, but also her contemporary Catharine Macaulay's Letters on Education (1790), which as Valerie Bryson notes, goes "beyond uncritical acceptance of male values to demand that the education of boys too be changed to provide them with traditional female skills" (Bryson 2003, 14; see also Boos 1976; Frazer 2011).
    In some ways, Wollstonecraft's advocacy of women's liberation through the further cultivation of reason anticipates Simone de Beauvoir?s rejection of femininity in The Second Sex (1953). As Bryson observes, de Beauvoir "insisted that it is only by overcoming their biology that women can become 'fully human'" (2003, 24). Yet she did not seem to similarly regard either male biology or masculinity as an artificial construction in parallel to femininity that men must likewise overcome in order to achieve their own humanity. If women in patriarchal societies are characteristically and problematically positioned as Other, men's Subject position is not similarly problematized for de Beauvoir's feminist existentialism when it comes to their gender identities.
    "The two sexes mutually corrupt and improve each other," Wollstonecraft writes. "This I believe to be an indisputable truth, extending it to every virtue" (Solomon and Berggren 1983, 337). Both men and women have work to do, personally and culturally, in changing our vicious tendencies. As Gal Gerson puts it, "inequality breeds irrationality at both ends? (2002, 801). The goal here is not for men and women to meet in the middle, as it were, with women developing traditionally masculine traits and men traditionally feminine ones. For Wollstonecraft, the goal is for both men and women to become more masculine in the sense of becoming more rational, independent, and physically and mentally stronger.
    In highlighting these responses, I do not mean to imply that they are the only pathways that are possible as alternatives to patriarchal masculinity. Some might seek a kind of universal normative femininity, for example; others might repudiate manhood or masculinity of all kinds without specifically affirming another option. What is notable about these two responses to patriarchy from early feminist political philosophers is not that they are logically exhaustive, but that between them they presage many of the scholarly and popular alternatives to toxic masculinity that are still advocated today.
    And then they've also adopted the male victim narrative to some extent. Both of the victim narratives (tm) have valid complaints/points though but I wouldn't say I agree with most of their conclusions... This couple but also I suppose most MRA's and feminists rub me the wrong way too lol.

    I think I once described my impression of this couple as the worst of both worlds. They've clearly syncretised many things and it's not working for me lol.

    Yeah that was kinda cringe to hear. At least they honest to us but why don't u let the guests know too haha
    I hate friendship for friendship sake. Whats the point. I have my wife and kids. Thats all the human contact I need and its higher quality than some rando. If I am interacting with someone I am doing it for a purpose.
    Actually thinking about it I feel like he's never made a friend in his life and confusing friendship with small talk. This would make a lot of sense to me because it gets harder to make friends as you age and find compatible people (also in most of modern western culture,) so you often end up in increasingly unpleasant social situations unless you are quite extroverted (and enjoy most forms of conversation including small talk,) but most people have had rewarding friendships at some point or other which explains the appeal outside of networking. He clearly hasn't though.

    It seems psosyopathic doesn't it?

    I mean I know people have emotions about who or what could be useful but God dam that is cold.
    Transactional I think.

    It's what I imagine New York 'society' is like.
    as a scientist, I have noticed that our community is filled with a certain type of person. I have often wondered how much of the passion to prove intelligence is actually overcompensating for feeling of sexual / social inadequacy and genetic desirability. This brings me to this video and these two people wearing these glasses, talking about their parties.
    Nerds lowkey will have this kind of attitude a lot. Usually less explicitly. I realised because I got this vibe from certain people while at university.

    The reality is ironically more disapointing than the ideal. But also this couple are not scientists.
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    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
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    Someone posted a long like I don't know is it instagram back and forth in video form. Where a cis woman was talking to this trans woman and just kept asking her questions about her dick and then asking to pay her for sex.

    bit list of ppl i dont want to hit on me:
    - all men
    - teenagers
    - zionists
    - italians
    BRO WHAT THE [BEEP] DID THE ITALIANS DO????
    Then she linked this video.

    you're waayy too patient about this
    it was so funny i wanted her to keep talking
    Not the first Italian cis woman I've seen fumble a trans woman in this exact way.

    The Italian instinct to be a lascivious pervert transcends gender; it's really something
    oh my god they made halimede real
    This is somehow worse honestly. Real female chasers are worse lol (only quoting parts the conversation went on for multiple days):

    why are you so obsessed with it?? like half the population has then
    bc this is my first time talking with a trans girl
    im so happy
    tell me in centimeters
    girl if a man asked u how you masturbate you'd think he was a creep
    yes
    just understand me it's my first time living my dream
    OK don't answer that
    but tell if it is big
    I've never talked to a trans girl before
    She's got to be trolling.

    My favourite part was just 'yes' and then just carries on.

    you're gorgeous if you just come off as like,, vaguely normal you'll have so many trans women obsessed with you
    This increases the odds that it's a fake account unless there's a lot more photos of her online or something. Even then it could be AI generated these days probably.

    Then she kept asking for photos of her dick. Then she was like 'I'm sorry I was horny' and asking for her to help her find other trans women.

    if a man behaved the same way to you as you have to me you would think he was a creep
    its not ok just because you are a woman
    thats true
    but im sorry
    Then she asks her about her hobbies.

    elizabeth?
    I really need you
    do u tho
    I think it's sad that she keeps responding also exchanged some photos with her that aren't shown.

    I want a trans girl
    Like i can pay for her
    there will 100% be local trans sex workers near u
    there is nothing
    I swear
    She can come to my house
    back to talk about how she wants dick again....

    im literally at the other end of the planet why keep messaging me??
    If you know someone
    I can pay
    $300?
    i dont know anyone in Italy
    just get a lesbian to use a strap??
    They can't even get me wet
    plus the dic*k feels better
    Well now I won't offer I guess. Also I'm not a lesbian lol.

    I like how she seemed to try to censor dick but failed and is also still doing this.....

    Then it turns into a soap opera:

    I've never got wet by a strap.
    It's difficult
    I can make them cum before getting wet
    why'd u message my gf then
    who's ur gf
    I thought you are single
    I unfollowed her
    why did you message her tho? im curious
    girl
    I was looking for a gf for me
    I didn't know she's your girl
    so ur messaging random women on the other side of the planet?
    like im not annoyed just confused
    no i just like her profile picture

    sorry
    Then she starts offering to pay her again for sex.

    She says she can travel to New Zealand lol and 'Elizabeth' says she needs therapy.

    Like I don't mean that in a mean way but it's not healthy to fly to the other end of the world for sex
    Because i don't know any trans girls here
    Then she had some competition thing where she promised people a kiss so she started messaging again and she was like 'I promised ppl a kiss if they voted not nudes' then she said she was trans and that she has a dick and asked her if she wanted to see it.

    girl what have I done to make you think I want your nudes
    girl
    do you want the truth
    yeah?
    ?
    OK
    im a normal girl not a trans
    I love watching trans girls porn
    It's my favourite
    I want to have sex with a trans
    And you are the only one
    Oh no I don't think you're a 'normal' girl. 😂

    I don't know if some of these people are trolls or not I keep hearing on online dating sites people talk about these people who message them and 5 minutes later just get insanely enraged because they didn't respond to them like men and women. One woman was trying to get this woman to cheat and she was like no I have a girlfriend. That woman also sounded really weird and 'hello fellow kids' in her messages too.

    honestly if i was drunk and a girl like her hit on me i would go for it. my standards are just higher when its not in person
    I'm not saying she's not a woman but obviously when you keep messaging back and forth and they know they can get further with the hot girl profile picture they are going to just get one and do this.
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    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
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    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
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    The whole WASPI thing is stupid. They have spent years telling anyone who listened that they didn't bother to check there state pension age, and that it is everybody else's fault that they didn't bother to do this.

    They then went ahead and made the decision to retire early without bothering to check if they could afford to do so, and because they didn't bother to check, they deserve compensation.

    So off they go and form this little pressure group called "Women against state pension inequality" - oddly named because they're not really for pension equality, they want inequality where they got to retire at the age of 60, whilst men had to work many more years. (And if anything, state pension equalisation led to greater equality, there is no reason why women should get to retire many years earlier than men, and if anything, the life expectancy of men is lower than that of women in this country.)

    Thankfully, they have been told no. Where they think the compensation comes from, but the cheek of thinking you are owed because of your own inability to check your state pension age.

    TLDR - we didn't bother to check our retirement age, made a stupid financial decision, the government must compensate me.
    I'M GONNA FIGHT 'EM ALL
    A SEVEN NATION ARMY COULDN'T HOLD ME BACK.......


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    Went into this shop that's closing soon today and it had cool liminal vibes inside. The lighting on the ground floor especially was really dim and weird vibe. Ceiling partly gone in places so you can just see up into the darkness above. Really dying mall kind of energy.

    This aesthetic (hair, glasses, hat etc,) is great:



    I haven't watched most of this video I just wanted to comment on the look lol. I started watching the next video below instead.

    I'm gonna be honest. While I do love your content. I literally clicked on this one for the freckles. The hair is super cute too, but omg, the freckles, the hair, the beanie. Eeek! ADORBS. 🥰
    Just started watching the vid but want to say I love your look here. You always look gorgeous but this lil minimal makeup with faux freckles vibe is so cute!!
    Lol yeah. I like the glasses too. Star freckles is a cool idea as well.



    "It's so unnecessary"

    Yeah but they do it because it's a classic song cover and they know it's going to get attention/conversation. Tbh I've never listened to Falling in Reverse afaik. I've heard of them before though but never knowingly listened to their music.

    "The emo accent"

    LOL

    your reaction to falling in reverse covering that song was the funniest thing I've seen this week 💀 that was fantastic. Needed that laugh. Thank you as always Dorian❤
    It is funny lol.

    Talking about Requiem for a Dream yeah I've not watched it because everyone says it's the most depressing film ever.

    "This is the one that went wrong it looks like electric bacon."

    Sounds like a band name lol.

    He says his tea was exceptionally nice but there was way too much milk in that for me or I dunno actually I've never drank Earl Grey as far as I remember so not sure what it looks like generally. Actually I often drink it black these days. I never would have while younger but at uni I sometimes ran out of milk and so ended up drinking it black a bunch. I put milk in if I'm planning on dipping in biscuits etc.

    "But I don't make it properly I put sugar and milk in my earl grey which is an abohrence."

    "The British have banished me I'm going to have to live on a small island in the middle of polar bear land."

    I think so.

    Crimes against tea.

    I've done it 4 times in my life and I'm done. I go by what Alan Watts said about drugs: once you get the message, hang up the phone. I got the message, i also noticed how hard it was on the body, and i closed that book. The message was to care about others' feelings but not at the cost of sacrificing my own.
    I like that.

    the rave scene loves to quote alan watts so much, and honestly it usually makes me roll my eyes. i know that sounds pretentious and it probably is. however, i hadn?t heard of this quote and i really like it. thank you for sharing
    I've never really listened to him but he has a very relaxing voice. A sample of him speaking was part of a music track I discovered years ago too which I liked.

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    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
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    Everybody got to deviate
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    I guessed Jinx but only because that was the only character from that whose name and image I noticed people bring up enough times that it stuck in my head + all the people asking Ashnikko to cosplay her at one point. Surprised she was the main character (she seems to have villain energy and villains can be main characters I guess but I dunno her vibe made me think she wouldn't be,) and for some reason I also thought Arcane was a video game like League of Legends but apparently it's a show I'm learning now.

    OK nevermind I see why I was confused now Jinx is a character in League of Legends and the show is based on her and Vi.

    Wait is there a video of Destiny sextape or something? Oh I guess that's what all the chatter was about before wasn't really paying attention. It's so weird to think about most YouTubers and streamers having sex I don't want to see that lol. Completly changes the dynamic. I don't watch his content but it would still be weird like I broke into his house or something.

    F1nn's face when she says "oh god" is great.
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    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
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    Everybody got to deviate
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    Was reading Christopher Lee's Wikipedia page and found this:

    In the late 1950s, Lee was engaged to Countess Henriette Ewa Agnes von Rosen, whom he had met at a nightclub in Stockholm.[157] Her father, Count Fritz von Rosen, proved demanding, getting them to delay the wedding for a year, asking his London-based friends to interview Lee, hiring private detectives to investigate him, and asking Lee to provide him with references, which Lee obtained from Douglas Fairbanks Jr., John Boulting, and Joe Jackson.[158] Lee found the meeting of her extended family to be like something from a surrealist Luis Bu?uel film, and thought they were "killing me with cream."[159] Finally, Lee had to have the permission of the King of Sweden to marry. Lee had met him some years before while filming*Tales of Hans Anderson, where he received his blessing.[159]*However, shortly before the wedding, Lee ended the engagement. He was concerned that his financial insecurity in his chosen profession meant that she "deserved better" than being "pitched into the dishevelled world of an actor." She understood, and they called the wedding off.[160]
    Was this just his polite way of rejecting her? Imagine going through all that effort only to decide you're not good enough.

    This is so completly alien to the attitudes of guys on social media now though who are often outraged about being rejected, outraged with women, or not trying in the first place, that it amuses me.

    Or maybe he wanted revenge for having to jump through so many hoops.That's something guys on social media would do, if they could lol.

    I guess back when guys had to get the father's permission they could probably delude themselves into believing they weren't being rejected by women.

    Women back then had to be realistic about marriage prospects -- that was their job, to find a husband who could provide for them. I wouldn't care now marrying someone who makes less than me, but that's because I can support and provide for myself.

    Marrying a poor actor then would have meant little food each night, trouble paying bills, etc, with no way to work and provide for yourself.
    Lol I don't think that was an issue for a countess somehow and poor women in the past often were expected to have lower standards, and marry whoever they could get. The best option obviously but they wouldn't have many choices near the bottom. Richer women had more choice so were actually pickier about class and wealth. Even if they weren't their family might be hence this entire story just before the sexual revolution.

    Since this is no longer a social expectation to the same degree:





    (The really stupid thing about this is he would have been a better fit for Mary than Elizabeth in the first place. He didn't like her specifically either he wanted to marry Jane as she's the most attractive but she pointed out that wasn't really an option because of Bingley so then picks the daughter least likely to go along with it and whose personality doesn't fit at all? She's really bad at this lol.)



    Women no longer give in to the pressure to marry people they're not attracted to... Mostly. It still seems to happen (especially sexually hence all the women who dont entirely to have sex with their partners but some people fix that by taking testosterone or therapy etc depends how serious it is.)

    They still had to work too - not working was a myth based on 20th century lifestyles after giving kids (that lasted only decades I think for poor women and probably not at all for the poorest,) and very rich women.

    Looking at women work force participation from the 1950's, almost 40% of the women worked. While I do agree with your point in general about not putting their decision in the context of todays standards, it's not like it was "find a providing husband or starve to death" situation for most, hardly for a daughter of a Count. I wouldn't be surprised if Lee actually just said "this aint happening because you deserve better" and she had to agree because what? she gonna force-marry him?
    Those are U.S. statistics
    Oh god is this redditor for real? In the UK both of my female grandparents worked before having kids. My nan worked in a sanatorium which is where she met my grandad (my dad joked recently that's why we're all mad lol,) but according to my dad my grandad wouldn't have let her work after they were married because of gender roles like if you can't support your family that was obviously considered a failure. I'm not sure what my grandma did some kind of secretarial work I think at a car company. She even made my mum get a job while she was still at school because when she was young that was the norm and you left school earlier.

    Of course it was irrelevant for a countess her family must have been loaded. People keep bringing up the money argument. SHE WAS A COUNTESS LOL.
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    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
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    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
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    Everybody got to deviate
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    Half baked idea on why global fertility rates are down

    I have a suspicion that standard, industrialized society working hours + women's entry into the workforce (and especially entry into jobs that were traditionally "male") is a huge part of the birthrate decline. The only commonalities I could find between almost every industrialized country with a declining birthrate is that:

    Work outside the home used to be men-only or men-predominately

    Working hours and conditions are geared to expect only one breadwinner (e.g. long days away from home)

    [...]

    If I'm right, (and I'm going to spend some time digging into stats because I really believe I might be on to something here), this would explain a few factors:

    Fertility rates are negatively correlated with women's education: more education = more job prospects = higher likelihood of working on a job traditionally worked by a single breadwinner. Two people working single breadwinner hours isn't conducive to family rearing
    Israel's fertility rate is pretty high and 64% of women there have a postgraduate degree (Edit: Nevermind I thought I read that before but it's just 64% of postgraduate students are women not women overall. I thought that sounded insane.)

    In the US, women with postgraduate degrees also have more kids:



    I think it's like 46% of people there who have a post-secondary degree but that's useless because 1. not showing percentage of women 2. Looking for people who have a masters degree or higher.

    According to a 2017 report from the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, Israel ranks number three on the shortlist for the most educated countries worldwide. The report is calculated by the country's population in the age bracket of those who graduated with post-secondary degrees. With Israel's population of over 8 million, about 50.9% of 25-64-year-old Israelis hold a 2 to 4-year higher degree, which includes academic and vocational programs.
    I guess the specifics don't particuarly matter though because the high level of education doesn't seem to impact the overall rate negatively as much as anywhere else.

    Currently, Israel is the only OECD country with a naturally growing population. Its birthrate--which, since 1980, has consistently hovered around three births per woman--is roughly double the still-declining OECD average and exceeds that of nearly every country outside of sub-Saharan Africa.
    In the US:

    Today, 47% of U.S. women ages 25 to 34 have a bachelor's degree, compared with 37% of men.
    In 2022, 12% of women in the United States earned an advanced degree, while 8% of men did. This is a 5% gender gap that favors women.
    It is women with undergraduate degrees or who don't graduate who have less kids. Not graduating uni/college results in lower fertility than graduating though if you go in the first place in the US at least.

    It seems incredibly complicated and definitely isn't as simple as 'women who are more educated have less kids.' People bring that point up all the time on that subreddit but don't think I've seen anyone mention the above stuff.

    Just so you know women of color have always worked…
    All poor women of every color have always worked. Doing all the domestic labor - all cooking, cleaning, and childcare - on top of working on the family farm is a huge amount of work that only the very wealthiest women didn't have to do. I'm not dismissing wealth inequalities across different races, but when people say "women didn't work" they are dismissing the massive amount of unpaid labor women have historically provided to men. A man could only ever work a full time job and still have a home and children because he had a woman providing the necessary labor to keep the rest of his life going. Imagine how much it would cost if a man had to pay a full time housekeeper, personal chef, nanny, nurse, chauffeur, and executive assistant to run his household.
    89,072 pounds per year aprox.

    It's a shame that mothers who stay home, consider themselves lucky when it's shouldn't be a lucky thing to be able to take care of your own kid.

    Try taking a baby from any other mother on the planet any creature. See what happens.

    I knew when mothers were putting weeks old babies with strangers, crying that they could get anybody to do anything

    Snakes, rats and tarantulas are better mothers than most American women
    Hmm no this is a very anthropocentric viewpoint I think.

    Humans are more socially complicated and closer to (but not entirely,) eusocial compared to a lot of other species. So not necessarily useful to compare (especially spiders wtf lol.)

    Probably why they adopt other species so often as well. Seems to start pretty young possibly because children often help raise younger children or did historically. Then that gets transferred to other cute animals I suspect (it often works better with other animals I think actually, because they're seen as more cute.) Lol:





    I mean I didn't say ideal caregivers lol...

    Eusociality (Greek εὖ eu "good" and social) is the highest level of organization of sociality. It is defined by the following characteristics: cooperative brood care (including care of offspring from other individuals), overlapping generations within a colony of adults, and a division of labor into reproductive and non-reproductive groups. The division of labor creates specialized behavioral groups within an animal society, sometimes called castes. Eusociality is distinguished from all other social systems because individuals of at least one caste usually lose the ability to perform behaviors characteristic of individuals in another caste. Eusocial colonies can be viewed as superorganisms.

    Eusociality has evolved among the insects, crustaceans, trematoda and mammals. It is most widespread in the Hymenoptera (ants, bees, and wasps) and in Blattodea (termites). A colony has caste differences: queens and reproductive males take the roles of the sole reproducers, while soldiers and workers work together to create and maintain a living situation favorable for the brood. Queens produce multiple queen pheromones to create and maintain the eusocial state in their colonies; they may also eat eggs laid by other females or exert dominance by fighting. There are two eusocial rodents: the naked mole-rat and the Damaraland mole-rat. Some shrimps, such as Synalpheus regalis, are eusocial. E. O. Wilson and others have claimed that humans have evolved a weak form of eusociality. It has been suggested that the colonial and epiphytic staghorn fern, too, may make use of a primitively eusocial division of labor.
    Scientists have debated whether humans are prosocial or eusocial.[45] Edward O. Wilson called humans eusocial apes, arguing for similarities to ants, and observing that early hominins cooperated to rear their children while other members of the same group hunted and foraged.[46] Wilson and others argued that through cooperation and teamwork, ants and humans form superorganisms.[47][48][49] Wilson's claims were vigorously rejected by critics of group selection theory, which grounded Wilson's argument,[46][50][51] and because human reproductive labor is not divided between castes.[50]

    Though controversial,[52] it has been suggested that male homosexuality[53] and female menopause[54] could have evolved through kin selection.[55][56] This would mean that humans sometimes exhibit a type of alloparental behavior known as "helpers at the nest", with juveniles and sexually mature adolescents helping their parents raise subsequent broods, as in some birds,[57] some non-eusocial bees, and meerkats.[58] These species are not eusocial: they do not have castes, and helpers reproduce on their own if given the opportunity.[59][48][60]
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alloparenting

    Alloparenting (or alloparental care) is a term for any form of parental care provided by an individual towards young that are not its own direct offspring. These are often called "non-descendant" young,[1] even though grandchildren can be among them.[2] Among humans, alloparenting is often performed by a child's grandparents and older siblings. Individuals providing this care are called by the neutral term "alloparent" (or "helper").[1]

    Alloparental care encapsulates a diverse range of parenting systems across a range of animal groups and social structures. The alloparent–young relationship can be mutualistic or parasitic, and between or within species. Cooperative breeding, joint brood care, reciprocal allonursing, brood parasitism and cuckoldry represent situations in which alloparenting plays a role.

    This form of parenting is often seen among humans. However, it is not as popular among other species. Alloparenting is rare among classes of animals such as birds and mammals, with only about 3% of mammals exhibiting this parenting style, but this does not mean it does not occur.[3][4] In species that alloparent, it has been seen that offspring grow at faster rates and are often weaned earlier.[5]
    Sperm whales (Physeter macrocephalus) are deep divers that exhibit alloparental care in the form of 'babysitting'. When the whales are young, they are not able to dive to and remain at the depths that their mothers frequent in order to graze and feed. Yet being left at the surface alone makes them vulnerable to predators like killer whales and sharks.[41] Sperm whale social groups appear to modulate their diving behaviour in order to provide alloparental care to young within the group and reduce the time they spend alone at the surface, at the same time allowing the mother greater foraging freedom. They do this by changing the synchronicity of their dives to limit the time a young whale spends alone.[41] As the 'babysitters' or alloparents dive and resurface the calves swim between them and therefore care is provided by a number of members within the social group.
    Basically what Humans do while they're accumulating resources (money,) and status.

    According to The US National Library of Medicine, alloparenting has proven to activate portions of the brain that are correlated with decreasing stress levels.[56]
    But yeah Humans aren't going to just hand their children to just anyone so the point is moot.

    Spiders are much less social and known to engage in canibalism. In some species of spiders the young will eat their mothers. It's called Matriphagy. Humans have obviously not evolved for that level of sacrifice. On the other hand it happens the other way around too:

    https://www.susqu.edu/live/news/786-...o-eat-their-yo

    "The wolf spider demonstrates extensive parental care," Persons said, "however, they may also abandon or cannibalize their egg sacs."

    Persons, along with Susquehanna alumna Megan Marchetti '11, currently a science teacher at Carlisle Area School District, found that the older the female wolf spider, the less likely she was to cannibalize or abandon her young.
    "Some animals, when one of their offspring is weak, will cannibalize that offspring in order to devote their full energy to those that are more likely to survive," Persons explained. "Our findings support the theory that, as animals age and become less likely to produce future young, they are less likely to cannibalize or abandon the ones they have, regardless of how likely those offspring are to survive."
    https://northernwoodlands.org/outsid...le/spider-moms

    All spiders lay eggs and wrap them with silk into some kind of egg sac. Most spider species wrap their eggs completely, making a tidy bundle, but some spin just a few threads that barely hold their egg clutches together. Egg sacs are often distinctive in color and shape and can even be used to identify a species. More elaborate egg sacs might comprise multiple layers of wrapping, including extra tough silk or colored silk, or even incorporating soil or sticks. For most spider mothers, finishing an egg sac is where their parental duties end. But for some, the parenting journey is just beginning.
    Human childbirth is also a lot worse than for other mammals so requires quite a lot of investment in the first place but not as much as the spiders who get eaten.
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    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
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    Everybody got to deviate
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    SC GOP Reintroduces Bill to Punish People Getting Abortions With Death Penalty
    This week MAGA extremists in South Carolina introduced a bill mandating the death penalty for women who seek an abortion. And I am guessing this is probably the first you’ve heard about it. Sadly, corporate media remains criminally silent on these grotesque attacks on women’s health and basic rights. It is critical we remain aware of these threats, because they are real, and that we remain active in responding to these threats in real time. Let’s Address This.
    I looked and apparently about 42% of South Carolina are pro choice. It would make me very happy if they all left the state and it just collapsed.

    "i love babies, and I don't care how many mothers I have to kill to protect them"
    Pro-lifeing them right to death
    Lol.

    They don't care how many of the babies they later kill through their other policy decisions either.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
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    This is just straight up venting honestly.

    I'm a 29 old male. For some reason I'm not attracted to what many men are attracted to: feminine, cute, short girls. I do not feel sexual or romantic attraction towards them, and I can very well be a friend with one but they're not really a partner material for me.

    I've had one relationship before, and it lasted four years. My ex was my height, physically fit and slightly dominant. She liked guys with long hair and not too tall, so we fit each other very well. After we separated and I got over her, I started to look for girls to date, and met a few, but nothing ever developed and I simply don?t find romantic interest in them, other than that I don?t want to be single forever.

    I even started wondering if I might be gay, but I'm definitely not. No attraction towards men whatsoever.

    I realized that, even as a teenager, I always fantasized that my girlfriend would be tall and slightly masculine, someone like a peer to me. As if the traditional roles were a bit reversed. I don?t know why that is. I know it's weird. I sometimes wish I had more common taste, so that I could more easily find people to date, but it is what it is.

    It's been two years single now. The dating pool for people like me seems near non-existent, but I was lucky once. How do I go about trying to find a compatible match?
    Yeah I'm stuck in a similar but opposite kind of hell where I prefer guys with long hair who are androgynous. Unfortunately I'm non-binary and also short and 'cute' which is completly wrong for my gender/gender expression.

    I don't present femme though and one guy in my past nit picked me about not wearing dresses (among other things,) but I'm kind of grossed out by being in a heteronornative relationship I've realised (maybe thats not it I dunno. There are several overlapping problems which make me functionally borderline asexual, but regardless dating guys felt wrong anyway.) Which means I'd prob have to date a more feminine person somehow so they don't see me that way? Impossible almost unless I date femme woman and even then I'm still 5'2"

    Like this couple (Not that I'm like either of them I'm more alternative too when not completely apathetic and not giving a fuck,):



    I doubt I'd be happy being expected to be 100% masculine either.

    I don't know its weird having multiple conflicting preferences regarding my own role and the people I'm attracted to and then my personality which doesn't work anyway and I have the sex appeal of a potato (regardless of gendered standards,) and so on.

    Imagine like early 2000s Avril (mostly because I just went back to a previous page in this thread to find a video link lol,) but I'm 33, don't wear makeup including eyeliner, if I leave the house I have to wear glasses (which I have not changed since 2010 so they're still like rectangular ones - completely out of style and I don't care but I do personally think other glasses are attractive these days,) and I have 0 swag and less attractive face. Nerdy Avril. We have a similar build I think. That's me atm especially with my current hair cut that will eventually be going (I'm still in a competition to grow it to my waist just to say I did but it's driving me insane and it's approaching borderline self harm.)



    You see how much confidence she had? I don't have that either. This isn't a good video showing what I mean. I picked this one because:

    Strangely, she looks very sad
    And eventually she agreed and started being more bubbly.

    That's the superficial aesthetic though.

    Basically it's that trans guy who never medically transistioned kind of vibe not Avril me I'm trying to describe the collage of my cursed existence (very select group, also some trans guys are like this too but have medically transistioned) rather than tomboy (but I put in so little effort to my aethetic now lol. I'm hoping to change that over the next 2-3 years and have more alien stuff.) But again without the confidence in my case. That works a lot better on people who aren't me and don't give a [BEEP] about other people (and are more confident,) case in point (he is a genderfluid trans guy he's made videos about this to be clear I'm not outing someone):



    Omg I forgot but days ago my brother said I looked like this guy from Conan. I've forgotten his name. James Earl Jones played him? because of my hair and I was wearing a dressing gown over a jacket because it was so cold. Thulsa Doom. I haven't watched that film. He was just sat there laughing for like 5 minutes.

    He comes up with the weirdest [BEEP] lol. I prefered grunge musician.

    I like how based on what I've said you would have no idea how to picture me now lol. I am actually white though not black.

    I am an evil wizard though. That part is true.

    I am the void itself.

    I was looking for a meme but then found this:



    Is mermaids a video game or something? If not I used to do this as a kid roleplaying by myself lol.





    "While I seek to enslave the other, the other seeks to enslave me."

    "It's quite a cynical view of personal relationships"

    Oh no what he described is a perfect description of how psychologists/therapists etc say people with schizoid personality disorder view relationships. Like the slave/master/exile dynamic but I'm too lazy to search around right now.

    I vaguely remember someone elso pointing out an overlap between existential philosophy and the disorder too.

    I like the art style of this meme. It makes me think of some kind of retro video game or something.

    Ha! My ex said he likes tomboys too.

    He ended up leaving me cuz I wasn't feminine enough. Including old fashioned gendered roles.

    Good luck my friend. You'll find her.
    A guy who kept telling me to wear dresses and commenting on my masculine traits, also that I wasn't traditional in some ways started dating a mildly tomboyish woman with short hair lol.

    I've posted about him too much but he was very confusing because he was quite traditional in some ways, and did that but then one time asked me to save him from a spider and called me his hero on facebook?

    I think I just come across as socially weird to people and that's the main problem and social anxiety is a major problem unless you're comfortable in that role that sticks you into. The problem is bigger than that though it's like I didn't come with any kind of scripts preinstalled that other people have. Another reason to suspect I have undiagnosed autism honestly.

    I couldn't have dated that guy anyway by that point as I'd broken up with someone else in our social circle. Too messy.

    Date a bisexual girl
    Most of them are feminine. Everyone in this thread has different and confusing definitions of every term. I hate communication now honestly.

    I'm a feminine male with a masculine female. It's great. I recommend looking for females in a male dominated career path. Engineers/scientists. Military is a decent place. You might also check the woods. If a wild female ranger appears, let her know you're in heat.

    Feminists are fun, and easy to find. Look for the girl in shorts with her legs unshaved.
    Haha, straight to the point! Glad you found your other half!

    I work in IT, pretty male dominated, The few girls we have are nerdy, but feminine. Except for one lesbian. I don't want to date someone from work though, it seems like a life complication.
    Nah I don't shave my legs but I'm still nerdy. I can imagine the type. I bet he's looking for someone who works out and is sporty and socially confident so nerdy women are masculine in the wrong way and too feminine overall. Military would probably work though yeah.

    Sports tomboy or like kinda nerdy tomboy?
    Is there a big difference? My ex was both sporty and worked in IT, so I guess both are okay? I exercise regularly myself and I am a bit nerdy, so I guess both can be a common interest for me.
    Lol yeah huge difference. One is a tomboy the other is a 'trans woman' or femboy even if they're a cis woman, or your coworkers most likely:



    Lol no but sometimes. We live in the reality where people get annoyed that you're not a femboy and maybe call you transphobic. For cosplaying Link? Completely defeats the point of the character design which was purposefully designed in an androgynous way so anyone could identify with him. We've also now invented 'femme tomboy' apparently:

    if you look at the way he sits but also speaks and look at the body language you will see what he is
    if she wore a swimsuit you'd stop saying such things as your jaw would drop to the floor.
    pretty sure I wouldn't because clothes have nothing to do with what I'm reading with my eyes
    Nah, Emiru's a Femme Tomboy. Not a full tomboy cus she occasionally dresses like a girl, but mostly a tomboy.
    Feel like I'm reading an entry on urban dictionary.



    I was curious after stumbling on some videos by her where she talked about this but seemingly for the past 4 years or so on/off she has to deal with guys demanding to know if she's 'really female' and the complete opposite people getting annoyed that she's not a femboy. Because she does cosplay basically. I noticed this before stumbling on her with other people online though. There was this British YouTuber in the late 2000s/early 2010s who had a bunch of people insisting this.

    I was fascinated because it's like people who are visually passing as female but more popular with male viewers and they think this is either funny or... They genuinely believe it sometimes (though you can find similar people irl in some environments who will say similar things even back in the early 2010s,) and the British YouTuber was before the femboy subculture took off too. It's always someone with the same kind of appearence and mannerisms. Like clearly female and more feminine than butch, but slightly boyish with more nerdy guy interests.

    Then people start reacting this way.



    How are you? What?

    What is this? Was there a meeting somewhere?

    Anyway and it sort of happened with shoeonhead too lol. She also has a lower voice I guess.

    If you ever come out as trans or non-binary though they will insist you are the opposite of whatever you say obviously. Or if they don't pay much attention or you don't show photos they will just think you're a trans woman again because they think all trans people are trans women. That happens on twitter.

    "Are you a girl?"
    "Depends. Which answer is more likely to make you to leave my stream and never come back".

    "Because whichever it is, it's that one".
    Lol.

    https://www.sportskeeda.com/esports/...-twitch-stream

    Good to know there are people out there who feel similar! Hope you're happy with your partner! Sometimes it feels like I'm all alone in this, and it's even awkward to bring it up with someone.

    My ex also sometimes wore a skirt (when it was hot) or would put makeup on (when attending some social gathering) but most days she wore gender-neutral clothes and no makeup. It's not as much about appearance itself as it is about the relationship dynamic I think. Feeling valued and appreciated for who you are, not for who you pretend to be. Although clothing can signal such preferences I guess.
    Mostly I feel shy about it, to be honest. It feels like I don't dare to mention it when I meet someone, because it sounds weird and somewhat inappropriate, like some kind of kink. Not something you bring up on the first date. Maybe I'm too self-conscious.

    I do have a Bumble account, but not much luck on it so far. I post my pictures there so one can see I have long hair, but I mostly write about my interests in there, as in sports, gaming, music. It feels like it's hard enough to get a match without making it weird.
    It is a preference, but an uncommon one, or so it feels. One does risk getting rejected when opening up about personal feelings. It is a bit hard.

    I guess you are right, in of itself it's nothing to be ashamed of. However, it feels as though all the girls I dated (other than my ex) had these expectations on what a relationship role is, and it just feels like I would immediately disappoint them if I was honest. As if telling a teacher you forgot your homework or something.

    I am actually looking for D&D groups near me! Not for dating as such, but for socializing and gaming. Perhaps one can find someone there. I will continue with Bumble, but I think your suggestions make sense and I can modify my profile a bit.
    I guess you could try getting advice from the role reversal subreddit but there are no dating sites or anything like that. It's also not quite what he's looking for since he said he's looking for a peer.

    Please checkout r/rolereversal you will find your crowd there
    Lol I just said that then read this but the thing is when I go there I mostly just find arguing because people vary in how they deviate from gender norms in all kind of ways and so there's complaing about women who want to have strap on sex, there's complaining because like me most of the women there aren't that masculine or muscular which is preferred, most of the guys aren't femboys and complain about that. There's complaining. For some reason there's a bunch of guys who go there when the only thing they really want is just to be cuddled/shown affection which is messed up and says a lot about modern relationships And Northern European/Germanic cultures combined really.

    Also lot so of the negtives of progressive culture there which is like subtly sex negative and naggy 'stop sexualising people' kind of thing. And finally still no real advice on where to find people. But I don't go there reguarly that's just what I've ran into several times.

    Technically though it is sort of the place to go though. Technically.

    Damn, that's like the story of my life. I understand you very much since I'm also a more masculine and buff woman (not tall though) whose only type are feminine men with long hair. I never ever managed to find a straight guy who would fit into my criteria and it was frustrating as hell. While I am sorry that you experience the same pain as me, I am also glad that I'm not the only one with this problem, since it is really confusing and makes you wonder if something's wrong with you. We do exist though, even if we are few, just keep on looking.
    A lot of this resonates with me, I'm a guy with some feminine traits who absolutely loves tomboys, and I wish there was a way to easily find women with more masculine traits through the standard apps.

    My previous relationship was with a woman who was pretty feminine in appearance, but had some masculine and dominant traits. We talked about fantasies and kinks, and I told her I have a thing for tomboys / tomboy traits. She turned out to be enthusiastic about indulging in this fantasy for me! Whenever we'd hang out at home from that point onwards she'd wear gym shorts, boxer briefs, no bra / sports bra, baggy t-shirts / hoodies, no makeup, etc.

    It drove me wild.

    This is just to say you can craft something you want too, as opposed to limiting yourself to only searching specifically for it.
    Hahaha force masc your girlfriend. I don't feel comfortable doing that though and my ex even refused to wear eyeliner one time I asked. Not a good idea to view people as projects really.

    Women are (on average) unfortunately more agreeable though. Put aside their own preferences more. But if they really dislike something they might do it and resent you later.

    Also I was curious as I realised this thread was from 2 years ago and the OP is still single (or single again,) but posting on the role reversal subreddit. Apparently he liked it when guys catcalled him and assumed he and his ex were lesbians in the past or people mistook him for a girl. He said it made him feel more confident about being attractive to his ex because they they thought he was attractive but as a girl? I think his reaction to that was interesting (in that most guys wouldn't feel that way.) But he likes working out and looking more masculine now + he's 30+ so hoping to find someone OK with both.

    I've only been in one relationship so far, it was RR and she initiated it, mostly. While I'm into RR, I have no idea how to bring it up to a girl without it becoming awkward. It does limit my interactions with women, the fear of being judged or seen as a weirdo takes away the courage to initiate romantic contact.

    I guess it is easier for girls to break gender norms and take the lead than for men to do the opposite. You can see a lot of strong-willed girls in media being celebrated, but not often men who embrace their feminine side, for example.
    Unless you are very socially confident it's not easy having to ask people out no. That's why sapphic women often end up in this situation where no one takes the initiative or escalates anything. You know like the 4chan greentext post I posted yesterday lol.

    As to being perceived as weird, I agree overall. I was a goth in high school. [...] It stood out extra because I was a boy, the only goth at school, where we had about 3 goth girls. It's easy to ignore prejudice and haters precisely because you don't care about their opinion. That's good, I did that for years. But when a love interest is involved, their opinion of you matters, because you want to attract them. Your love life is at stake.

    Paradoxically, a girl got attracted to me because I was a goth and asked me out, but I refused. I had no interest in dating in high school. She had this kinda pastel-anime thing going on. Sometimes I wonder what would have been if I agreed to date her. Oh well.
    I feel really confident somehow that I would have been into him back then and he would have rejected me or otherwise made it really clear (before even getting to that point lol,) that he wasn't into me even in an insulting way like some people I knew in my past lol. Not that I've ever liked pastel colours but yeah I just know.



    It's snowing in Birmingham? Oh wait this video is 4 weeks ago nm it was snowing here too back then.
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    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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    They also say that the bottom 80 percent of men are "left to fight for the bottom 20% of females. This works out for about 70% of the males, leaving just 10% of the males to struggle for the bottom 10% of females, who only want access to the top 20% of males."
    This isn't the same thing as sex obviously but 20% of women don't reproduce. This has remained relatively stable over time and even before they started keeping records of various things there's evidence of that.

    So basically since many women would have sex/relationships with guys they're not that into to have kids, or because they were pressured by family/society, there's still some percentage that never does.

    I dont think they were ever going to have sex or even a sexless relationship with those guys.

    Like I said (in a previous post I may or may not have deleted,) Humans are kind of but not entirely eusocial.

    I also want to point out that historically, it was quite normal for about*15-20% of women to have no children. So 20% failing to reproduce is on the high end, but not historically anomalous. What*is*weird is for the people who*do*have children to have so few. Given that the average US woman has fewer children than she wants, I think there's room to improve this. If just 15% of the women who*already have at least one child*would have one additional kid, that alone would boost this sample's TFR by .23, to 2.1, so replacement level. A TFR of ~1.6(which is the more commonly accepted TFR) would require about 1/3 of women who already have at least one child having an additional kid.
    TIL that throughout history, about 80 percent of women reproduced, whereas only 40 percent of men did
    If Humans were entirely eusocial some portion would lose the physiological ability to reproduce, and would not be unhappy about not having sex and/or children as they often are. They would also be less destructive.

    Female school shooters are in the bottom 20% of women and the bottom 20% of men I guess. They shouldn't be in the latter but they get placed there nonetheless. Because people refuse to see extreme behaviour as female and hell even being very political is considered as being like a man by right wing men...

    https://archive.nytimes.com/tierneyl...cky-questions/

    "If you make a list of activities that are done in large groups, you are likely to have a list of things that men do and enjoy more than women: team sports, politics, large corporations, economic networks, and so forth."
    Men go to extremes more than women, and that fits in well with culture using them to try out lots of different things, rewarding the winners and crushing the losers.
    You can probably as with most things replace women somewhat with 'liberal,' or 'creative.' But that's less easy. So "female killers are man-women" happens instead. Tbf "liberal women are man-women" also happens and "right wing women are man-women"

    In other words, incels see themselves as that bottom 10 percent, and view their celibate status as a mathematical problem that's rigged against them. It's clear that this fixation also translates into an obsession over not just the sexual privilege that more attractive people have, but the financial one -- it?s precisely because of her looks that Stacy can afford to carry a $2,000 Gucci bag, while Becky?s stuck with her $5 backpack because her selfies aren?t as hot. It?s no surprise, then, that some incels have called for a version of*"sexual Marxism,"*or a system in which every person is somehow matched with a partner of a similar level of wealth and attractiveness.
    Will never happen. Only technology is new Human behaviour never is. This would be new so instead you will get sex robots and artifical wombs. Eventually.



    Do you think Bjork would have had a kid if she wasn't a famous musician? I ask myself this question everyday (no I don't lol.)

    Grimes only had kids with Elon Musk though because of an AI techbro joke:



    But sometimes it's probably better not to reproduce with the top 1% of men and this was certainly one of those times in my incredibly biased opinion.

    I mean I know David Bowie was dead by the time you were thinking about it probably, which meant you couldn't steal his uh fluids for Satanic rituals as Jimmy Page suggested (plus the antichrist was already born as I said before Marilyn Manson.) But still.

    David Bowie used to store his urine in a fridge as he feared that Jimmy Page and a satanic coven planned to steal his bodily fluids to conceive the Antichrist
    Bowie became convinced that because*Page owned the former home of black-magic*philosopher Aleister Crowley, who he believed was in cahoots with the witches and was paranoid that they were out to get him and, more crucially, drain him of his fluid. Page?s affiliation with Crowley has seen him accused of numerous otherworldly misdemeanours, including allegedly backmasking satanic messages in Led Zeppelin songs. With this knowledge seemingly at the forefront of Bowie's cooked cerebral cortex, he stocked up his fridge with urine in an erratic bid to keep his soul pure.


    I guess it was less of a direct genetic link than a creative one ...



    (Yes I am going to keep bringing this Bowie anecdote up it's fucking hilarious and no I dont think Marilyn Manson is the antichrist. I don't believe in that belief system except for amusement purposes and it's all very 1999.)

    Elon is rich but is he really the 'top 1%' if most people aren't attracted to him? Or if he's not the best musician? Or if he doesn't have great hair? Depends on the competition, I guess.

    I'll just pretend she had kids with Chelsea Manning I guess.

    She had two kids by surrogate.

    It's much more entertaining for me.



    This means we will never know that's fair. Louis is the only one who could get this info. Though this is a BBC thing so...

    Damn this post should have ended with 'I'll just pretend she had kids with Chelsea Manning I guess.' Now this entire post is ruined just like my disrupted sleep.

    I mean I don't need/want to know (my own opinion is it never happened anyway.) It's just if I was the 'demon' from The Witching Hour book by Anne Rice I would do that.

    From the author of the extraordinary Vampire Chronicles comes a huge, hypnotic novel of witchcraft and the occult through four centuries.

    Demonstrating, once again, her gift for spellbinding storytelling and the creation of legend, Anne Rice makes real for us a great dynasty of witches--a family given to poetry and to incest, to murder and to philosophy; a family that, over the ages, is itself haunted by a powerful, dangerous, and seductive being.

    On the veranda of a great New Orleans house, now faded, a mute and fragile woman sits rocking ... and*The Witching Hour*begins.

    It begins in our time with a rescue at sea.**Rowan Mayfair, a beautiful woman, a brilliant practitioner of neurosurgery--aware that she has special powers but unaware that she comes from an ancient line of witches--finds the drowned body of a man off the coast of California and brings him to life.**He is Michael Curry, who was born in New Orleans and orphaned in childhood by fire on Christmas Eve, who pulled himself up from poverty, and who now, in his brief interval of death, has acquired a sensory power that mystifies and frightens him.

    As these two, fiercely drawn to each other, fall in love and--in passionate alliance--set out to solve the mystery of*her*past and*his*unwelcome gift, the novel moves backward and forward in time from today's New Orleans and San Francisco to long-ago Amsterdam and a chateau in the France of Louis XIV.**An intricate tale of evil unfolds--an evil unleashed in seventeenth-century Scotland, where the first "witch," Suzanne of the Mayfair, conjures up the spirit she names Lasher ... a creation that spells her own destruction and torments each of her descendants in turn.

    From the coffee plantations of Port au Prince, where the great Mayfair fortune is made and the legacy of their dark power is almost destroyed, to Civil War New Orleans, as Julien--the clan's only male to be endowed with occult powers--provides for the dynasty its foothold in America, the dark, luminous story encompasses dramas of seduction and death, episodes of tenderness and healing.**And always---through peril and escape, tension and release--there swirl around us the echoes of eternal war: innocence versus the corruption of the spirit, sanity against madness, life against death.**With a dreamlike power, the novel draws us, through circuitous, twilight paths, to the present and Rowan's increasingly inspired and risky moves in the merciless game that binds her to her heritage. And in New Orleans, on Christmas Eve, this strangest of family sagas is brought to its startling climax.
    I haven't watched the show and heard it wasn't good (I really don't recommend it based what I've heard if you haven't read the book,) which is a shame because the book is really an epic.

    I think liminality is a recurring theme in lot of her work but since she wrote gothic fiction that would make sense. Not just life and death but child and adult etc too. Also gender/sexuality a bit. Lots of ambiguity.


    The more I read The Witching Hour the angrier I get about the series

    Book Spoilers Allowed

    I started reading The Witching Hour before the series was announced. I was so excited for a true gothic horror series about witches…then I watched Mayfair Witches.

    I don’t need to go into why. Anyone who read the books and saw the series know what is wrong with it. I really wanted to like it too, but after Rowan’s cringey meltdown over Ciprean taking the key and I immediately gave up.

    When season 2 of IWTV was announced I started reading the Vampire Chronicles and became more involved with the fandom. It really blew my mind that that series could be so incredible and Mayfair Witches so bad. But I guess the difference is that Rolin and Mark love Interview and are passionate about it, Mayfair Witches has no love or passion whatsoever.

    I started listening to the audiobook and got engrossed in the story once more. It is so fucking good and it makes me even angrier that the series is so bad. It feels almost insulting that they ignored the nuance and most important plot points and details, and did away with Michael and Aaron because for some reason Rowan needed more agency (nevermind the fact that they are crucial to the plot and vastly different characters with different motivations).

    They genuinely didn't give a [BEEP] about the source material or their audience. They probably think we wouldn’t bother reading the book and therefore wouldn’t care. As for those who haven't read the book, they probably thought they wouldn't care if it was good or bad.

    It might blow their minds that audiences like to be taken seriously, even if they don’t read the books.
    I read somewhere, not sure if it’s true, that the awesome show runner for IWTV got wind of the project and asked for it, bc he always wanted to do it, is a life-long big big fan. We got so lucky. Mayfair seems like someone was assigned the project by AMC against their will, thinks books are stupid, actively provokes fans for giggles, hates their cast, doesn’t believe in costuming, just phoned in the whole fucking thing
    This makes me very sad (still) because I haven't read the books since I was a teenager (and never did read the 2nd or 3rd book thoroughly, (but I know it has the potential to be really great,) if they care about costumes and sets (important) and stop trying to girlbossify it or whatever they are doing...

    This just means someone hopefully will have to reboot it if the film industry ever improves again...

    I think it'd because The Vampire Chronicles is the more popular series esp the first book which has been turned into a film before. So it has more attention and fans. The first Lives of the Mayfair witches book is very long, they are all very sexual (which gen z are getting bored with,) and very dark (moreso than I remember the vampire books I read being yes even factoring in Claudia and the presence of Satan in a later book.)

    But yeah despite everything the way she described New Orleans was what interested me about the city in the first place and she the inclusion of like Spoiler: another species basically that she invented like a subbranch of Humanity with the taltos was very interesting as that was basically her own creation very loosely referencing Hungarian mythology (the name she took from that I think,) whereas she rebooted vampires in an interesting and new way by making the audience identify with them (the first to do that I think,) but they were a staple in gothic fiction and folklore before that and were already quite established in their traits by the time she was writing that.

    It's like if someone ruined Harry Potter or LoTR honestly... But then they haven't, they? Supposedly The Ring Of Power show isn't great but I still have to watch it (the aesthetics didn't work for me in the trailer tbh,) but at least the film trilogy exists which are really great I think. Also I couldn't get through those books as a teen so can't compare but they seem like great films in their own right at least.

    The Harry Potter films were also good except for all the stuff they cut from Order of the Phoenix which I wanted to see visually represented like some stuff in the ministry of magic. I did think the books were better but they were still decent films. That universe was more ruined by the author for me lol.

    Absolutely. This is exactly what happened to me - recently re-read all the Witching Hour books and was so excited about the show - especially because IWTV was so good. Couldn’t even make it past the first 3 episodes and was just ranting the whole time. I don’t mind adaptations - clearly IWTV isn’t like the books in many ways but it’s all an improvement imho. The changed they made to Mayfair are nonsensical to me - the casting is bad, some of the choices make absolutely no sense at all. Like I get we can’t have all the incest and molesting (tho there is a smidge of incest in IWTV) but to get rid of Michael and Julian is bizarre. I could go on and on but it’s interrupting my 3rd rewatch of IWTV ….lol
    That's kind biphobic no lol but seriously I remember Julian being one of my favourite characters when I was a teenager (as problematic as it all is,) and why can't you have that stuff? Game of Thrones did. The book was adult rated (though I read it at about age 13 XD my mum just bought the first one when I asked in a book shop without inquiring,) so make an adult TV show......



    "I grew up reading Anne Rice novels"

    Lol she says this in another video "I used to write my own porn bitch."

    (I'm not into drag culture at all personally, this is actually one of the very few drag queens I've seen stuff from because of YT clips lol which makes it better.)

    Oh no I know, it's very problematic. I just don't care.

    And how is any of it supposed to work without Michael? Like if you just wanted to make a show about witches you should have just done that and called it something else

    They're definitely going to remove Mona too because she was so problematic being 13 but since I read the books as a teen I thought she was cool lol ... Eh I still find women like that cool tbh (personality wise,) like Aella. It's not my personality at all (outside of being perverted in a creative sense) because I'm very avoidant and risk averse and picky but yeah that's why I enjoy it vicariously most likely.

    I actually would kinda dig a video game. I dunno how it’d work but it would have to start with Suzanne calling Lasher and then each generation. I’d like to be able to play as Lasher too, and be able to do things “behind the family’s back” to achieve his aims etc
    Yes I feel like different pov would be epic! I’m telling you a video game would be so cool and it would do so well.
    Oh yeah that would be cool.

    On a related note I'm reading this Star Trek fanfic right now which I'm enjoying except there seems to be this female antagonist who is cast in a villain like role so far basically because she's some kind of rival love interest and described as a nymphomaniac it feels very 2D especially the parts from her pov. Luckily she doesn't seem so far to be a major character I think but it's like the female equivalent of men writing women. Women writing women. You've just created this strawperson where you can clearly see both the author's morality and inability maybe to get into the head of a character like that?

    It's like when someone writes slash (male homoerotica,) fanfiction and writes female characters in a way where you know they hate them, and often kill them off, except this isn't slash and she created the character at least.

    One amusing thing is it was written in 2009 but the character is called Karen lol.
    The impulse is pure
    Sometimes our circuits get shorted
    By external interference

    Signals get crossed
    And the balance distorted
    By internal incoherence

    A tired mind become a shape-shifter
    Everybody need a mood lifter
    Everybody need reverse polarity

    Everybody got mixed feelings
    About the function and the form
    Everybody got to deviate
    From the norm

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